Hugs~ can imagine the pain.. Im a single mummy n my only fear is one day my boy will tell me he rather not to b borned. I feel that way n wished my mum hadnt gave birth to me often, though i really love her..
I think, she doesnt really mean that she hates you. She's sad n disappointed n frustrated n hurt. Its cos she loves you soo much that it made her so hurt. Try placing yourself in her shoes n im sure you can understand her feelings more.
How old is she? Instead of asking her y she lied, y dont you think about y she lied yrself? Whats the lie she said about her lunchbox?
I was a child myself before, you were too dear. Have you never ever told a lie in yr whole life? Y do we lie? To cover up for something we did. For children, younger ones lie bcos they cant rmb the exact things that happened. Older kids lie bcos they wish it had happened. No parents want their child to b a lier. But focusing the her mistake doesnt help.
Do you always make plan for something n change yr mind last min n change the plan? Like the swimming n library part? When you made plans to take her swimming, she has probably been excited n looking forward to it. Yes she may enjoy library trips, but when you had 'promised' swimming n changed to library it becomes breaking yr promise to her. It may b just a little joke to you, but have you thought how serious n important it meant to her?
Kids r kids. To them, every word from us matters. Us acknowleging their efforts, us unplease with their wrong behaviour, our promises. It may b a small thing to us but to them it really means alot.
Imagine yr boss telling you increase yr pay then next moment tells you he change his mind. Its that serious to children.
Rmb, to children, parents r their everything. At least before they grow up n have their own world. If you keep 'breaking' yr words, you'll make her lose trust in you. N if she cant even trust her mummy who is soo soo soo impt to her, who can she turn to?? you r crushing her world, though thats the last thing you wld ever wanna do.
Also, girls tend to b more sensitive n emotional. As children grow they change. This lil joke that didnt bother her ytd may mean so much today.
Parenting is like a course. N our child is our result slip. you may fail this subject today. R you gonna give up? Study hard n im sure you'll do better the next paper. Its ok to make mistake. Parents r childrens' 'god', but we r actually only human. Jiayou mummy!!