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stay at home mum to full time working mum

This is a discussion on stay at home mum to full time working mum within the Full Time Working Mum Club forum, part of the MummySG Lifestyle category; Hi mummies, I am currently a stay at home mum, gg back to work in 1 month's time. Going to put my dear son ...

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    stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Hi mummies,

    I am currently a stay at home mum, gg back to work in 1 month's time.
    Going to put my dear son in infant care, he is turning 1 year soon. Very very bu she . But economy so bad, if got job better work.
    I am running a one man show here. When start working, i will fetch him home, must cook dinner for him as well.
    Mummies can share how you managed to get dinner done on time. Thought of buying those fuzzy logic rice cooker. dont know useful or not? I am currently using slow cooker to cook his porridge but since it has no timer, cannot use it next time.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Hi Happymummy,

    I am a full time working mum too.....before my son turn 1, normally my hubby will fetch him and when we reach home, we will prepare porridge for him, since it is easier to cook....but before tht we prepare like the veges, we cut into little pieces 1st and pre-cook the stock to be used within 3 days and meat also cut into little pieces so save time.....

    After my son turn 1, sometime too lazy to cook, so we bought like soupy noodles like wanton noodles or fish soup, then we gave him a bit, but without the soup of cos.....now tht he can take more variety of food, so we take it easy also, not really have to cook everyday except weekend

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    i worry not enuf time to cook . dont know whether have to work late or not. but i will not think so much first until i start work. what kind of stock do you use? how you make? normally i put all the ingredients into the slow cooker to cook e porridge.

    i slowly letting my dear son try outside food . but outside food quite salty so i will rather cook. but if no time, also no choice .

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    There's this "magic cooker" which you can try.. Before you left for work, put in the rice, fish, meat, veg and boil the metal pot till it boils and place it in the thermal case. Will be cooked when you come home..

    Just my concern: Is yr employer aware that you can't work overtime and you need to leave on time to pick up yr baby? What happens when you are required to work overtime? Who will pick up yr baby?

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    i got e magic cooker but it did not cook the rice to soft porridge. maybe i will try again.

    think my employer should be quite ok with me picking up my child . worse, will get mother in law to travel there to pick him . sigh... how i wish i can continue to be a stay at home mum.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Quote Originally Posted by HappyMommy View Post
    i got e magic cooker but it did not cook the rice to soft porridge. maybe i will try again.

    think my employer should be quite ok with me picking up my child . worse, will get mother in law to travel there to pick him . sigh... how i wish i can continue to be a stay at home mum.
    just passing by ..... wonder what's mean full time working mum ...( full time work mummy ?)
    Last edited by i1babes; 07-05-2009 at 03:58 PM.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    stay at home mum-stay at home mum
    part time working mum-PTWM
    full time working mum-full time working mum

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Quote Originally Posted by HappyMommy View Post
    i got e magic cooker but it did not cook the rice to soft porridge. maybe i will try again.

    think my employer should be quite ok with me picking up my child . worse, will get mother in law to travel there to pick him . sigh... how i wish i can continue to be a stay at home mum.

    Maybe you trial n error yr cooker again.. Maybe it's the timing? My friend used her magic cooker to cook porriage for her dear daughter. So far so good.

    Good, at least you got yr mother in law as a fallback to help you pick up yr child.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Quote Originally Posted by Ottermum View Post
    stay at home mum-stay at home mum
    part time working mum-PTWM
    full time working mum-full time working mum

    hehehe tnxxxxxx

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    regarding the porridge part, you can try this:
    morning before go work you put rice (grind it slightly by pounding it), meat and vege into a thermo flask (for porridge type), then pour boiling hot water into it. by e time you reach home, it's cooked

    i've tried this before when i had to send my terrible maids home n waitin for new maid to arrive. you gotta play around with the amt of water though.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Hi Mummies,

    I'm a stay at home mum. Intend to go back to work now that my second child is 8months. I'm deciding between sending my baby to infant care(same place as my elder son's childcare centre) or getting a maid for my mum who is also looking after my sis's 3month old baby. My concerns on the 2 options.

