This is a discussion on Frustration with 1st-time grandparents within the Newborn Baby and Infant Care (up to 12 months old) forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; Back home with baby at my parents' home for 3 nights. In-laws coming to visit this evening as tomorrow they're ...
Back home with baby at my parents' home for 3 nights. In-laws coming to visit this evening as tomorrow they're travelling to KL. Yeeks hope this does not happen when we move to our own home next year. Predicting something like this will happen.
Planning to set Sat/Sun only visit back to in-laws place. Any experience/advice? dont't want them to come disturbing if I'm staying at home to look after daughter, as planning to stay at home mum for 1 year, most probably next year start
And yes...dont't give them keys to your house. That's like giving them a knife to stab you while you sleep.
Another trick is to buy a home far...FAR..FFFAR away from your in laws. The other end of sg map if possible. Like me. They stay at tampines. I persuaded hubby to buy a house in Bukit Panjang.
In fact, I was told that since I'm no longer cooking, the kitchen is not mine so I have no say as to what happens in it or what my parents do.
Then when my husband politely reminded my dad to be considerate of other people staying in the house (us ), my mum fired me off with "we are my parents and your guests".
They leave the lights on, break my stuff and dirty the place and all they can say is
1) I'm not paying.
2) I'm not the one cleaning.
3) It's not my stuff so I dont't care.
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That is very brainless, (pardon my forwardness) and very contradictory of your parents.
Since they say its not their stuff so they dont't care...then BE FIRM that these are YOUR stuff and YOU CARE. Plus your hubby/you pays for the electricity bills. Your hubby/you pay for your kitchen cabinet, kitchen stove, kitchen floor, pots and pans, plates and cups, etc, SO ITS YOURS!! WHOever cooks is secoondary.
Truthfully, when i read one of your posts about your parents, i felt so annoyed beyond words. These are the kind of parents who cannot let go or see things in others' perspective. Seems like if you want to see drastic changes, you have to take drastic measures. Like barring your parents from seeing your child. I stopped talking to my mom for 2 months and she couldn't understand why I'm no longer the obedient dotter. She was very upset but I was FIRM. I had enough of pleasing her and guarding her emotional wellbeing. I'm married now and my child's (and husband's) wellbeing should come first, not my parent's.
We had so many arguments regarding my child. In the end I always tell her....Mommy, YOU can say anything and everything you want. In fact, you can have the final say in this heated discussion. But my husband and I will make the final decision.
After about 5 months of being firm...she finally backed down and left us to do/decide what's best for our child. Same with my In Laws.
All in all, we've also managed to master the art of selective hearing.
It won't be easy for those who STAY with their parents/in laws though. All i can say is....TAHAN them till you get your own house. No choice really. Its tough to barr them from seeing your child if they are under the same roof.
I'm back to posting this thread cos it's related to who else, the grandparents. This time round they've graduated from being 1st-time grandparents.
Now the question: is it possible that the voice turn deep-throat sound together with having phelgm & dont't consider sick?
I can't understand y the issue of parent in law's being sick or just recovering is an issue with hub who
can't seem to find this an issue either visited parent in law not knowing 1 is sick (got there then know 1 had taken flu med) or they visit when 1 is recovering?
My dear daughter is still coughing & had just past the fever stage. Had been coughing 3wks, about to seem better but went back to cough again. She also attend preschool
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