This is a discussion on How much milk does your near 4 months old baby drinks? within the Newborn Baby and Infant Care (up to 12 months old) forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; Originally Posted by missykiwi Yeap i think it depends on individual. But yesterday my girl scared the hell outta me. ...
I am feeding her Similac...alot of good raves on this similac powder because heard that it will not cause constipation ...I understand how you feel because I also feel frustrated..but I think is more worried bah..cos I will worry if she has too much wind in her stomach... but like what you said, as long as she is growing well..then we should not be too concerned...
i've been wondering...
should babies be fed according to schedule eg: every 3hrs give and take half an hour or feed on demand?
my girl is 4 1/2 mths.
me and my mom will look after her for one week. then the following week she'll be with my mother in law. the "roster" started when i started working when my girl was about 3 months.
i feed her according to schedule except for night time. i only feed her when she wakes up in the middle of the night. so since birth i've been feeding her every 3hrs.
when she's with my mother in law she's being fed on demand. basically my mother in law only feeds her when she cries.
my mom told me not to feed on demand coz if you wait for her to cry, you'll delay her feed with the preparation and she'll get wind in her tummy and she'll end up not wanting to feed.
before i started sending her to my mother in law, i've told her to feed every 3 hours. this one time it had already been 4hrs since her last feed. i told my mother in law to give her milk. her reply was "but she's not crying" inside i almost cried. i prepared the bottle anyway and fed her.
what if she doesn't cry at all? do you not feed her at all? and when she does, isn't just one feed not enough to make up for the missed feeds?
recently when my girl was with my mother in law, my hubby said that his mom always only feeds her when she cries. but i suspect only when i'm around she'd feed my girl every 3hrs.
my hubby said what was the point of forcing her to drink when she'd end up throwing it back out. but when i do force her, she'd finish the bottle and not puke it out.
each time when my girl returns from my mother in law, my mom would notice that she had "shrunk" and she'd "bloom" when she's with me.
so worried for my girl...
i wish i could just let my mom look after her...
Hi twiggez, actually as long as your girl within the normal weight for her age and she's gaining weight then there's no need to worry about whether she is fed on demand or every 3hrs. Babies appetite is not always constant..so even if she really really missed a feed when she's at you mother in law place then let it be that way..I agree probably your mother in law is feeding her on demand when you are not around cos at the back of her mind that was how she brought up your hubby last time..
My gal currently goes to infant care for a week and then my mother in law's place for a week cos my mother in law works part time every alternate week..she won't be able to take care of her full time..can you imagine how different is the schedule at the 2 places? I just let my girl adapt..she seems okay about..
Btw, at 4.5mths 3hrs interval is quite intensive, can try to stretch the feeds if you want..my gal drinks 180ml every 4hrs when she was about that age..
Just to share my thoughts..I have learnt that if you let someone else takes care of your child you just have to close one eye on certain issues sometimes..as long as your child is safe and healthy..
yeah i've been stretching her feeds to 4 hours apart recently.
she is slightly above average in weight.
My baby is slightly over 1 month, and he is drinking 150ml per 4 hours.. He would finish the feed most of the time, but would sometimes leave 15ml to 30 ml untouched..
He does regurgitate a little after his feed. But the weird thing is that the regurgitation takes places a few hours later.. And sometimes milk comes out from his nose as well.. Not sure whether it is because he is having stuffy nose..
Did this happen to anyone too?
Hi sleepbear you feed your baby 150ml at one month plus old!! My girl who is 14wks now is drinking about 150ml, cld it be that you have fed your baby too much milk n that y he/she regurgitate even after few hours later?
Anyway after reading all these posts I feel much relief n definitely going to show this to my hubby. Cos he keep worrying that my baby is not drinking enough milk (I breastfeed my girl in daytime n feed her FM in night). Everynight he will make about 180ml for her n I so worry that she will be overfed cos my girl will be half asleep n she will just suck n suck with her eyes close.
However, IMHO, I find that 150ml at 1 month plus seems like too much... Maybe try feeding lesser and see whether the regurgitation still continues...
Hi AngieTan, I saw fr your baby chart that you are pregnant again. Wow!! Congratulation! How do you do it? I mean your baby is still so young must be very tough for you n your husband. 加油！Btw, mind if I ask how old r you?
I am 33 going on 34 this year... Not young already... So also good to one time give birth and close factory after that... Hehe... But I know it's not gonna be easy... Even right now, very stressed with young one and can't imagine when my tummy gets bigger, I will have to deal with a baby that is trying to walk and climb... Now he is already quite a handful... Crawling all over the place and learning how to stand up now... A bit hard for me to carry him also without feeling the strain at my tummy but no choice cos I take care of him myself... My mum only comes over once in a while to help out and the rest of the time I am on my own... So ya, very stressed and tired...
Tough, really tough on you.. I have also tried for few yrs n finally my girl has arrived. Usually woman is more fertile during the 1st yr after birth, I m still thinking if i shld go for 2nd one as well but currently i m on breastfeeding so have to wait n see how it goes. Anyway, is good to have a 2nd one so soon at least your boy has a sibling to play with n their ages are not too wide apart. Sincerely wish you all the best! Be strong n happy!! 加油！
Ya people tell me that the 2 will be very close since age gap is very small... But I wonder if they will be close if it's a boy and a girl? This one most likely a girl, yet to be confirmed via detailed scan... Also, I heard that we are most fertile right after giving birth and should have really believed in that... LOL... But I just let nature take its course ... If God feels that this is the right time to have another baby, then I shall receive it with open arms no matter how tough it's gonna be... Better produce while factory still working also... Haha... Wish I was younger then no stress about biological clock then can slowly try... =P
My girl is 14 wks now n actually these two days her feeding is getting shorter n shorter. Just now only 5min of feeding, I wonder how much she has drink n when I try to push her she will get irritated n cry..sigh..very depressing, feel like giving up. I m a first time mum as well so can't really advise how to handle two babies at the same time BUT although BF is good for baby I know that during pregnancy if mummy eat good n nutrition foods/tonic, it goes to the baby as well. Just do your best..like me I keep telling myself that 多喂一天是一天 I may not be like other mummies that able to BF for more than a yr but at least I have tried n I m better than those mums who r unable to do so due to certain reasons. dont think too much..船到矫头自然直.
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I really hope this time round I can succeed but am worried that I won't have the willpower to do so due to pressure, stress and everything... Also cos I have another toddler to look after at that time... Not gonna be easy so gotta really psych myself up... Just hope I can really preservere... It's so easy to give up due to tiredness and stress but so hard to carry on... =/
One day, I decide to just give up, feed her FM solely and not to think about breast milk again. I was guilty. But the fact that I had more time to rest, more time to spend with her, carry her and interact with her and sing with her, makes me feel that it is ok.
Breastmilk is good to give our precious ones, but time spent with them is equally important, if not more important. They grow up so quickly, we can't turn back time.