This is a discussion on did you feel immediate LOVE for your baby? within the Newborn Baby and Infant Care (up to 12 months old) forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; Originally Posted by sugarcookie I hate to say this but what your mother said is just crazy. I had a ...
I felt that way too when i had my 1st. The relieve of not being pregnant anymore overwhelmed me. I was really thrilled. For my 1st pregnancy, I couldn't walk for 4 months. It was horrible. Then 1.5 years later... pregnant again laahh. But luckily 2nd time pregnancy not as jia lat as my first. I thought maybe that's why i felt love when i saw 2nd dotter. Cos I did not spend most of the 9 months in pain and could bond with her when she was in my tummy. I did not really bond with my 1st cos I was too much in constant pain.
my love for the both of them is equal now. so i guess it doesn't really matter whether there was that feeling when i first saw her. cos the feeling DID grow steadily over the many months. Especially when she started to respond to my voice! I get a warm fuzzy feeling when that happens. Heehee.
n when i carried her the next morning, i was thinking, dang, this lil beautiful baby is like, MINE!? hahahaha. sometimes til now, i cant believe i gv birth to this lil monster..
but i have to agree, in the beginning, i didnt care n love her as much as i do now, the love n bond just grows much more each day.
last time, i can leave her at home while i went out with my friends to shopping/partying. but now, the moment i step out of the house i miss her already... sometimes will stand at the door n sneak a few more glances at her before i go... hehe.
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Last edited by suicul; 10-12-2009 at 04:56 PM.
hmm when my girl just came out, the moment i see her, i smile widely. cos she looks soooooooo much like hubby! like a mini version of hubby! so i felt it was funny n also felt that i finally can see her after so many mths.. i dont know if thats love but i felt really great n i request to have her in my rm 24hrs a day. so basically she dont return to the nursery unless for shower.. then i remember.. immediately after they bring her away n tell me they will bring her back after showering her n do the necessary things, i kept asking how long it will take n when she will be return to me. then after i went back to the ward, i called the nursery a few times to check when she can come to me lol. think they sure feel im so annoyed! LOL. i keep looking at her though she kept sleeping. just looking at her made me felt so bless.. hehe
when i saw my girl's 'shape' during my 16th week scan. i just felt life is so amazing.. lol.
tika, y you say your first baby ugly? lol. so your 2nd one looks better? i felt my girl looks.. mature.. she has no baby fats at all when she was born! face sharp sharp..
Last edited by annie; 10-12-2009 at 06:49 PM.
when i saw johanan at the first time... It was a feeeling of so familiar yet so unfamiliar hehe, his little hand grabbed my finger and that moment was magical as our eyes met, looking at each other. Hehe, gynae placed him on my chest as they stitched up my c section wound and so on. Johanan was making timid noises as he can feel he rolling down towards my face. And he did rolled down and kissed my cheek haha
arrgg.. life is soooooooooo amazing... just imagine.. a sperm n an egg forms a life! a life which is created by you n hubby n looks like you both in some way or another. character also similar to you both in some ways... growing from an embryo to a baby n finally out to see the world.. n from a fragile baby who knows nothing n even cant control their own hands to an adult. learning slowly as they grow up. learn to control their limbs, sit, stand, walk, talk etc.. isnt that amazing? hehe. though all the above said are what everyone knows, i cant help but always felt life is amazing when i look at my girl. whahahahah
understand what you mean, annie! I actually teared when i first saw dear daughter's heart beat when she was about 6 weeks old! And it was just a pulsating dot in the scan! Hahaha. So paiseh!
I also delivered dear daughter through c-section, and it was a painful and traumatic c-section. When the doctor told me that dear daughter was out, I actually told him, "Finally!"
But the first time i saw her after the anaesthetic wore off, I was so amazed at the tiny little thing that the nurses handed to me. The funny thing was, i was so excited that it didn't occur to me that i should unwrap her and check her carefully. In fact, i didn't think of that until the third day, and when i did, i was so worried that something might have been missing and i hadn't realised it.
I did what I knew. And when I knew better, I did better.
My baby is almost 7 weeks, love him so much since day 1..
I still remember when I discharge from hospital, can't sleep and kept think about my baby. (We put him sleep with another room with confinement aunty)
Now, my baby can 'play' with us. He like to smile.
Even sometimes he is sleep in his baby cot, every time I see him sure tell my hubby - our baby so cute.. ^_^
So amazing that 2 months before he is still in my womb and now is already 5kg plus...
