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Baber so cute...can put capital letters in middle of words.....creative
to be honest, i sent pin to CC is bcos, i didnt have a choice.
as you all know, i'm a single mum.
before she hit 18 mths, i was a stay at home mum.
yes, i can teach her, play with her all that.. even til she reaches 4.
pin is very bright, she pick up things very fast.
BUT, teaching her n letting her learn new things also need money.
ie, books, edu materials, flash cards, extra "fun" lessons, like what jasobias mentioned.
BUT, i dont have money, i can only work PT (4 hours a day from 6-10pm) after my sis/parents r home from work to look after her.
i think you guys also can calculate one month i only earn how much at that time, only few hundreds. diapers n FM already killing me cos pin is a milk monster, she can finish up one 1.8kg tin in a week or so.
tts why i waited til she was 18 mths n put her in CC.
i worked full time, earn twice as much as i did doing PT n pin gained alot in sch.
she have fun in sch(art classes, dance n sing with her pals), she learnt more, n easily (cos the teachers r sure to know how to teach better than me in term of ABCs n 123s). she have new friends to play with, she goes on excursions(n playgrounds), she learnt to be more independent, n she learnt how to lead.... n much more.
my sis bf's child, she is 5 this yr.
her grandparents look after her (mainly grandfather), i think now she attending PCF or something, i cant rmb...but only 2-3 hours a day.
but she can hardly speak n dont know how to interact with kids.
she cant understand english well, n her chinese is also limited.. so when she is with a bunch of kids, if she dont understand what they r saying (esp english) she just go to one corner n play by herself..
sometimes, i feel sad when i hear about her, cos i feel that if given a chance, she would probably be like pin...
i just feel that, yes, kids this age, they go sch to PLAY, tts their childhood n their nature.
but thru play in CC, they learn how to follow rules, learn about discipline n independence. they train their social skills n interaction with other ppl.
all these can be done thru playing.
you just need to find a right sch.
trial n error lahs. the first CC i trialed in also CMI lorr.. super jialat that one..
well, i never regret placing pin in CC deeee.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
Hence i think early childhood education is important, get them in too late, they will have a hard time adapting.
My generation donx have nursery all kids start school at 5 lOlzzz
i still remember during my time, 1 kid cry, all follow lOlzzzz
i sent my boy to PG when he's 18 months old. he ended up being the youngest in the school. so alw being well taken care of by the teachers n older kids there.
if you intend to send your child 2 sch early, what i think is most impt is to start sourcing early. n if you have any fav sch, better c the plc 1st n if already full, better put yourself in wait list soon.
for me, i started searching for sch very late. so alot of sch r full already.
once you've shortlisted d 1s you like (1st round), bring your child n if possible your husband there 2 c. make sure all r happy w d plc.
my boy learnt alot fr sch. become more independent, more talkative, more cheerful. but only thing is you have 2 b 'heartless' when your child have d separation anxiety in d morning. only prob is 'cause 18 months old child still cant really communicate verbally. so if he/she is bullied / hurt, we wont b able 2 know. asking d teachers may not b helpful either.
so if you worry about dat, it's better 2 spend abit more with higher teacher:student ratio.
another thing is if you r particular of your child's salt / sugar intake, better go for a sch dat'll control that. just realised dat littleskoolhouse doesnt allow sweets 2 be put in goodie bags.
seriously, if you ask me, 1 hr everyday is useless. def cant learn anything if so. d aim of letting him go cc is so dat he learn 2 mix around w other kids, for survival skills.
another thing you may want 2 tell him is dat putting your child at cc is cheaper ('cause got subsidy if working mother). pay lesser yet child can learn more. unless your mother in law used to be a teacher or has childhood education, then she can take over d role like a cc teacher. if not, it's really not worth it .
i just sent you a PM
as for H1N1, my sis's son got it fr shopping malls' arcades, even before he started his N1. so if want kena, even if you never go sch, also can kena 1 . actually H1N1 is not as bad as what media says. unless doc say it's very serious type. only thing is you have 2 sterilise all their toys n pay more attention on their hygiene, cleanliness,...
for me, i started my boy w some supplements (e.g. fish oil n chlorella) to boost his immunity.
There's pros & cons. You should get your husband to go check out the recommended CCs in your area (check out KSP forum for more info before you bring him).
I'm giving tuition now and I see alot of kids who were taken care of by their grandparents and only went to nursery/kindergarten for a few hours a day at 4/5 yo.
You can see their social interaction skills and oral communication skills are very different. Some of their grandparents do not speak English at all and the kids also cannot speak English properly due to lack of practice/exposure.
I send my boy to CCC at 18mths although I have a maid.
At 18mths - 4yo, it's more play and interaction (story telling, art & craft, music/dance) than academic. But they learn through play.
Depending on the CCC, some may be quite academic focused with extra fun enrichments so it saves you alot of time shuttling your kid here & there for different classes.
Later on when your child is older, you can decide to switch to a more academic kindy if that is what you want. Or can just stay at the CCC for half day instead of full day.
My boy is now attending a very academic kindy. He loves going to school & he learnt ALOT there. What he is reading now in both English & Chinese is beyond what I'd expect him to know at 3yo. He was so upset when there was 1 day after CNY that the school was closed but we forget and my maid got him ready for school. Brought him down to wait for the school bus, which did not appear. Drove him to school. Saw the school closed and he was so sad!
Alot of parents (esp in this forum) criticise me for stressing my boy but I know he enjoys school. He gets to play in the morning before school and after school, he still plays. If you want to calculate, 70% of his waking hours are spent playing/watching TV.
You have to know what you want for YOUR CHILD and work towards getting your husband to share the same views as you. My husband shares the same views as me and is very ready to support me in my decisions to send my boy to school. He even participated in checking out the schools, going down to register and making arrangements to follow my boy on school excursions.
Empty vessels make the most noise
Which one you looking at? You must post and ask around in KSP. Sometimes got parents who send their kids there but rather quiet, usually PM each other only.
and i'm sure all kids will soil their clothes while playing and eating right? not a big issue.
I intend to send my boy to Cambridge CDC when he turns 18mths. Mommies, any idea how much are they charging for full day?
Last edited by nataliecxy; 07-03-2010 at 11:21 PM.
my mum was a stay at home mum for over twenty yrs n then she came out to work.. that time iirc she is already like 40 plus? n she can also find a job lahs..
only 2 yrs wont make a difference lahs...its all about YOUR MINDSET.