    Infant care - Not sure if I can manage picking my 2 children from the centre at the same time after work. Carry my baby using baby carrier then hold my 3yr old elder son's hand and squeeze up the bus with school bags. My husband drives to work but sometimes he need to work OT so can't commit to pick up the kids. Currently my father-in-law helps to pick my elder son when my husband can't pick him. Another problem is reach home still need to prepare dinner. My elder son is a fussy eater so he eats very little at the childcare and by the time he reach home, he can be quite hungry. Not sure he can wait for me to cook. I can't cook very well also. Scared baby fall sick easily then I need to take many leave days to look after baby. Advantage is teachers there are trained so can help a lot with their development but it's not 1:1.

    Maid - Maid will stay with my mum Mon-Fri, weekends will afternate between my sis and my place since we are sharing the costs. Not sure if maid would mind a not because she needs to manage 3 households but pretty easy since we all live in 4-room flats in the same neighbourhood. Scared of maid problems since we never had a maid before. Advantage is we dont need to rush back after work to pick up the kids and we can settle dinner at my mum's place. Flexibility of letting our babies to stay over at my mum's place if we got programmes. Unlike infant care, mum will most likely let baby watch tv cos she also watch at the same time.

    sigh.. Very difficult to decide. Infant care seems more straight forward but need to worry on picking up, dinner and baby fall sick. If I chose infant care, I need to get a part-time helper to come on weekends to do household chore. If I get a good maid, can relieve us from chores so that we can spend time with our kids but bad maid a lot more problems. Plus it's 3 household, scared maid can't handle and go complain to embassy.

    Any advice? I need to decide fast cos if I decide to get a maid, I need to inform the infant care to give up the vacancy to someone else before this coming March.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Hi natalenelim,

    Thank you for the offer but it will be additional logistics and costs to me.

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    HIya imrouge,

    Just curious, how long were you stay at home mum?

    Can't comment on maid but for infant care experienced before is very tricky, unless your company is those kind more understanding. And working hours ok.
    Was working full time and rushed to pick up son everyday as hubby work pretty late most times... very stressed everyday. Sometimes I also had to work late, so had to ask hubby at times to help fetch regardless. (he also need to ask his collegues for help in such times, so can't be too often). So in order to reduce this fr happening too often I tried to work fast, tried to go work early, sometimes cut my own lunch time etc etc etc...just so I can fetch son.

    Somemore if your child new to childcare/infant care surely sick very often - esp fever jiat lak can't send to infant care. And yes, dinner you need to definately prepare beforehand, so that you can cook fast when come home in evening.

    Had trouble taking urgent leaves also (when son sick), due to short of manpower. Was questioned pretty often by mgmt why can't I work out alternative arrangement. Eventually had to leave the company cause really cannot balance anymore. <hoped to get retrenched, but no such luck!>
    So, really depends on your company, & your nature of work.

    Personally I want to get maid, but hubby against it. Sigh...

    Quote Originally Posted by imrouge View Post
    Hi Mummies,

    I'm a stay at home mum. Intend to go back to work now that my second child is 8months. I'm deciding between sending my baby to infant care(same place as my elder son's childcare centre) or getting a maid for my mum who is also looking after my sis's 3month old baby. My concerns on the 2 options.

    Infant care - Not sure if I can manage picking my 2 children from the centre at the same time after work. Carry my baby using baby carrier then hold my 3yr old elder son's hand and squeeze up the bus with school bags. My husband drives to work but sometimes he need to work OT so can't commit to pick up the kids. Currently my father-in-law helps to pick my elder son when my husband can't pick him. Another problem is reach home still need to prepare dinner. My elder son is a fussy eater so he eats very little at the childcare and by the time he reach home, he can be quite hungry. Not sure he can wait for me to cook. I can't cook very well also. Scared baby fall sick easily then I need to take many leave days to look after baby. Advantage is teachers there are trained so can help a lot with their development but it's not 1:1.

