This is a discussion on Inhumane violent husband abuse me for more than a year within the Single Parents Support Group forum, part of the MummySG Special Group category; i m not sure about how you planned to do right now...............after all of us offering care and concern and ...
i m not sure about how you planned to do right now...............after all of us offering care and concern and worried for you...............
but if i were you, i would have went back to parent's place to stay until this thing gets over. Is that a possible arrangement at this point of time or you r worried your parents might get into trouble?
becoz its really not safe for you in any way
coz you might not know what he will do to you.
Last edited by CanCanMum; 11-05-2010 at 03:34 PM.
You doesnt need to be married 3 years in order to get divorce. I found it the website. Copy from The law society
You must have been married for at least 3 years before you can file a Writ for divorce on the ground that your marriage has broken down irretrievably. However, and with permission from the Court, you may proceed to file a Writ for divorce before 3 years of marriage if you can prove that you have suffered exceptional hardship or if your spouse has been exceptionally unreasonable and cruel.
The lawyers should be able to help you. If your financial permits, please choose a private lawyer instead of going legal aid. I had went legal aid before and based on my personal experience and a few of my friends' experience, they are not really helpful and protect your best interest.
Last edited by wawa; 11-05-2010 at 03:44 PM.
YESH Women's Charter also has this clause...................
Yumiko, really sorry for what you are going through now. This man whom you have loved will most likely kill you if you dont leave him NOW. I dont think the 3 years rule will apply as I have friends who got divorced within a year or almost immediately. Get help from the Family Service Centre asap. In the mean time, stay away from him whenever possible.
hope that you can be strong for your son & yourself.At least you still can shift back to parent's place........although you might not want to bring trouble for them but still their your parents they also want you & your son to be safe i believe....dont be afraid of tis kind of man....if he go to your parents place and find trouble just go ahead & call the police each time....dont be scared of him...
"no one deserve to be abused"
leave the man with your son. Get help from the family centre if you do not wish to trouble your family, they will help you. I had gone through what you are going through now, it's hard I know. But the man you are living with is no longer the same man you once loved. It's just a matter of time he will hit you to death or perhaps even lay his hand on your child. Dont let that happen..
You will have to leave him. Think for your son. It will not do him good to see his mother being abused. Leave your husband. Go back to your mom's place. Call the police if your husband comes to your mom's place.
Pls leave the house with your boy NOW.
If he comes to your parent's place, then film down what he scold or do. It will serve as a good evidence during court trial.
you r staying so near to me..........
y is he so violence? there should be a reason.. is he drugs addict or gambler? or have you did anything wrong? that's y you dont dare divorce him? didn't the police advise you to divorce him whenever you make reports? they should know that you can divorce if your life is threatened living with him.. even without kid also cannot live like that.
i agree with Ting, if he keeps abuse you, you CAN divorce him IMMEDIATELY.
i know you want to protect your son. but you must really leave this guy asap in order to protect your son.
Dear Yumiko some advise for you to his the next time he beats you go directly to family ctr.Tell them your problem also tell them that you are scared of the safety of your son as well.They can give you place to stay.Then you procede to call the police and enforce your PPO.He will get arrested but inform the police that he has been bailed out before and beat you after that inform them that you want to enforce your PPO.tHEN GO TO FAMILY COURT TELL THEM THE INCIDENT.Apply for PPO for your mum and child if possible.Get a restriction order against him that he cant be near your mum house.Apply for sole custody for your child show everyone your bruises.tell them you are worried he might harm your child.yOU DONT NEED TO GO HOME EITHER STAY IN THE FAMILY CTR SHELTER OR YOUR MUM'S house.First of all STOP FORGIVING HIM.i will not understand what you go through but will be there to listen to you.I stay nearby at teck whye.
By now with so many people advising you and showing so much care and concern I bet you should be able to see clearer light and pls dont be blinded by love as he is no longer the person you did loved before. If he really love you he should never lay hands on you!
