This is a discussion on stay at home mum - engage your babies all day long? within the Stay at Home or Work at Home Mum Club forum, part of the MummySG Lifestyle category; Hi SAHMs, Anyone could share your daily lifestyle? Do you engage your babies every minute of his waking hours? Do ...
Anyone could share your daily lifestyle? Do you engage your babies every minute of his waking hours? Do you do your chores (cooking, washing) while he's napping or awake?
Besides bathing and feeding (breastfeeding on demand), I tried to sing and read to my boy (coming to 5 months), engage him in physical activities such as let him roll about (he can roll both ways now), stand up (he loves to stand), carry him round the house to see things, watch 15-30 mins of baby edu video...
Thinking that since I'm a stay at home mum, I should maximise my time with him but many times I find I ran out of things to do.
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I'm a stay at home mum and I also fully bfeeding my 15 mths old... have fun!!
when my girl was 5 months old, i would carry her around in 1 hand and do housework with the other while telling her what i'm doing. other times, i would read stories to her, teach her words with those picture books, play toys with her, sing to her, let her play in her exersaucer etc... also let her watch a bit of nursery rhyme dvd.. when the weather is fine, or during evening times, i will put her in her stroller and we'll go for walks.
Wah, your replies put me to shame!
I'm currently still staying with inlaws house so I only need to take care of baby's chores (feed FM,bathe, wash). And I play with her (use her toys let her develop motor skills) ONLY when she fussed a lot, not a regular scheduled duration everyday. So if she doesn't fuss, I leave her alone in her cot/feeding chair or bed to play wih her toys or suck on her teether, while I surf or do stuff on the computer. I can only do her chores/eat/go toilet when she's sleeping or if my inlaw is carrying her.
She's only started to roll over one side these two weeks, so Using those more developed toys are out of the question. When can start putting her in exersaucer? Is it recommended professionally, by your pediatrician ie no major side effects?
I know EVERYONE tells me I should read or sing to her but I'm like, how to read to her when she got ultra short attention span? And where do you all source the books from? I think I'm quite a lazy stay at home mum .... Oops
i also stay with inlaws, and worse, i have 2 babies to taking care to, but most of the time i leave my 2nd girl to my mother inlaw coz she like to sleep in yaolan during the day, and my 1st girl prefer to sleep on bed so i accompany her in the room.
so most of the time i went surfing and when they woke up i start to get busy again (feeding/bathing/playing with them), my mother inlaw is a great help taking care of my 2 girls when i need to prepare baby food or when i need to do my things.
with my 1st girl i still try to read and sing to her since she was very young, but my 2nd girl I can't do it everyday coz my 1st girl is already a handfull..hee~~
i also didn't set up a regular fixed "playing" time with my girls, coz everyday their mood is changing, sometimes they want to take their nap longer, but other times they want to play longer too.
I only bring them out to walk around when really reallyyyy bored at home..
my daughter is 11 months..usually household chores i do when she naps.If she is awake then no choice but to do them while trying to entertain her as well.you cld sing songs to your baby.My daughter loves songs coz i love singing all those nursery songs n stuff.She now loves all kinds of songs even pop n hip pop..wld hum n dance to the tune.
Bringing baby out for errands or a walk is a great destresser for both mum n baby.
i brought my baby out every day.Now tht its the school hols..i bring out all 3 of my kids.Sometimes to places of interest or the playground or just for a walk.
While out with baby you can always point out things he can see..like flowers,dogs,cats etc
Mother to 2 princes and 1 little princess
I'm same with porukadotzu and cocraze.
Never really entertain her much. When she wake up for milk I feed her, after milk she will entertain herself by talking to herself (non stop topic. Lol)
she only make a fuss when her diaper wet, feeding time or sleepy.
Even now I am typing this, I'm lying beside her listening to her talking to herself.
By the way those who are looking for ideas of things to do, you can surf babycenter website. Sign up for their regular newsletter by rgisterin and providing your child's DOB, the system will email you once a week(I thnk) with articles and activities/exercises you can do with your child that week(link is Let's play!). Some articles are cross-shared across the websites from different countries (such as babycenter UK) so the cultural context can be different. So adapt those exercises you think you can try with your child.
Otherwise I would bring girl out for a walk in the evening if it's not raining. Or carry her in carrier go buy my groceries and her milk powder. Or just walk the shopping Ctr let her see see and let me keep my sanity... Haha. She keeps absolutely quiet and looks at pple and things once I step out of the house! *Even when she's absolutely tired, she would stay awake once she's outside, so it's been tiring when we needed to run errands for our new flat.*
My home-visit nurse recommends a mixture of interactive play and independent play daily, which I followed until today (boy is 16 months old). When he was a baby, I'd interact and play with him for 30min or so then let him entertain himself for 30min or until he needs me.
We read, sing, talk (with baby sign language), play silly games (peekaboo, etc), play rough games (practise doling over, crawling, etc).
Then I let him play by himself at play-gym or in cot surrounded by mobile & toys to explore for himself.
When he was about 9 months old and learning very fast, I ran out of ideas. We signed up for Shichida class and started at 14 months old. The programme gives me a good guide on what activities to engage my boy at home. We have 1 hour of homeschooling lessons every morning and creative free play at other times. It's very fun to be stay at home mum.
My boy is clingy during sleep, so I can only prepare his meals in the mornings and do simple chores when hubby is back.
