I've been a stay at home mum ever since my pregnancy, and my mom only helped me for a week with confinement as she had to go back to work. For the rest of the time, I'm always alone with my daughter as we are staying in our own place. My in-laws sometimes come over and they also fuss very easily over my girl. I didn't understand at all, and wanted everything to be my way. Of course with my in laws, it's a bit harder to tell them in the face. With my mom, it was easier to tell her and she also respected my views. But she also had her own thinking, believing that i'm inexperienced and know nothing about caring for my baby.
I cherish the quality time I have with my girl alone at home, but sometimes I also like my parents to come and look after her, while I go out alone, or go pak-toh with my husband. It gives me a good break from everything and helps me to relieve stress.
After a while, I learnt to let go about certain things/ways they look after my girl.