do u ask ur hubby to change diapers?

[chiro]

just finished an arguement with dear husband...

He is not happy that i asked him to change diapers..he said that i can do it most of the times on my own.

I have told him that i need him to support me in takin care of son eg change diapers etc... But he said i cried wolf too many times ...

Like that how to have second child?ask him to help is his duty as a father...to support me but he did not see it this way..

I was on the phone chattin with a friend, ask him to change son's diapers , he said 'told you he pooed already, you dont want to change, im not going to change, you change yourself..'

Of course my friend overhears everything...he not happy cos i ask him to change when i tokin to my friend, so he make me lose face by this type of remark...

Walau...

Mummies..do uface this type of nonsense from your spouse?he is 40yrs old today..but mind still not there yet..

What is the process of sterilisation for female reproductive organs called?

[Queenbabe]

Originally Posted by chiro just finished an arguement with dear husband... He is not happy that i asked him to change diapers..he said that i can do it most of the times on my own. I have told him that i need him to support me in takin care of son eg change diapers etc... But he said i cried wolf too many times ... Like that how to have second child?ask him to help is his duty as a father...to support me but he did not see it this way.. I was on the phone chattin with a friend, ask him to change son's diapers , he said 'told you he pooed already, you dont want to change, im not going to change, you change yourself..' Of course my friend overhears everything...he not happy cos i ask him to change when i tokin to my friend, so he make me lose face by this type of remark... Walau... Mummies..do uface this type of nonsense from your spouse?he is 40yrs old today..but mind still not there yet.. What is the process of sterilisation for female reproductive organs called?

Aiyo he should help you, your hubby is 40? how come his thinking still not mature yet?

[candy_ian]

my hubby does'not change son's diapers' bathe him nor bathe him.. He's a MCP. He says those are not for men to do.. i told him is bcos he doesn't want responsibilities not bcos he dunnoe how to do. He ask me train the maid to do then i told him i dont trust maid doing it n i rather do it myself. Anyway the process you're talking about is ligation

[Daddy_Siansters]

What is MCP...?

[Daddy D]

Originally Posted by chiro I have told him that i need him to support me in takin care of son eg change diapers etc... But he said i cried wolf too many times ...

Wahh... I very long never change diapers liaoo... ask him to take it as a bonding process with the baby.

I think the trigger point is usually when 1 spouse tells the other spouse to do something immediately, when the other spouse is pre-occupied with something else.

Y cry wolf? Just smell or take a peep to confirm will do. Once confirm, then need to activate help.

One way is to agree on who does which part of the process... who lays the mat... who wipe the poo... who lift the legs... who throw the poo... who powder... who apply cream... who wear the diaper... something like that

Usually trial n error to find the best/efficient method.

[chiro]

mine knows how to do.. An expert in changing diapers..taught his mum how to bathe him...initially very hands on.. Now more n more lazy..sigh...

Told him i ask him to change cos he got no initiative to change..he dont agree with that...

I never bathe my son so far hehe

[Domique]

Dear Chiro....

Man are man.... most of the time they dont use the "right head" to think..... :P

Anyway your dear husband seems to be a bit MCP... think he was like that all the while? Anyway try next time when you doing other things you ask him to change diapers for Johanan..... maybe while you doing "normal" things which you should do like washing dishes or clothes.... If he can help means he feel that talking is not important.... y you keep talking on the phone and not help his dear son to change diapers.....

:P

Cheer up.. no point argue ... anyway your gal friend sure understand...

[chiro]

he not happy iask him to help when he got no initiative to do so...

Its sheer laziness?hehe

Mywrist tendons r painful n i tried not to strain my wrist which he is aware of...

He said im too addicted to mummysg forum.. But this is the place for me to seek solace n support...tell him things he also not interested,as he not interested in gossips..nothing to talk,about...

If i suddenly say something of another topic,he will ask 'y you say that?''there are no linkage to what we r tokin now..'

Walau.. He got a very structured n orderly n logical mind whereas i m not...so nowto stop him from askin 'why', which i hate tohear...

I told him never think of that , must be in sequence one mei? you cannot expect ppl to tok in the manner, sequence n words that you want tohear ?'

Im more ppl oriented...he is very analytical


Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Originally Posted by elaine82 Aiyo he should help you, your hubby is 40? how come his thinking still not mature yet?