- Senses play
- Image play
- Pretend play
- Flashcards (mainly from Shichida, or home-made) covering various topics, picture sentences, mathematics
- Reading & speed-reading
- Photographic memory
- Linking memory
- Puzzles (lift-out puzzles, jigsaw puzzles, matching puzzles)
- Abacus play
- Singing (incorporating baby hand-signs)
- Playing with musical instruments
- Scribbling / doodling, drawing, colouring (going to start painting soon)
- Physical exercise / play (kick ball, climb, chase, jump, etc)
- Water play in bath tub
In the 1 hour, we do a mixture of the above. Most important thing is have fun while learning. I also follow my boy's cue on his preference for the day. E.g. If he wants to read more books and skip the abacus, i'd go with his flow.
Each activity is kept very short & sweet (just a few minutes unless he insists) so that he does not get bored. I also need to maintain a happy and enthusiastic mood to keep him interested.
During lesson, the room is kept cluttered-free (e.g. no toys lying around) to minimise distraction. So far, we have been enjoying the home lessons. With more time, it'd be even better to personalize own materials (e.g. books, puzzles, flashcards).
you mind explaining how you do the following please? esp the abacus I have yet to start on her. wud appreciate if can share with me. THe rest more or less I am doing with my toddler di.
- Senses play
- Image play
- Photographic memory
- Linking memory
- Abacus play
- Senses play: sharpen child's senses. E.g. one card with triangle & one card with square. Shuffle and ask him to find the square card. Or cover 2 fruits in containers, let him smell and find the correct food. There are many types of senses play.
- Image play: get child to image something in his mind
- Photographic memory: e.g. show 1 picture for a few seconds. After that, show 2 picture which are very similar except for 1 slight difference. Ask child to identify the correct picture.
- Linking memory: use small picture cards to form silly stories and show to child. After that, place the cards face down in the story sequence and ask child to identify the correct card. Start with 3-6 cards and slowly add more.
- Abacus play: I use the Ikea toy abacus with 100 beads. Do rapid & loud counting, e.g. 1-10, even numbers, odd numbers, addition, in different languages. We use the Shichida Addition +1 to +10 songs CD too. You can probably make up your own songs.
The above is very basic of what can be easily done at home. More challenging activities are introduced as the child grows older. If you are interested, do learn from a suitable centre.
Last edited by Mummy to Baby very; 26-06-2010 at 11:15 AM.
Storefront) and make your own materials. I'm not sure where retailers in Singapore are.
The method is different from Shichida and I think does not include senses/image play. At least the parts on reading & Math should help. The system repeats flashcards on quite a number of days, so if the child is bored (I.e. already knows the stuff), just move on and use new cards.
I sincerely believe that children learn fastest and easiest at age 0-3, so it is important to teach them when they are thirsty for knowledge. Have fun with baby!
when I was taking care of Ian on my own during my ML and as for now during weekends when we are at home, we give him a mixture of directed and free play. we believe babies should not be spoilt into having adult attention 100% of the time, but it is impt that they also learn how to play by themselves, exploring toys and books on their own, or just chill out and hang loose.
i do most of the engagement in directed play, roping in daddy's help when i need a break. we carry him around the house to point out things to him and teach him new vocabulary, read (story books, nursery rhymes), sing songs, do action songs, dance, exercise, watch a bit of baby tv or educational dvds, listen to classical music/phonics CDs/children's songs, do puppetry (hand puppet, finger puppets), play with toys, and most recently try to get him to do some art (more like scrawling with a fat crayon), simple role play (eg cooking), bring him to push his walker downstairs and play at the playground.
so far, our family decision is no need for enrichment classes of the academic or brain training kind for now. but hubby and I agreed that gym classes that focus on physical development and social skills can be beneficial and are in fact starting classes at The Gym from this Sunday now that Ian can walk.
If any mummy is keen to start playing phonics CD to their babies/young tods, I am selling one of the phonic CDs I use cheaper than at other online stores. My boy will squeal with delight and dance with the singing whenever I play it. Now he tries to mimick the first song for the letter 'a', by going 'ae-ae-ae'. Very amusing. It comes with a big colourful songbook which you can use to teach them the corresponding letters.
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Tandem nursing 31mo Korkor and 10mo Didi!
oh yeah, ian also loves playing puzzles a lot when his pincer grip was established. we love melissa and doug wooden puzzles (chunky ones as well as those with pegs for easy grasping). i also got him a variety of kid-size musical instruments for him to tinkle around with, since he loves music. we have tambourines, castanet, wrist bells, wooden piano, xylophone, samba drum.
my hubby jokes that i run an in-house all-rounder enrichment programme, and he saves a lot of money from sending ian to external classes, lol!
haha, i just realise this is under the stay at home mum thread, but i am a full time working mum. Well, just sharing what a full time working mum can do when she is at home. =) There are a whole lot of things to do with our kids - parents dont't need to be trained. just need to spend a bit of time and effort to read up, exchange ideas with other mummies (like what we are doing here!), be creative, and essentially be child-like. =)
Last edited by cmeilim; 30-06-2010 at 01:48 PM.
Tandem nursing 31mo Korkor and 10mo Didi!
but its neither cheap cause the materials cost thousands! but i got mine really cheap (used) hehe.. n got the books passed down too.