Stay strong and protect yourself and your kids as many suggestion had been given. your pictures of your injuries really pains my heart when I see them. Get well soon.
Pls update us and I am sure many kind souls here are more than willing to give a helping hand whenever we can!
PLease leave your hubb before he lay his hands on your son...
he cant think straight anymore if he can abuse ya to such extend...
Omg, he's so violent!!!! Hope you're safe with your son now. Be careful.
yeah pls leave the house right now. you have your son safety to think about. if he use such force on you, he can jolly well used it on your son too. and i dont think your son will stand a chance with this kind of abuse.
you have our support. the more you give in to this kind of basta*d, the more he think you r scared of him. dont give him a chance anymore. he wun change a single bit. he's just sick in the mind.
you were created by God with many purposes in life .. One of which is to nurturre n take care of your son..
your purpose is not to suffer in pain
since you have stepped out boldly to share with us what you had been through...we encourage you to take another big step forward to sought the right to live in a loving ..safe n secure environment... This is the most basic need in Maslows hierrchy of needs .. N it saddens us to know that you have been living in constant fear n torment in the past...whilst havinn a roof over your head..
Do let us know how we can help you
Pls leave this kind of person... Once he start to beat you and he will also do it forever.. No husband also can live! Jia you stay strong
Oh dear.. just came across this thread.. all i want to say already said by mummies here..
Be strong and do whats best for you n your son.. NO MAN WOULDNT DIE! LEAVE HIM!!
I;m staying near2 your area , if you need help , you can come to me k ..
Thank you very much all mummy and daddy.
my husband is a taxi driver he work over 14 hour everyday
he is very hard working person
he dont drink or take drug
28 april 2010
i forget to bring my jacket to work place
i ask he to bring to me
and he start to get angry
scold me and shout at me inside the phone
so i just hangup my phone.
and msg him remeber to go childcare
bring baby back.
after work i back to home
he start to scold me.
i was doing house work at kitchen
he run to me
and show his hand want to beat me
he say i m wrong in the 1st place
cos i forget to bring jacket to work.
why must i hangup his phone.
i doing house work is distrub him sleeping he said.
he dont let me sleep in room
he ask me sleep in living room
after a while i go in my room
to please him let me sleep in room
as i need to take care baby
my boy will cry at night
than he become crazy
he show his hand and come very close
and shout at me:
dont make me beat you again
i m very angry now.
so i run out of the house
and call police
he be arrested on the sport.
my father in law bill him out the next day。
i dont know what is my wrong to make him angry at me like that.
my husband said to me:
I m very unlucky to have a wife like you cos you always call police arreste me.
Goodness yumiko mummy.. i read yr post i almost cry cos you are living with fear everyday!!!
( reminds me of my father whom i always have nightmares n when i wake up, i shiver with anger )
same words as all the mummies here.. you got to go right now...
or hopefully find a rent place n settle in with your boi first? of cos not let any of his pple know.. gosh its so hard on you..
if i dont have a child, well probably 2 times of beating i pack n go.
BUT if to be in my case now, with my daughter here.. i will do anything n everything in the world to save her from danger.
he is super bad tempered i can see, these type of pple ( exactly like my father ) when they got stress from work or unhappy about certain things, they lost control.. throw things around, hit pple ...
my father does not drink too.. its just his temper that lost control.. he hit me n i got protective order from him. now he is very far away from me ( australia ) he keep asking if he can c my daughter but i refuse...
you are still soft hearted .. you gotta be strong mummy.. its not just you that you are protecting.. you got a son.
if i were you, i make sure he go to jail for good.. then i will go missing in action and make sure he come out he dont know where am i.. if he still can find me then. ..
WORST COME TO WORST.. i try to work at other countries n bring my child go.
i can imagine if i were to in yr case i cannot even sleeep in peace.. a single sound can make you so scared cos you dont know whether is it him who gonna lay hands on you again..
jiayou yumiko mummy.. you have to be strong...