when my 2nd baby is born my 1st daughter also around 17mth+
i would say it's impossible for me to take care 2 babies without any help, and specially if you intend to breast feed ...
during my confinement i was very glad i had 2 mothers (my mom and inlaw) taking care of me and my 1st dear daughter so i can breastfeed my newborn...thou i really want to bf her for 6mth as my 1st one, but too bad i can only tahan to bf her for 1 month .
coz after confinement my mom went back and i need to take care the girls alone.
it was really difficult...coz if i put my eldest girl together in the room with me bf-ing my newborn then my newborn really can not concentrate...my eldest girl also very active, she would babling loudly, and always cry want my attention.. she dont want anyone else untill i care for her first...so it's like she's jelous of her new sister.
lucky enough my newborn are more easier to handle... she slept long hours, and she's very fast get used of her jie-jie's scream and banging toys...poor little sister.