hi palindrome. you (or your baby's caregiver) have started your baby off on the wrong foot.
1. sarongs - this method becoming less & less popular as it involves rocking the baby to sleep. i'm sure you know of or have read about the potential implications of rocking on baby's developing brain. not saying if this is wrong becos i know a lot of mothers still doing - only that once you rock your baby to sleep, your baby will keep expecting to be rocked becos they're used to it.
2. bed - you should never allow your baby to sleep with you on the bed becos of the potential of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) e.g. adult sleeping on baby. also, your baby is now used to sleeping with adults. it will take extra effort on your part to wean her off this habit & start letting her sleep on her own cot
how old is your baby? the time spent on "reprogramming" your baby will depend on how old he/she is & how long they've been on the old routine.
you should go through this thread again - i posted a sample routine that i have been following since my baby was almost 2 months. on it, my baby can
weaning your baby off sleeping with adults is a little tricky. for the next 2 weeks at least, you need to prepare yourself mentally for a lot of crying & fussing as your baby adjusts to the new routine.
- sleep in his own cot without rocking from caregiver (he still requires patting, which is fine)
- sleep in the afternoons
- fall asleep on his own in the evenings
- sleep through the night (min 7 - 8 hours in a stretch)
when you lay baby into cot for sleep, you need to pat them & stay by their side until they're truly asleep. for the first 3 - 4 days, be prepared to have to stay / sleep by their cot (not joking) becos your baby will wake intermittently throughout their nap / sleep & they will start screaming becos they're unfamiliar with cot.
NEVER let them keep crying esp in their cot - they will start to be afraid of being left alone, & esp connect the cot to their fears, then they will be afraid of the cot.
it will be difficult at first esp if baby is very used to old routine ... but nothing is impossible. set your mind on adjusting their schedule & give baby and yourself at least 2 weeks - 1 month leeway for everything to settle down.
good luck! let us know how you're getting along!