[apollo]

my hubby changes dear son diapers, wash & steriliser his milk bottles, bottle feed him and play with him everyday. morning he will wake up 10mins earlier to feed dear son before he goes wk... as long as he is at hm, i dont have to do (almost) anything.. cause before i gave birth, i have made things clear to him alrdy, this baby not only belongs to me, also his.. if he cant make an effort to give up some time for his son, very unfair to me and dear son...


he wk 5.5days per week, every sat after when he comes home, he will tell me "baby, it's now your off day until tml night.."

but of cos hswwk lik washing dear son's clothes will be done by me...

[apollo]

Originally Posted by chiro he not happy iask him to help when he got no initiative to do so... Its sheer laziness?hehe Mywrist tendons are painful and i tried not to strain my wrist which he is aware of... He said im too addicted to mummysg forum.. But this is the place for me to seek solace and support...tell him things he also not interested,as he not interested in gossips..nothing to talk,about... If i suddenly say something of another topic,he will ask 'why you say that?''there are no linkage to what we are tokin now..' Walau.. He got a very structured and orderly and logical mind whereas i m not...so nowto stop him from askin 'why', which i hate tohear... I told him never think of that , must be in sequence one mei? you cannot expect ppl to tok in the manner, sequence and words that you want tohear ?' Im more ppl oriented...he is very analytical Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

my hubby also said that to me.. he often says "everything also listen to those mummies you dont know..." then i will ask him to shut up!

[chiro]

thnx..

He did say that i can tell my friend that iwill call her bak once im done..i told him that he is around..so ask him do ..

He not happy i ordered him to do thngs ...

He darn mcp ..we dont need to do housework cos mother in law do..

Originally Posted by Domique Dear Chiro.... Man are man.... most of the time they dont use the "right head" to think..... :P Anyway your dear husband seems to be a bit MCP... think he was like that all the while? Anyway try next time when you doing other things you ask him to change diapers for Johanan..... maybe while you doing "normal" things which you should do like washing dishes or clothes.... If he can help means he feel that talking is not important.... why you keep talking on the phone and not help his dear son to change diapers..... :P Cheer up.. no point argue ... anyway your gal friend sure understand...

[Daddy D]

Usually at nites I make the bottle milk for dear daughter...
dont know y tonite wifey went to make... then complain y the flask no hot water... then she made the milk too hot... she said I always make it not hot enuff... then dear daughter took a sip n said it's too hot 2... wifey LPPL... went to re-make... come back face black black... complain she's hot n sweaty.

DUH.....
Want to do, dont complain...
Want to complain, dont do...

Just to vent... kiss n make up liaoo

[Domique]

wahahha
woman are woman too... got their PMS!
what to do... i am also guilty of such below....

:P

Originally Posted by Daddy D Usually at nites I make the bottle milk for dear daughter... dont know why tonite wifey went to make... then complain why the flask no hot water... then she made the milk too hot... she said I always make it not hot enuff... then dear daughter took a sip and said it's too hot 2... wifey LPPL... went to re-make... come back face black black... complain she's hot and sweaty. DUH..... Want to do, dont complain... Want to complain, dont do... Just to vent... kiss and make up liaoo

[apollo]

Originally Posted by Daddy D Usually at nites I make the bottle milk for dear daughter... dont know why tonite wifey went to make... then complain why the flask no hot water... then she made the milk too hot... she said I always make it not hot enuff... then dear daughter took a sip and said it's too hot 2... wifey LPPL... went to re-make... come back face black black... complain she's hot and sweaty. DUH..... Want to do, dont complain... Want to complain, dont do... Just to vent... kiss and make up liaoo

Daddy D, dont lik that lehh... i also lik your wife lik that lehh...

[chiro]

haha.. Want to do, dont complain...wanna complain, dont do..makes alot of sense...

Originally Posted by Daddy D Usually at nites I make the bottle milk for dear daughter... dont know why tonite wifey went to make... then complain why the flask no hot water... then she made the milk too hot... she said I always make it not hot enuff... then dear daughter took a sip and said it's too hot 2... wifey LPPL... went to re-make... come back face black black... complain she's hot and sweaty. DUH..... Want to do, dont complain... Want to complain, dont do... Just to vent... kiss and make up liaoo

[PinkDiamonds]

Hahaha I also like that one! But my hubby is patient enough to take all my nonsense.

chiro: Your hubby sounds like he has been brought up with everything done for him. Like no need do anything got people wash clothes for him, cook for him, clean up after him, etc. Maybe that's why he believes that these things are your job and not his.

