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This is a discussion on Cry it out sleep training(ferber's method) within the Newborn Baby and Infant Care (up to 12 months old) forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; as above. anyone tried? care to share the experience? my girl has always been able to fall asleep on her ...
as above. anyone tried? care to share the experience?
my girl has always been able to fall asleep on her own after nursing but recently dont know why she cry the moment i put her on bed.. so i nurse and put her on bed and then she cry, i pick her up, nurse and put her on bed and continue till i very piss off with her. now if she starts to cry after i put her on her bed i will just let her cry it out and check in on her every 10mins or so...im doing this for her naps and night sleep. so far so good but then i cant do this in the midnight when she wakes cos hubby is sleeping...if i dont let her CIO when she wakes midnight, is it not gonna work??
interested to hear some CIO method stories... hehe
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I'm not very sure if what I did with my son was 'cry it out' method. But when it's bedtime, we wipe him, change into PJs, dim the lights & leave him in the cot. If he wants to play, then he'll just play on his own. If he wants to cry & fuss, we'll just let him cry & fuss.
But I remember he did not cry/fuss much. Only once or twice in the whole week. & when he cry until very bad (my mum can't take it, must go see what's wrong) then we will just talk to him while sitting beside the baby cot. No touching/patting/carrying. Just talk to him in soothing tone until he falls asleep.
It's easier to set night time routine so she knows it's time to sleep. Wipe her, change clothes, read a book/sing a lullaby & leave her to sleep on her own. My friend tried this method since day 1 & she's having positive results now (her gal is 7-8 weeks old). I think you need to just harden your heart & seek husband's understanding that this is the training phase.
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i told hubby and he say she is still too young for watever training and that im too strcit on her!. hai!
ive been following the same bedtime routine since day 1 also. results? hmm.. she goes to bed easily. thats the positive results . have not sleep through the night though. sometimes she does but not always. maybe 50% of the time
yah my girl has a bedtime routine as well and after going into bed and switching off the lights she knows she cant leave her cot no matter what lol. she seldom cry or resist bedtime also. has always been very smooth. but when she cries, i usually leave her alone.. go in and rub rub her chest after 10mins or so if she still crying which is rare anyway. but im wondering how to deal with their wakings at midnight? cos we are sleeping also .. if let her cry then hubby cant sleep?
Basically you must find out what is the problem at night and fix it. For my boy he stopped waking up in the middle of the night after 3weeks. My mum discovered that he wakes up because he is hungry & nothing else, so we delibrately increased feeding amount and interval the few hours before bedtime so he'll be full.
I know some babies wake up for 'security' because they feel insecure or scared. My boy was wrapped up so tight it feels like someone is hugging him. & the way I wrap, so matter how he struggle, it won't come off. I only leave 1 hand out for him to have some 'freedom'.
Then when he was abit older & did not wanna be wrapped, we used a sleeping bag (grobag). it keeps him nice & snuggled inside, so he feels secure. But i realised it's not very good when he starts to walk cos he cant walk in it. He'll trip n fall. & he had a teething doll called "kami doll" & he will hug it to sleep. He loves it. Nap time he also hug it to sleep, when he go out, he'll hug it too (& imagine i bought PINK cos it was on offer & cheaper than the other colours).
So I gave him my blanket which my grandmother sewn for me when i was a baby. It was my smell from so many years. & the material is thick n soft, just like the grobag. So when he sleeps with it, you can see him smiling in his sleep!
Now he's already 2.5yo, he dont wanna the small baby blanket anymore. So i had sewn for him a bigger Thomas the Train blanket which he loves. Cos 'his Thomas' is sleeping with him. & he feels secure with it.
you need to find solutions to the problem and it'll be fixed
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wah so good he found his lovey! ive been trying to introduce my girl some loveys but she dosent seem interested in any..she dosent like to be wrapped up since born.. in the hospital they wrap her very tightly n she cant escape but at home i wrap her she always manage to free herself n during wrapping she sure scream till there is no tomorrow.. so i stopped..
i dont know why she wakes in fact. im sure she is not hungry midnight. morning 5-6am wakes MIGHT be hungry but might not be also.. cos sometimes i pat her a bit she will go back to sleep without a feed in the early morning but sometimes she will scream her head off so i will feed her.. midnight usually put her down she will continue to sleep(she always wake up then immediately pull the side of the cot n kneel down watching me).
for 2 nights she has been sleeping very well (9pm-6.30am) then wake up for feed. coincidentally, she has been taking lots of solids on these days. might be related lol. shall monitor. anyway i realise even at 6.30am she wakes up, i feed her, she didnt finish! so somehow maybe not hungry but then when i place her back down to sleep she will scream her lungs out! then wake hubby up then hubby scold me for not giving her milk... faint.