hi,my plan is one biy and one girl,total is two.No more.for your reference only.
This is a discussion on After 1st baby, any1 care to go for #2? within the General Parenting Discussion forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; i'm been thinking since after my first baby should i have a second one.. cos if we wanted to have ...
i'm been thinking since after my first baby should i have a second one.. cos if we wanted to have a second baby.. all the stuffs can put aside.. then stretch marks dont have to bother so much.. piles can wait.. etc
but i really doubt if i have the courage to go for #2. baby are adorable.. but if you think about it.. wen i'm preg my hubby find it such a chore to even massage my leg.. feels that preg like so ez.. every $ and cents also calculate.. then i have to pay these and that... really have to think twice for second 1..
hi,my plan is one biy and one girl,total is two.No more.for your reference only.
I had phobia getting p[regnant again coz my first pregnancy got me very sick and had to go thru very long labor and process. Tried for normal but ended up c-sect. Miserable and very stressful. On top of that, my recovery from c-sect was slow coz i still feel pain after 3 months. wonder if that's normal. i wasn't working for a year while caring for my 1st baby. i was there to see thru every milestone. Not easy caring for my baby coz she was quite difficult to handle. In-laws aren't helping to how i wanted it to be and frankly you can't depend on them much. But nevertheless, i do appreciate my mother in law's help eventhough she almost send me to depression mode. She tried. I told myself not to have 2nd coz of my 1st experience. was afraid to go thru again but then again, i gather some courage and decided to go for 2nd. Yeah, the $$$ and arrangement / planning on who to take care of #1 and #2 do really matter. What's important is to think thoroughly about your financial and discuss with your husband. you need his support.
for me, i'm hoping to have 2, a boy n a gal. now w the recession n all, dont dare to have no. 2. my 1st pregnancy was a nice happy 1 w lots of love, understanding n attn by husband. no morning sickness or watever. only fatigue n crazy appetite. so no phobia. but some ppl say that if 1st pregnancy very ez, 2nd 1 sure will b like hell. so that's also partly y i got a bit of phobia of having no. 2. n my boy is very ez to take care since birth. scared no. 2 gives me hell. hahaha... havent happen then so much fear already.
my boy and my one and only baobei~
time & the lov for your baby will encourage you to hav another 1
what more now the maternity package in spore is very attractive -- i dont get enjoy them at all for my 2 kids!!!
dont wait too long -- ;p
the package i find not attractive enough . hahaha...
me not much time left also. just a few more yrs if really want no. 2. but i think will have diffi pregnancy the next round 'cause i stop exercising regularly. last time exercise regularly, which i think, is the main reason y i had ez, smooth n happy pregnancy. recovery also fast.
mayb will b like cancan, just have my boy - 1 n only baobei. hahaha...
anyway, i dont really like to plan such things. like to let nature takes its course. just like the way i had my no. 1.
most women ultimately will settle down for family planning, so with the baby bonus -- at least the cost of supplements & transports etc r covered by gov & you starts saving 4 the newborn education ;p
if i dont hav kids at very young age, i would hav enjoyed those & can spend longer time with my dear daughter & dear son before returning to work!!
if i dont have any kids yet, w the bonus, i'll try to have 1 baby. but now got 1 already, unless the bonus is more attractive, then i'll have another. hahaha...
well for me, yes, had my No2 when first was NB at 6months. Though of having them as a close gap to bring them up together.
Having kids is a family planning. Most impt is to have dear husband support, so that emotionally there is still someone to turn to.
as for me still thinkg for 2nd baby and i'm 32 yrs alredy. My boy now is 5 yrs old. When expecting my boy i had very bad experiences like i had a very bad toothache(every night crying), very bad vomitting till need an injection due to dehydration. But during delivery quite smooth. No epidural needed coz my baby is small only 2.3kg but still not ezy to push.LOL...
Last edited by Maria76; 30-11-2008 at 11:37 PM.
