CWL, I want to assure you that your girl will still be closer to you eventually. i've a similar arrangement like you except my in-laws do not live with us, but we are near. i even let my boy stays over 1-2 nights at their place every week so i get my own personal time for late work, gym or date with hubby or galfrens. in the end, my son who just turns 1 year old on the lunar calendar a few days ago, behaves better at home when with us and closer to ME :-) just make sure to play with her during weekends to create more bonding but it's just a natural thing she still sees you everyday, you put her to bed and you are the last person she sees every night before she sleeps. she knows you are MUMMY!