Taking responsibility as a father also means doing all these "dirty work". Not just "aiyo so cute my child!" then play finish throw away. -_-

R you on good terms with your mother in law? If you are can ask your mother in law to talk to him about it.

[chiro]

haha.. Want to do, dont complain...wanna complain, dont do..makes alot of sense...

Originally Posted by Daddy D Usually at nites I make the bottle milk for dear daughter... dont know why tonite wifey went to make... then complain why the flask no hot water... then she made the milk too hot... she said I always make it not hot enuff... then dear daughter took a sip and said it's too hot 2... wifey LPPL... went to re-make... come back face black black... complain she's hot and sweaty. DUH..... Want to do, dont complain... Want to complain, dont do... Just to vent... kiss and make up liaoo

[chiro]

you r so blessed...!!!!

Originally Posted by reginakoh my hubby changes dear son diapers, wash & steriliser his milk bottles, bottle feed him and play with him everyday. morning he will wake up 10mins earlier to feed dear son before he goes wk... as long as he is at hm, i dont have to do (almost) anything.. cause before i gave birth, i have made things clear to him alrdy, this baby not only belongs to me, also his.. if he cant make an effort to give up some time for his son, very unfair to me and dear son... he wk 5.5days per week, every sat after when he comes home, he will tell me "baby, it's now your off day until tml night.." but of cos hswwk lik washing dear son's clothes will be done by me...

[chiro]

she did scold him before whenwe quarelled n i stormed out ofthehouse, goto the car n sped off...she scolded him to give into me n stop me from storming out of the house...

My father in law nhubby have been served by mother in law...

Will talk toher to talk my hubby around...
He now play with dear son,..then saygood nite n gosleep..sigh...

Originally Posted by PinkDiamonds Hahaha I also like that one! But my hubby is patient enough to take all my nonsense. chiro: Your hubby sounds like he has been brought up with everything done for him. Like no need do anything got people wash clothes for him, cook for him, clean up after him, etc. Maybe that's why he believes that these things are your job and not his. Taking responsibility as a father also means doing all these "dirty work". Not just "aiyo so cute my child!" then play finish throw away. -_- are you on good terms with your mother in law? If you are can ask your mother in law to talk to him about it.

[CanCanMum]

Originally Posted by chiro What is the process of sterilisation for female reproductive organs called?

any one answered you yet??

i diink its called Ligation or Litgation (either one got spelling error~)

[CanCanMum]

so far uncle nic only changed baber's diapers during first 2 weeks when baber was still a newborn~~~

after that was all along ME for 3 years lols~~~

anyway i dont like him to change becoz his fingers machiam bull strength, tape so tight until babers got those red lines on his skin~~~terrible rite?

[chiro]

thnx cancanmum...

Originally Posted by CanCanMum any one answered you yet?? i diink its called Ligation or Litgation (either one got spelling error~)

[chiro]

he very chor ... No wonder .. Hehe...

Originally Posted by CanCanMum so far uncle nic only changed baber's diapers during first 2 weeks when baber was still a newborn~~~ after that was all along ME for 3 years lols~~~ anyway i dont like him to change becoz his fingers machiam bull strength, tape so tight until babers got those red lines on his skin~~~terrible rite?

[pkshl]

Originally Posted by reginakoh my hubby changes dear son diapers, wash & steriliser his milk bottles, bottle feed him and play with him everyday. morning he will wake up 10mins earlier to feed dear son before he goes wk... as long as he is at hm, i dont have to do (almost) anything.. cause before i gave birth, i have made things clear to him alrdy, this baby not only belongs to me, also his.. if he cant make an effort to give up some time for his son, very unfair to me and dear son... he wk 5.5days per week, every sat after when he comes home, he will tell me "baby, it's now your off day until tml night.." but of cos hswwk lik washing dear son's clothes will be done by me...

regina mummy, my husband is also almost like yrs. almost everything about dear son he does, change diaper, feeds, play(except bathing), every morning wake up 1hr earlier to feed dear son so that dear son wont get grumpy when on his way to his mum house, eveyday carry dear son to his mum place.

now that im sick, i cant take care of dear son, told my husband to take leave so that i can rest & recover & he can also take care of dear son.

[Oppsgal]

Take a shopping bag, go shopping outside, let your husband take care of baby himself.