Anyways what is the latest maternity package apart from the 16 weeks leave?
Baby bonus izzit 4k? and somemore got that co-savings one issit?
new plan is 16 weeks, 1st 2 kids is cash 4k and 3rd and 4th is 6k... co-saving same, $ to $ matching... plus 6 days childcare leaves...
actually me always think that 1 is enuff but accidentally got my no.2 so i thought just right 1 boy and 1 gal.. now i accidentally expecting my no.3 .. haha no choice... once the baby comes then you'll slowly accept it... many plans had to be defer but bo bian... anyway i'm gonna 'tie' up after this! too much accident... keke
wow! you will get to recv 3 baby bonuses!
haha... nope only 2.. cos my 1st child is in yr 2000... that time no baby bonus yet.. keke~ but 2 also not bad ... my 2nd one only entitled to 3k cos that time is old plan....
I always wanted to have one girl and one boy. Now i dont intend to have #2 because nobody to take care of baby, feeling bad to send to infant care. When babies cried, this teacher can only handle one baby at a time. Later she got frustated and beat her...aiyo..
yeah...me facing same problem too so putting it on hold until further notice...or at least if i am able to be stay at home mum...
yeah...infant care centres are supposedly to be 1 to 1....normally if baby cries they just leave there unattended until they are done with whatever they are doing, coz infant care norm comes with childcare as well, dont think they will beat baby ....LOLs but maybe frustrated or what ...and it is impossible to employ just 1 person to care for the infant so....haiya, canx blame them , difficult to do business in singapore also.
yup, and not all ppl in infant care are proven better then "maids" they might share the same abusive characters as "maids" loh...
so unless you can find someone you really trust the caregiver part, if not, hold on first.
As for my case, i have a daughter who has just turned 8 mths and im preggie with my 2nd one alrdy. about 4 mths now.. 2nd one was an accident but no regrets so far. you will just face it once you have e 2nd one. I think that one boy n one ger is just enuff but unfortunately tis 2nd one is also ger. But its alrite what matters is they r both healthy n happy. that's e most impt thing. My 1st pregnancy was very terrible. I have bleeding and hence I've got to lie on bed for 7mths and onli allowed to go toilet which is only 3 steps away frm me. Imagine the boredom. I felt that i was crippled or something. And i had all the morning symptoms..vomitting etc..plus i need to go to my gynae every week for injections to stable my baby for the first 4 mths. It was a unforgettable exp. But now im perfectly alrite. I didnt have any morning sickness and i can go anywea i want.
Once you see e happy faces on your kids, you will know that everything is worthwhile. So i would encourage you to go for a 2nd child...
i always wanted to have alot of children, seems so fun in a crowded house. i dont't like quiet house.
but reality check, really difficult to raise alot of kids in singapore... so i tink we will stop at number 2.
currently i suspect i'm preg with no#2.... this saturday will confirm tho!! hehe
but hubby say if no#2 still not getting a boy then die die have to make #3...
Hahaha , this type of thing how to gamble ? Can he confirm if no.2 is ger no.3 will be a boy ? I got one auntie keep wanted to have boy already have 3 ger then try for no.4 .. Too bad she cant get what she want end up baby become abnormal(coz of her age) maybe also becoz baby come out when she was 6months ..
I know most of the guys same mind set die die want a boy .. Hope you dont mind me saying this
wow! feel bad for your auntie! ya, if age is not convenience better stop trying loh....
well its chinese family mind set like that one... also my dear husband is the eldest in the family (tho i told him he have a little brother anyway so why feel pressurised rite?) but ..well...
for me i love to have all girls club.. i just like baby girls..sisters... hehe and girls can be tough and reliable too!
in my family i have 1 big bro and 1 lil sis, then my big bro passed away years ago, so left me and my sis who take care everything even when the time my dad was really sick and can't move, we're the one who running here and there all night. so, daughters can be as tough as sons too..
it's just that after married, they do feel like the loose the daughter thou... this is y..