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I'm planning to come out to work soon, as some things happen to my side, i feel that i should be financial independant rather than depending on my hubby for the rest of my life.
As what my friends told me i'm still young, shouldnt stay at home, yah maybe they are right. So now planning to take Retail Course to prepare myself into the work force in the future.
Any mummies planning to work too? Share what's yr worries etc...
My worry is i cant spend much time with my kids.
I've the same worries as you ladies when I wanna come out and work. But you know, you can't get the best of both of worlds so I know I have to make sacrifices.
(Anyway, using our Hubby's money isn't good either. My mother in law complain that I spend her son money on unnessacery things. And even comment that why I can't come out to work and earn money myself. Upon hearing all these, it just motivate me to find a job.)
I put my dear daughter under my mum's care during the weekdays when I'm working (cause I got selfish in laws that dont't wanna help me look after her)
I only get to bring her back on the weekends. So, I tend to treasure the time with my dear daughter and always will make full use of every single moment I had with her. I can even give up meeting friends or go out till late because I know I have to make up to her for not able to be with her during the weekdays.
It's been almost 7 months since I started working. I never regret putting dear daughter with my mum because I know she's always in good hands. But right now, I'm thinking of bringing her back and put her in the CC near my hubby's place.
My worries, I'm afraid that dear daughter might not be able to adapt to CC environment cause there's so many children and I doubt the teachers will give her the attention that she use to get it from my mum.
Another worry is, scare she dont't have enough to eat at CC, scare she can't sleep in CC because of new environment. Scare she's too mischevious till teachers also BTH her. Scare she'll kana punish by teachers if she misbehave.
We mummies always have so much to worry =(
im julia, the pigpig. www.thy-princessmemoirs.blogspot.com
I am a working mum & i definitely agree to be financial independent. As i find i have more power on hsehold matter. haha! & during confinement, i am totally involve with our new member and being a first time mum, i got alot to learn and i sort of loss contact with the world so i cant imagine what will i become if i become full time mum.
My baby is 7mths old and she is under my mum's care. I try to visit my baby every evening and bring her back on Friday night. Or I try to ask my mum stay over at my home with baby for a nite on Thursday so i can have more time with my baby. Or if i didnt have time to visit her on weekday, i will phone and try to tok to her over the phone. Now my baby will request me to carry her or feed her even though my mum is around.
I find is the quality time you had with your baby not how much time you spend with your baby. I try to do all my housework before she come back either on Thursday or Friday, so that i can have all my time to play and to communicate with her.
I suppose all mums misses their little darlings at home. But when they have to work I think they just have no choice but to bring them back on the weekends?
For my case, I just start working full time a few mths back and trying to start my freelancing. My husband and I are not on good terms, a few mths back he moved back to his mum's place already. My mum is helping me with my 2 girls while I'm working. At night, I can only afford to bring one home with me which is the younger one. (She is harder to handle) THe elder one will make noise about going home with me, it hurts alot to see her sad. But I just cant cope with 2 at home alone while having things to settle at home. Plus my mum cant cope 2 kids in the morning as she have to open/tend her shop. (As my elder one slps till quite late which is about 12plus 1, so she sleeps at my mum's place will be easier and also by then my dad will be awake to help out)
The only thing I am doing is that I will go over to my mum's place every night after work and have dinner with my elder daughter, else spend some time with her before bringing the younger one home. I also bring them out alternately on sun so as to spend quality time with each of them. I dont know if this is the best way out, but at this point this is the best option I can think of...