This is a discussion on Leaving baby with nanny within the Newborn Baby and Infant Care (up to 12 months old) forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; Hi Hi, mummies, i m returning to wrk next month and found a babysitter. Intend to let my boy go ...
Hi Hi, mummies, i m returning to wrk next month and found a babysitter.
Intend to let my boy go to the nanny few days before i start work so he will be farmiliar with the house & auntie.
But shld i stay there and accompany him or just leave straight with the nanny on the 1st day?
Abit dont bear to leave him there n also wori if the auntie will be good to him, sigh, m i thinking too much...
ya, i totally agree with you! I still trust immdediate family members more than babysitter or nanny.
Its actually normal to worry and miss your baby. Cos we are their mummies.
No you r not thinking too much, it's normal for 1st time mummies.......
When I first send my son to the infant care when he was about 5mths old, I was also there with him on the first day, worried too.....but the care givers at the infant care was ok with it, and offered tips on how to take care of my son then.....
So decided to look for a nanny near my house.
At least can save on travelling time and see him a while more everyday
that's y i dare not go back to wking life... cause both my mum and mother in law have to work and i only trust the both of them. and i know if a nanny or maid is going to take care of dear son, i sure will think alot everyday, cannot concentrate on working..
But i want to be financially independent, so no choice have to work!
i think you can stay by the nanny's place on n off.
dont have to be whole day.
let the nanny know, she shld understand your worries.
share with you my xperience on the nanny...
last mon i sent my gal to the nany's house since tues i have 2 wrk ...left the place immed she slept, scared she will cry if she c me leave...haix can tell you, mon nite i cried until very jialat coz miss my gal (looking @ the sarang & her cot, empty )...jux imagine, i slept @ 6am & woke up @ 6.30am for wrk!!!
tues, feeling xtreme tired, went home 2 rest after wrk. but dont know y, auto wrk up after 1 hr & immed went over 2 the nanny's house 2 c my gal w/o informing the nanny (eh bought a pack of diapers up as an xcuse). the nanny was quite shocked when i arrived. when i hugged my gal, she got those sticky feeling tried smelling c if there was cigarette smell but, her body all Yu Yee Oil smell...left her house 3 hours ltr, which was like 12am+...
fri hubby went 2 bring her home, yippee took off her mittens & booties immed i reached home. realised between her fingernails & toenails, got dirt. she seemed 2 be quite dirty despite the nanny bathed her being a cleaned mummy, i immed used a wet towel & clean her again, make sure she's clean then feed her etc...& 1 thing, her bottles smell of milk, very strong smell...never xperience this when i took care of her. being the compaint queen, i called my bro, my sis & my aunt (all treated my gal as princess)...erm wondering, isit i too cleaned ? coz besides bath, i every evening/ nite got wipe her body again. haix, mon to thurs how nanny want to bath her i cant see mah. but fri since i bringing her home, she should @ least do a show clean her so i can fangxin...
sobsob, ytd sent her back 2 the nanny's house . she seemed quite sad 2 leave mummy...i having some financial difficulties, this nanny is a close frenx to my hubby, so she charged us $300 (day + night). isit because of the amt we gave, she treated my gal like this? haix anyway when i saw her house, i shake head...the place was quite messy...haix shdnt have trusted her...
might be bringing my gal back to m'sia give my aunt take care after her 6 in 1 jab...but by then, cant every week c her ...haix dilemma now...
i understand, its very hard since our kids r still very young.
maybe you can ask your hubby to talk to your baby's nanny?
cos, i also dont like babies to be "dirty" n sticky.
makes me feel uncomfy, n they sure to feel more uncomfy!
honestly speaking, i dont think your hubby's friend has done a good job taking care your girl so far... cos milk bottles shdnt have milk smell after washing. i'm also a clean frak when comes to dear son's hygiene...
is the nanny staying very far from your place?? is it possible to bring her hom everynight??
Maybe you can consider infant care center?
Before dear daughter is born, I kept thinking about going back to work asap cause I am not taking any allowance from dear husband and I stopped working since I was about 3 months pregnant. I am a very independent person.
My mentality changed after her delivery, I only trust myself and my mom but she is working full time and already helping to take care of my nephew and niece.
I am very worried my baby will miss me too so cannot bear to send him to nanny too early.
Or maybe can ask your hubby to talk to the nanny about it?
If bring to Malaysia even worse, cannot even c her when you want!
not to scare you or gossip - i dont think this nanny of yours did her part to take care of your baby..
baby small small - wont feel sticky so quickly unless never bathe for long hours or place in hot places...
milk bottles wont have smell one .....
i agree, she is not doing her job.
if she is those kind who really care n love kids, this wont be happening!!
last time my mum also helped her friend tc of baby when she wasnt working, when i was very young.
she also charged them very lil cos they r very poor.
but she make sure the lil girl is clean n tidy (cos her parents r the ones that r messy!)
my mum even fork out her own money to buy nice clothes for her.
My baby also sticky. I lazy to clean.. plus my baby seems very scare of water. When I use wet wipes to clean the face, very big reaction.
haix no choice, infant care seemed too xpensive ...now i alone supporting the baby nia, hubby no use ...so i per month can only pay her $300 (pampers, milk powder everything i buy 4 baby ), n she's ok with it. i knew i pay her very little, but she should @ least take good care of her mah...
uh, dont mind i ask, why hubby no use???
he not working?
Mayb your husband does not KNOW hown to take care of baby so dont dare.
I know of someone who was scared of babies last time.dont't dare to go near them but was ok with 2-3 year olds. Until he had his own child then he slowly began to learn how to take care of baby.He said when the baby was delivered, he did not even dare to carry (cos baby very fragile)