Tell them to ask for what they want, and they'll be scared to do it.
Tell them to be themselves, and they'll be scared to do it.
Imagine if you were the kid, you might change your behaviour, but you might not know the reason why you have to change it. You won't know how to apply morals to other things, you might stop doing one thing, and do 5 other bad things. Why do you think kids grow up to smoke even if they are in a 'good' family? You must teach the kids to think for themselves and what's
It's better to build a kid up instead of tearing him down.