This is a discussion on Loads of thing that I want for I can't afford within the Single Parents Support Group forum, part of the MummySG Special Group category; Originally Posted by keefu Why will you think now companies needs mandarin speaking employees? Because i've call up those companies ...
No, im not chinese. Mi malay. I speak chinese fairly. I did ask my friends working in office n they r looking out for me.
Onli abit of mandarn i no hw to speak but at least something rite ? Hehe
Yeah better than nothing!! All the best in your search for a better future!!
Thx very much
I was 20 when I got pregnant out of wedlock and could not finish my diploma (in Media studies). I was 21 when my son entered this world. =)
I worked as a Production Assistant and Assistant Producer before moving on to becoming a freelance writer and graphic designer/ digital imagining artist. I've worked full time but still enjoyed the freelance aspect more as I could work and spend time with my son.
I lived with my parents and tolerated my mum's occassional barbed remarks. It got really bad esp when I put my foot down and said I did not want to marry my son's biological father. But we pulled through all the emotional upheavals regardless.
In 2003, I met my husband. He is a real wonderful guy who loves my son like his own. We dated for 5 years before we married in 2008. He adopted my son last year.
We live in a flat belonging to my folks who bought their own condo unit some time back and rented this flat out. They took it back from the tenants and gave us permission to live there. We take the public transport, we dont't really indulge in luxury items and are expecting number 2 in Feb. And honestly, we are very happy although we lead a relatively simple life. We have been really blessed by some of our friends and family members who dote on our son a lot. We live on a single salary as we have decided that I should take care of the household issues. We do not have a helper and I do all the housework.
So we dont't really own our own home, nor do we own a car. We dont't send our kids to fancy enrichment classes and I pretty much tutor my son who is going on to P3 next year on my own. Instead of enrichment classes, I do art and craft & projects with him. All these whilst juggling housework & the occassional freelance work that I take on (lesser now as I am preggers).
Sometimes the simple joys in life are free. Before my hubby entered my life, the time spent with my boy (I breastfed him for 3 years) really made my day. Love really gives one the strength to pull through many ordeals and trials. And your child's hugs and kisses will prob mean more.
When I was single and working full time, I had a pay cheque that was good (despite not finishing my course, I still could draw $1.9k salary then... later on I drew about $3k salary in a diff job before I got married) but when I went to work, my boy was asleep and when I returned my boy was also asleep. It was hard. I missed him so much.
Believing the formative years of a child's life is key, I decided to work freelance (not as stable or high paying some months) and cut corners. There were of course things that I would like but could not afford, but then again there were priceless things in my life that I would lose if I could afford those "wants". =)
Find that work-life balance with your child, and you will feel happier.
I know of single mums who go on to take on jobs they never thought they'd ever take on- being a doula, being a life coach etc.... that afford them the time and the money they need to lead a good life with their kid.
Happiness cannot be measured by dollars and cents.... as long as you have some sense and sensibilities, love and determination you will find your own journey through this experience & find the greatest reward in your relationship with your child. =)
HUGS! All the best!
Hi !! Thx for sharing your stories. Glad you have found someone dat you cn share your life with. I have learnt dat theres a diff between wants n needs.
That's great. =) Yea, knowing the diff btw wants and needs really makes a huge difference to how one spends eh? ^.^"
BTW I meant "digital imaging" not "digital imagining". My autospell corrected it without me realising it. Lol.
How are things going for you right now? =)