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My mother in law ssprayed Baygon into my baby's milkbag, snatch my baby away from my arms and dont't let me feed my baby when she's hungry!!
Bring your baby back to your own mother place for the time being or to your aunties to take care of it when you are working (if you have nice/close ones), and let your mother in law think about what they have done! Terrible.. My mum welcome me home always if my hubby bullies me (she said so haha)
where she stay? i go beat her up.
wow...very 'ke buo' !!!! @#$#%@
Why spray baygon in the milkbag ? I dont understand ... Does she really love the baby or just wanna torture it ? That's why baby cry when see mummy finally come home and can save her !! Feel so sad for baby..
i think you all should like ban your MILs from your babies man....
carry back your baby ask your mum to take care. should also ask hubby to control their own mothers. if mother in law kick a big fuss, let them. they should know who is boss. if no one control them then they will control you.
jia you mummies! keep the fussies away from baby.. dont't let mother in law pass on their insecurities to them! sometimes insecure people will pass comments like "you must love your grandma... your mummy dont't love you so much"... so must be careful. they dont't understand the impact and consequences of their actions.
at the end of the day, it's YOUR baby!!!!
yah i agree!!
sometimes my mum will say to pin, your mummy dont care about you right? always go gaigai.
then i will tell my mum why you say this kinda thing to her, she understands n will feel sad.
then i will go to pin n say no mummy loves pin pin alot!!
then she will hug me.
haha sometimes pin will shoot back my mum n say NO~~~~~ mummy loves kaipin! kaipin is mummy's baobei.
if my mother in law is like that i will snatch my baby away n move out immediately..
i will not return if this issue is not resolved by my hubby with his mother...
agree 100% to let them know that WE R THE MUMMY! confinement time she dont really let me carry. onli let me carry when after bathe which she already want to sleep . the rest of the day, she feed she bathe.. baby cry at night.. no words just take her away.
i dont know my ger at all. she look at me but i felt like crying cause i dont know how to use my action to love her. she wanted to bring baby back to msia but i insist i take care.
wen i go back work n she take care, if above thing were to happen. i will immediately ask my hubby to speak to her.i take baby away and lock my door. i dont care whether she going to complain to whuever she sees.. or she knock on my door ask my open. i will shout at her and say i take care first. if i reali pek chek infront of my hubby i will very seriously talk to her.
if things were to go out of hand, then no choice.. i bring baby to infant care or nanny already.
for me i ask hubby if i can quit my job to look after her. he say ok. return workforce probably when she is older to b in childcare.
probably try asking hubby if can stop work for a while...
A few times i had the same scenario with you, my mother in law seldom see my boy so when i bring him back (twice a week) she is so excited esp its first grandson. When my baby cry, i step forward to carry him, my mother in law would just ignore me and keep trying and continue to carry him. When i told hubby about it, hubby would say she wanted to try and the reason why she is like this cos she seldom see the grandson. To me, we have to bring back the grandson twice a week is kind of much cos i also have other commitment too. I'm so pissed off and we almost quarrel so many times over other issues too. I do understand we should give chance for the grandparents to carry but the fact is my boy is crying so fiercely, how can a mother just ignore everything? Even my own parents wont do this to me, whenever i want to carry the baby, my parents would just return back to me. My mother in law give me that kind of action like going to snatch my child away from me.
Another scenario, one day when i go back for dinner, sister In law finish her dinner, hubby talking to brother-in-law, mother in law in the living room carrying my boy. When i finish dinner, went to rinsh my mouth, when i come to the living room, nobody is there. My mother in law and sister In law bring my boy dont know go where...after that i guess they should be upstair (in my mother in law room), Cant imagine my loneliness and emptiness. When i told hubby, again he dont understand that kind of feeling. Now i must act smart, show my displease AND INSIST!
Last edited by shulyn; 07-09-2009 at 06:11 PM.
Truly agree...This is the only way we can vent our frustration here. I been tolerating for so long until 8 mths later, i just burst myself out, got angry and bring my boy back home with me. My hubby is so angry, saying my action is so childish, no matter what happen i should have respect him and talk about it after we leave mother in law place...
I know what i did is really not right, but can imagine, my boy is 8 mths = to 8 mths of tolerance. So many mths of inbalance caused me to burst out...so much action has cause me to feel so inbalance towards his family! But i love my hubby alot and i wont want him to feel sad so will just try to ignore...But if there is anything in law do to make me upset, i will just tell her off nicely too...This is what hubby taught me rather than approaching him...
i can't stand firm, unfortunately.
my mother in law expects me to be super grateful she is taking care of my baby. i cant even raise my voice when she is around. she will take it i scold her? then she go home crying to her hubby she kana bully by me.
she expects me to b like my maid. the moment i see her, must greet her. ask her got eat or not, etc.
it was my hubby who insisted baby to b taken care by her mah, not me. i find it realy difficult to face a super sensitive person.
hmm... sometimes if the mummy is not strong herself to defend what is most precious to her, no one else can help.
i too have a irritating mother in law who comes over my house everywk and start doing all the hsehold chores cos she feels that I have not done them good enuff.
She will open up all my cupboards and fridge and then start ransacking the items to see what I have kept in there.
vry vry irritating... and i cant understand as well... what the hell is wrong with them?
Goodness, what are all the mother in law thinking and doing ? They kept using their seniority to press on us.They forget that this is the modern world and their past action/thought are no longer sensible in this modern world.
You have every right to go to your baby and carry them and feed them. They are your child, not your mother in law.
I remember there was a period when my baby simple reject daddy. She will start to cry the moment daddy carry and somtimes at mother in law and only stop when I carry over. mother in law said I 'scare' baby and make baby reject them. mother in law dont't understand what is the meaning of bonding / natural instinct as mummy is the one giving them most of the care and attention.
Your hubby will confessed quietly to you about his mother...Mine..wait long long..he really respect and love his mother alot...I definetely cant object to this but just hope he can understand how i feel...Prob we not staying with the mother and he felt so guilty and bad...