EforEileen , sorry to jump into this thread but wanted to share with you on not believing 100% what your lawyer says if he/she keeps telling you thing are IMPOSSIBLE. If it is impossible, then as lawyer we need them to fight till even black also become white. Otherwise pay them lawyer fees for what?
Reason I'm quoting this is because one of my gfs faced a similar situation. The lawyer her mom engaged also told them whatever suggestions they brought up, it is IMPOSSIBLE to fight so the whole case was dragged for years cos the lawyer everything also say she's on the losing end. Wondered if the lawyer is actually taking bribes from the mom's husband!
It was only recently that they consulted another lawyer who was really good and really challenged all those IMPOSSIBLES and fight for my gf's mom and was very supportive. In the end, they won and the husband had to pay for maintenance and have no share from the sale of their flat cos he didn't contribute a single cent.