    Maid - Maid will stay with my mum Mon-Fri, weekends will afternate between my sis and my place since we are sharing the costs. Not sure if maid would mind a not because she needs to manage 3 households but pretty easy since we all live in 4-room flats in the same neighbourhood. Scared of maid problems since we never had a maid before. Advantage is we dont need to rush back after work to pick up the kids and we can settle dinner at my mum's place. Flexibility of letting our babies to stay over at my mum's place if we got programmes. Unlike infant care, mum will most likely let baby watch tv cos she also watch at the same time.

    sigh.. Very difficult to decide. Infant care seems more straight forward but need to worry on picking up, dinner and baby fall sick. If I chose infant care, I need to get a part-time helper to come on weekends to do household chore. If I get a good maid, can relieve us from chores so that we can spend time with our kids but bad maid a lot more problems. Plus it's 3 household, scared maid can't handle and go complain to embassy.

    Any advice? I need to decide fast cos if I decide to get a maid, I need to inform the infant care to give up the vacancy to someone else before this coming March.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Childcare not that straight forward...
    -you need to prepare their bags everyday
    -tons of clothing to wash , bath towel etc
    -Not to mention the norm of getting sick and risk of HFMD
    -Your 6 days Child Care leave will be burned coz child care centre close on certain dates

    I'm in similar situation too. No one at home dont think we are able to hire maid. Hard to find trustworthy maids nowadays (Maid who is still discipline despite no one in the house type).

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    I am also a full time working mom, sent my baby to infant care since she was about 4 mths, really not easy to manage work and baby at the same time, with all the sending, fetching, and dinner cooking, everyday very stress to rush home to fetch and cook dinner for her, coz she resist to eat if dinner is over 7pm as she is very tired by then, so.... everyday is crazy and stressful, i do break down some time. in addition, we need to see doctor almost twice every month and she had HFMD from her cc when she about 8mths, i was very bad and sad to see her sufferred as she counldn't sleep, eat or drink as she had ulcers all over her mouth and end up we have to force her for milk with string (like how we give medcine) even my gal now 2 yr old I still heartache to that HFMD expereince.

    I think the choice of having a maid or infant care is really a personal choice, but is it really not that straight forward in putting in infant care.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Hi CherryFrozz,

    Have stayed home for 8 months already.

    Hi Isy and Eby,

    Thank you for sharing your experiences. Have read from other mummies about the pros of infant care but seems like infant care a lot of cons also. Think a lot of companies expect work committment so will be difficult for them to understand why mummies always take urgent leave or can't stay for OT. I've decided to get a maid to help my mum.
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    Hi mummies. I've a question for FTWMs. How hard was it to leave your child and go back to wrk? I may go back to work but then it involves traveling quite often..but not sure how much travel also, it all depends on quiet/busy seasons. So not sure if this is bad for my child. also, whether shld leave him alone w maid at home...? Anyone does this currently? Besides child care, are there any other organizations that offer classes full day ie. morning till evening? How about nannies? Anyone hires full time nanny to go to your house to look after your baby? Of coz those nannies you can trust perhaps..? Can full time nannies be found easily? Cost?

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    If I were you I will not do dat. At least have someone else with maid is better....as far as I know only childcare organization does this kinda work. Nannies more flexi can fetch later but full time nanny normally will look after the child at their own home, not the clients. Fr what I hear nannies cost seem quite ok bah few hundred? But never engage before not so sure

    Hmmm if you have relative live near you (stay at Hm type) . Mayb can consider put maid n baby at her house while you work? Dat way best of both worlds person you trust plus more flexi 4 your work schedule? I got friend do dat seems pretty ok.

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    Re: stay at home mum to full time working mum

    Hi CheeryFrozz, Thanks for yur reply. Yes, I strongly think it's not wise to leave baby alone w maid. Both sides parents not avail to help. No relative sty near us. But nearby, maybe a friend with her own kids n a maid.. but then it'll b too imposing esp. long term. It will not work out I guess.

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