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My 19 months son he is very hot temper. Everytime he want something if he can't get it he will hit his forehead to the wall or on the floor. By then if you give the toy to him again he won't be accept anymore he will just throw away.
I dont't know how to handle him, any mummy here can help me??
dont't give in to him. he is at his terrible 2's age. how you handle this stage will determine how he will behave in the future.
tell him what is acceptable and what is not. he can throw a fit, just ignore him so long it does not injured him. when the whole episode is over, just embrace him, tell him you love him and is upset about his behaviour...then take time to explain to him what went wrong and what is expected of him.
when my elder boy is around that age, he will scream, and struggle on the floor....thinking back, it is so funny.
Sometimes, it is the silent spaces in a relationship that speak most clearly.
Hi Rita, I agree with jedamum. However, for my case it's just the opposite. My child start throwing things only when she turn 3. I used the "supper nanny" method. Make her sit in the naughty chair and ponder over it. She needs to apologise after that. Mayb you can try this method too.
I did agree with you but I have try many time to igore him but he will hit his head to the wall. He made himself pain n cry if I still igore him then he will start to put his figers to him month n made him vomit.... What to do ??
I can be very strict with my dear Alexx as much as I can, but during her terrible 2 stage I never experienced such tantrums or whatever from her, maybe because since she was an infant I keep telling her to be good always, to do things properly although I know she doesn't understand me yet. I am always firm when I say "no" or dont't should really be a big NO and a big dont'T. Then I'm really taking my time to explain why I say NO & dont't to her.
Ya Rita, divert his attention. Maybe bring some snacks for him or just carry him to see the things outside the window ...... any thing that can interest him
maybe then after the episode, sit down with him and recap the episode with him...telling him what went wrong.
actualli at that age they dont know how to express their needs n frustration....
you can try to distract him, but it wont solve e problem of him not learning to express himself...
what i did with my nephews were to pull them one side, tell them sternly it is wrong to do that, then ask them NICELY what they want and how they should express it...
for example, my older nephew wants a toy from his yonger brother, but he dont know how to ask his brother for it...so he snatches it, resulting in didi crying....then korkor, out of FEAR, start throwing tantrum cos he noes he gonna get scolded plus didi has snatched back e toy....he kick e wall, start screaming, hitting any1 that comes near him...
so i pulled him to a corner, told him off sternly that he cannot behave like that....
when he calm down, i ask him what happened, then explain e 'correct behaviour' to him...at e same time, teach him how to ask for things nicely...also taught him that didi dont understand what he is saying, so as big korkor, he should let didi play first, when didi is done with it, he can play....n he can play another toy in meantime or offer didi another toy, see if didi willing to give up e toy he is playing with or not...
these are called 'teachable moments'....must catch these scenarios n make full use to teach your child manners n how to verbalise their wants....
now my nephews always ask for things nicely, most common ones:
"yiyi, may i have the airplane please?"
"yiyi, i want to see that toy, can you please wait for me?"
"yiyi, i would like some orange juice. may i have some please?"
hmm... my son is 11mths+ n he hits his head BUT in a fun way, he finds it amusing n fun (duhz). He has bad temper too, threw toys when he dont get what he wants or we take his toys away. sometimes he will throw himself backwards or let his body go limp n cry n scream if he dont get his things/ways.
what both n my husband do is to smack his hands n said NO when he threw his toys. when he let his body go limp, we let him knock his head a couple of times then he dont dare to do it .
Since young, we have been saying to our son "Please" n "Thank You" when we talk to him. When we need him to give us the things that he is not suppose to lay his hands on, we will say it too. Hopefully when he is older he will be as well mannered as stonston's nephews
nothing i do can stop kay throws his toy.
so i change my approach and taught him how to pack up the toys that he throws. and showing him what are the things he CAN throw (balls and toys), and what are the things that he CANNOT (table cloth, hanky, remote control and handphone).
making him understand what is acceptable take time.
sometimes, he still forgets and throws the cloth i gave him to wipe the table after his meal onto the floor. he would even accompany the throw with the word 'throw'. i would stop him, make him look at him, and give him a very serious stare, and "NO, kayton, this is a cloth, for cleaning the table, NOT FOR THROWING".
My 17mth ols son never throw toys but he throws plastic cup(bought fm Ikea) that he is playing with. The sound is just irritatingwhen he throws them on the kitchen floor.
Its cause and effect. He throws and you pick it up and he thinks it's fun so he'd do it again. Just ignore or distract him. After few times that he realise you're not responding, he'll find other things to do. It takes some training...
augboyz, e key is to correct misbehaviour on e spot....n teach them what they CAN DO....
it takes perserverence ....keep repeating e same message n very soon they will get e message....
btw, my nephews r smart...they know who they can n cannot mess with...i cant be messed with, so they r very polite and well behaved when i'm around....but apparently it is different story with their mum n grandma!!!! so whole family have to be consistent in disciplining e kids ...tink this you must state out clearly fm e start (but abit hard if it is ILs looking after e kid for you ?)
think its T2 .. tats y so bad temper.. my ger also lately keep throwing temper,lie on the floor if cant get what she want.. i use things to divert her attention off .. like her fav Vcds or snacks..
wah, my dear daughter dono how to throw toys or react if ppl snatch her toys..but she have super bad temper also...when she hungry or slpy, she will scream n pull her hair...so fierce......-.-"
My gal is doing it now. She is 22mths. She throws when she gets fed-up with something or when the bros irritate her. Sometimes, she purposely will aim at one of the bros and hit them on target.
Oh boy.....i hate this terrible-two phase in toddlers.
How do i control ???? I've to keep picking the stuff up and put them back at her hand and tell her, "No...no...no throw", "Throw wrong, No". Does it work ? NOT but i gotta be PATIENT !....sigh
my dear son also another T2 here! he also lks to throw toys, tv remote, books & even our hps sm xs!!! OMG!!!
but now he dont dare to throw hps after i explained to him that is not meant for throwing lk toys. [now he even bring hp to us wen ringing & going out times! ]
he will cried & yell loudly wen he dont gets what he wans ! sm xs will endup vomitting!
my son is also like that.
In public he is also lk that throwing things crying loudly dont't want to sit in his pram or carry just want to walk but walk as though he was drunk so no choice we have to carry him cz he is always blocking people & we have to keep saying sorry... so we carry him. But he will scream as though he has been abuse.