Hi Kinberuri... you can pm me~~
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Any single parent here face problem with your employer just bcos you are a single mom? I list my job bcos of that! Tough and stressful time now...
Anyone willing to be my listen ear.... I am totally stressed up!
Hi Kinberuri... you can pm me~~
you can pm me your story too...
how do you deal with colleagues who look down on you? i changed job recently.. and when i told my colleagues about myself.. they make very very nasty remarks.. like not married can give birth 1 meh? so young can give birth ? father ? this kind of stuff... and i dont dare to tell other colleagues anymore.. cos my office is really quite big
Try not to share too much of your personal stuff with your colleague, especially you won't know what comments will they go and share it around in the office
at first it was like some casual convo.. eg. they will ask what you do over the weekend. n I said. oh bring my daughter to the movie.
and the horror starts
so now actually i met this new bunch of colleagues n they are very nice.. at least till now. i get very wary of ppl sometimes :/
i wonder should i, tell them about myself?
New colleague is always must be wary, especially when you aren't around you won't know what gossip they will talk behind you
hmm.. good idea.. Thanks!
Hi You can PM me and I'll share with you my side of story...
although there is nth proud about being a single mum, but i dont shun from it.. bcos it is a fact and a fact that i have already accepted since the day i decided to be one. =) of cos, it is never easy to tell someone you dont know well right in the face: hey, im a single mum! but still, ppl who uds will uds... if someone looks down n pass you nasty remarks becos you r a single mum, then this person doesnt deserve any of your time.
its not something glamourous, but it is nothing shameful as well. i used to be defensive when i "feel" that ppl r commenting n gossiping about me behind my back.. but then.. after a while, i come to accept that i cannot stop or control what they are thinking. so far, i havent met any colleague who gossiped behind my back yet...well, at least not that i know of.. maybe they did a good job in hiding it.. but life goes on. as long as i bring my child up well, why bother what they say? they can only hurt us as much as we allow them to.
i have very nice colleagues who asked me frequently about my girl, and always buy things for her when they travel overseas.. which i feel really warm n nice.. =)
whenever ppl comment: oh, you marry so young, i just smile smile ? but if they ask further, i would just say, nope, not married. becos it wasnt a wise decision to. i made 1 mistake, and i shldnt continue deeper into the 2nd one, which is to marry my ex. and im very glad of that decision, becos although having my daughter was my best decision in life, not marrying my ex was the wisest decision i made. to err is human, no one has the right to judge you base on this... its not like you have done anything wrong right? =)
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.