This is a discussion on maid vs cc within the General Parenting Discussion forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; I agree... tats y i am willing to pay more for small ratio schools.... Thanks Ston Ston... Originally Posted by ...
Really like very ke lian go home cannot go home.
But I guess when young, having a maid will make us feel scared coz dont't know what the maid do. But once kid is in Pri School, can more clearly verbalise their emotions and needs, having a maid might not be such a bad idea and if anything goes wrong, they know how to call parents or run away or stuff like that...
true... maybe just put cc first then when bigger then employ maid.... sigh.....
Ya, there are pros and cons to each option. I suppose end of day, it depends on what are your priorities?
I have my fair share of runaway maid. Though I do see good ones around, but the bad ones outweigh the good ones. Frankly, it's may not be the maid's problem, the maid agency also pay a role... Besides, with a maid, not only you are dealing with the child's development challenges, also the psychology and welfare of the maid (missing her home, family, kids etc etc...) Communication is also part of the challenges.
From my experience, I opt for CC. Esp under no supervision, I can't bear the thought of worrying for my son in a maid's care, esp when he can't fend for himself now. I mean his safety is my 1st priority.
But that's me. Like Stonston, if I can find a realible domestic helper that I can trust, and financially I can still send my son to some development programs. I really dont't mind having one. It's more flexible. Most probably I will choose playgroups instead of half day CC. Some playgroups require "parents" to be present as part of the program, having a domestic helper helps. Some programs are few hours only and dom.helper helps in terms of the transportation. It's like an extended arm of yours. (How I love Julia Gabriel's, but it's so ex.!!) At the same time, you can also buy home-based enrichment programs so that dom.helper or you can play with your kid!
If above fails, then I think CC full day is my next best option. Though CC are govern by MCYS... but i think it is at the top level. On the daily operations, I think better for the parent to watch out for (e.g. the meals, the teachers turnover, cleanliness etc...) There are many blogs on the CC-good and bad. Also, CC with diff. intensity of development programs at diff price range of course.
When the child is older, maybe getting a dom.helper is also safer since he can talk and fend for himself now. And as the child gets older, the CC/kindergarden usu. cost lesser than when younger, so financially is better? That's my 2cent thots ...
I will tell myself to close 1 eye... can't get the best of the 2 worlds, esp. when it comes to dealing with human - dom.helper or CC teachers. But some mummies will beg to differ .
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and if MAID, gonna place her with parent in law/parents just to play safe.
Personally, I m still not convinced that a maid can be left together with a young child alone......, although there are many successful cases that i had known of.
there are many mummies out there whom are left with really no choice but to place baby with maid only. Its really depends on luck whether you are able to get a good maid to trust your baby with.
If you really get maid, you must be mentally prepared to send the maid home if the maid is not up to standard. My current maid is my 5th maid within a year.
5th maid in a year?! Wah... Must be quite tiring on you to train and re-train.
My current maid did not need any training AT ALL. All I told her was, "No handphones allowed, you want to call home you tell me, I'll let you call anytime using my phone. This is your cupboard, you can put your things here, no one will touch them. You are free to eat anything in the house but if you want to eat something expensive, let us know first. If your snacks/bread/tea/coffee going to finish, let us know so we can go & buy. Housework is up to you to decide when you want to do what, but I expect the bedsheets to be changed once a week & windows washed once a month & the floors must be clean at all times. As long as the house is clean & baby is well taken care of, you are allowed to rest. Everything at home, you must listen to me or ahma (my mum). If sir or ahgong (my dad) ask you to do things, must call & ask me first."
She automatically looked through all the cupboards at home to check where is what, rearranged some of the utensils, checked out the fridge. Asked me about my family's timing (what time go work, what time feed my boy, etc) & automatically set her own timetable & checked if it was ok with me.
The previous maid who was just as good as my current was also like that. No need to train, just bring home & she's very automatic. That's why I dont give chance to those who can't perform. You cant perform up to my standards, I'll send you back to agent. You are dishonest (steal/lie), I you straight back to your kampong. No negotiation. Once you set your standards, the maids will know you mean business.
My agent knows I'm very fussy & picky about my maid so she only recommend the 'better ones'. But strangely, her Filipino maids not very good, but her Indon maids always very good. So we ended up getting an Indon maid instead (at first thought that look after baby, get Filipino better cos they are 'smarter' and no language barrier but my current maid can speak fluent english although not always grammatical correct).
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Wow... Ok... Thanks.. Now I know what I should roughly be looking out for.
Last time my mum always employed maids and need to train, watch her do things so I was under the impression that all maids gotta train so that they perform up to your standard.
depend on the agency themselves. some they also get the new n no exp maids, so need to train.
my uncle also run a maid agency(after his filo wife passed away, he took over...), but his maids r all those more experienced n trained kind.
They have already been told of our expectations in their training centre. It's a matter of 'acting blur' to escape from work only!
I know of maids who pretend that they dont know how to cook so that they dunnid to cook, but when they are alone at home, they can whip up a feast for themselves!
& my maid will take out my slipper/shoes & place them beside the door when I'm going out. No need to ask her, unless I decide to wear another pair of shoes, just tell her & she'll take it out for me.
Important is that she worked for a big family in Msia before, their expectations very very high, so she already knows what to do
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If really need i will choose cc, unless there's someone around to help to see the maid. That day just saw a maid bringing a boy to school, think around P1 or P2, the maid walking infront and keep talking on the hp and left the boy walking behind her and cross the road himself...the maid didn't even turn around to check. I really dont feel safe to let them take care of my children.
I think CCC will be a better option unless you're leaving the maid with someone else in the house. At least Alaric will have a chance to learn some stuff and mingle with other kids.