maybe buy the gate?
This is a discussion on stop son from going to kitchen n bathroom within the General Parenting Discussion forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; hi mummies, have you come across your child who likes to follow you everywhere you go? last time when my ...
hi mummies, have you come across your child who likes to follow you everywhere you go? last time when my son was still crawling, i can stop him from going to kitchen, now he dont listen to us. even after we smack his butt, he still want to go in, he is 15mths old now. how?
maybe buy the gate?
smacking his butt may not be the answer if he refuses to obey! Does he follow you when you are cooking? If not, you may let him stay in the kitchen with you. Secure the place before so he doesn't have access to breakable ustensil. You can tell him to stay in one corner and give him stuffs like spoon, pans to play. Kids love to play with other things than toys. So why dont't you let do it. Or you can buy some kitchen toys and let him play with them while you are in the kitchen.
If you really dont't want to let him go to the kitchen or bathroom, why dont't you close the door?
actually $55 is ok lahs, you can use for quite a few yrs.
you rather spend that $55 to keep your son safe or pay more when your son gets hurt?
Actually for me I have no no problems with my son following me ino kitchen.. He's knows the toilets are out of bounds tho cos I have Been telling him no no to toilets cos they r wet. For kitchen as long as they r safe with no hot stuff that they can reach I'm ok with it
i bought the luckybaby gate to 'lock' the kitchen. i dont lik to close the kitchen door, cos once lock, i can hardly hear what's going on outside, quite 'unsafe'. and lik what Ting said, $55 is actually okay, at least can keep them out of the kitchen yet he can stand outside and kitchen to see what you're doing. i dont allow dear son to go to the kitchen, too dangerous =)
$55 baby gate is a steal already. You go Paragon & buy, 1 gate at least $100+++!
Anyway, closing the door is not long term solution cos they learn to open it.
The gate has a safety lock. And they can still see you but just can't enter.
For my boy, he likes to go kitchen to help in food prep like mixing marinates, adding pepper, etc. Sometimes he just wanna see what's going on.
My maid will put him on the high chair (away from hot items) & give him plastic spoon & bowl. He'll just play around.
And we always remind him that fire is dangerous.
For the toilet, we allow him to go in cos we wanted to toilet train him.
However, this meant that we did not leave any pail in the toilet at all.
& my boy hates wet toilet floors, so he won't step in when it's wet.
You must slowly explain. My son at 15mths could understand when we told him "no" & explain to him. At that time, we also had a play yard whichhe is more busy with at that time.
Empty vessels make the most noise
where can I find the $55 gate?
I agree with what ting say... better to spend a bit then he hurt himself in the end...
i cant rmb what brand i used. i bought from kiddy palace.... think arns $70-80 and i bought the extension also. $20++..
i think its also lucky baby??? cant rmb.
used it since pin was less than 1 yo.. my KS mother went to buy when she was 3 mths old. LOL!
it was only at 3 yo then she learnt the technique to open the gate by observing us for a long time. wakakakakaka~
i yesterday placed my son in his high chair and gave him 2 magnets to play n he was fine and quiet while i was washing his milk bottles until my mum came to ka jiao him then he tried to stand up on his high chair. sigh
i think magnets r quite dangerous, cos what if the magnetic part drops out n he swallows it?
i think giving him his usual toys r much safer.
as for high chair, you need to strap him in so that he will not be able to stand up.. if not, put him in a play pen or play yard if you have one.
anybody knows if I can get a gate without mounting on the wall type? Ikea ones need to nail onto the wall.. mine only have one wall, the other side is cabinet (bar counter)
mine is like using the sticky tape type.
think its the lucky baby one.
we teach our boy that kitchen is out of bounds for him since he started walking at 12 months. it's the same rule at my mum's place as well as at our own home. he knows and he has been good so far. but for the past couple of weeks, he has been testing his boundaries and trying to inch his feet across and over the kitchen threshold. it's normal for kids to test boundaries. we maintain the same discipline and instructions, and scold/smack him if necessary. we have a set of safety gates which are hand-me-downs, but for his own safety, we'd rather he learns to understand instructions and obey us (even if it's the hard way) when we do tell him strictly 'no', rather than have to resort to barriers. after all, if the scenario is changed to outdoors where there may not be barriers and he has not learnt to recongise danger and obey our 'no', it may be potentially life-threatening.
but we also understand his curiosity and wanting to see what we are doing, do what we are doing. so with him testing waters recently, we are trying to teach him to learn to ask for permission, in the same way that he has learnt to ask for food/water/toys/books. if he wants to join us in the kitchen, he can, provided one of us is carrying him, eg to the sink to brush his teeth, or if we put him into his high chair and let him eat with us or play with his fork/spoon/bowl while we are cooking, or play with flour/dough when i am baking.
he likes to be 'involved' when he sees us in the kitchen, which i think is typical toddler behaviour. =)
Last edited by cmeilim; 12-11-2010 at 12:13 PM.
Tandem nursing 31mo Korkor and 10mo Didi!
Since Eva started learning how to walk, we decided to make two areas - the toilet and the yard (where the washing machine, dishwasher and detergent, etc are) "off-limits" to her, meaning the moment she starts heading to that place, we'll go " , not for Eva".
We allow her into the kitchen to help her develop her sense of interest in every day routine like cooking and we'd like for her to feel as if she's part of us when hubby and I are in the kitchen preparing meals. But we keep things high up (thankgoodness for shelving and wall cabinets) and the non-breakables as well as baby safe objects on the lower shelves. When I'm in there and she wants to kaypoh in the kitchen as well, I give her a hand whisk and mixing bowl to play with. When she's bored, she'll open the kitchen drawer that contains baking paper, aluminium foil, storage bags, measuring cups and "rearrange" them. If she gets bored with that, she'll head over to the open shelf we have - I keep tupperwares there and she'll amuse herself with it.
I dont't allow her to stay in the kitchen and toilet unsupervised and I also teach her that certain cabinets in the kitchen are off-limits. Most of the time, she obeys simple instructions and will go to the drawers that she can open. I read that it's good to have a dedicated cabinet or drawer for your little one so that they can feel that not everything is offlimits (otherwise it'll be very frustrating to see all that stuff but cannot touch).
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