Getting heavier and heavier..
haha my 2nd one looks just as ugly. All white with mucus and puffy. But for my 2nd one i know what to expect you see. So i wasn't shocked. My 1st pregnancy, I really thought baby will come out and nurse will bathe her first, comb her hair nice nice, put powder then bring her to me. So gullible horr. haha.
i'm already in love with my baby since i know he's IN me. my pregnancy was quite tough with morning sickness up to 5months and nausea all the way till i give birth, kept having threatened pre-term labor etc. but i love my boy so much i kept telling myself it's worth going thru all the pain.
the moment he's born i kept tearing and can't take my eyes off him, even when i feel the stinging pain while doctor stitch me up (no epi). i felt so in love But i do admit he looked kinda weird, so pale and puffy and his head was really long.. but nonetheless i still can't take my eyes off him. that night after delivery i wanted the baby to stay in the room with me but the nurse told me to sleep, haha.. but the next morning after his injection, bath and check up baby is with me the whole time..
lol i totally never check my baby . i didnt know have to check.. i thought nurses never say anything wrong means ok hehe.
my girl came out very clean . no white dots or watsoever...she looks powdery though. as in her skin colour. looks like applied powder lol. snow white. i heard some ppl say their baby looks purple when born also. think every baby different...
my husband told me that my girl came out with her bum covered in poop.
but by the time i was conscious enough to see her, she was very clean liaoo.
just that her eyes and face were very puffy.
my first dotter was purple my hubby said. it was not a pleasant sight. she didn't immediately cry when they took her out so she was turning purple slowly. I saw her only after nurse smack her buttock and she cried. Then her face turned pinkish. But still ugly and white with mucus.
The nurse came to my ward and said..your baby so cute. then my hubby said how come all you ladies can always see the cuteness in newborn babies ? I dont't understand. To me all newborns are ugly. They'll only turn cute once the water retention goes away. so blunt one my hubby. Then the nurse replied... you dont know meh? Definition of Cute is UGLY but ADORABLE.
my love for my son started almost immediately after i know i'm pregnant. As i had a m/c before, though i had very bad m/s for almost 7mths plus this round, I appreciate all the signs that I was still pregnant. however, i really really start to love him and talk to him is during my last month of pregnancy when he was so tight in my tummy and I can feel his every movement and kicks and feel him shifting his knees or whatever.. when i scratches my tummy (the spot i think it was his back and backside), he actually respond and stirred. The feeling is amazing to me.
And after pushing him out and saw him for the 1st time - i have no reaction until he is in the plastic box waiting for the next step (measure weight and length..etc?) He was gazing at my direction and I was very excited when I saw that my nose appears on his little face!!! And when he was placed back into my arms after he was dressed, i took a smell at him cos i always thought babies smell nice... oh well, how wrong am i... he smell weird!!! and as i was also effected by the epidural, the smell of him makes me want to puke. heee...
But yes .. i love him almost immediately and especially so after that 1st bf-ing experience.
i love her the moment i set my eyes on her
congrats on your new baby!
Stay at Home Mummy
Even during confinement I was not super interested in my baby becoz my breasts were painful, got piles, generally felt unwell and painful c-section wound. I then felt that the pregnancy was not really over since I still suffer some side effects post delivery! For me, pregnancy is not just a nine months thing but play out to a much longer extended period becoz of physical physiological and mental changes..
Now at 9 weeks old, I only started to feel intense love for my baby when he started to coo, 'talk' to me and smile two weeks back. The Pedi commented that he is a very chatty and alert 2 months old. He is quite cute, chubby
and loves to play. Now I understand a parent's devotion and love for their children. I sometimes wonder though if he is not as cute in looks and alert in behaviour, would I really love him as much all the same?
Haha... The first time I held my baby I feel so scare that my baby will be dropped on to the floor.
actually i nebber really carried Baber til his neck was stable until about 2months plusss
before that mostly handled by my mum or mother in law lOlzzzzzzzzzzzz
i admit i m lousy with newborn babies lOlzzzzzzzzzzzz i scared i accidentally "twist" their necks lOlzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
i rarely bf her direct, n only carried her when going for her medical appointments!!! hehehe...
now everyday carry...more bochup,sometimes balance her on one hand while im trying to put her in/take her out of baby carrier, and of cos when bathing her also must balance....become a very rough-handling mummy ....