This is a discussion on Need some advise pls within the Single Parents Support Group forum, part of the MummySG Special Group category; Originally Posted by Amulet hmm.. any idea around how much would this cost? Depends on which law firm (smaller firms ...
hmm.. but now im worry, if i really make this documents to let him sign, what if he suddenly wanna guailan with me and refuse to sign or even worst, decide to fight for her custody with me?
since now we not in contact, is it best we remain this way and not sending the documents for his signing?
Did the dad provide any responsibilities to the baby? If never do anything for baby, doubt he wil win the custody fight also
actually, its a risk.
cos there r cases whereby the guy in this situation also wins the case.
so better that we try to convince them in a nice manner, n even if no face also die die give in.
then after he sign, kick him n walk away.
I dont know how my mum won the custody fight over me when I was 6 like that.. if not wrong is cuz all these while she has been taking care of me and my dad only visits once awhile.. they are only officially divorced only when i was 9 (that's when we moved house so dad n his family can't locate us)..
i cannot ask her now later she thought I want divorce my hubby lol..
haha, maybe say its your friend who ask???
he have never met her be4, not even paid for any single thing about my pregnancy since we cut off contact since my 2months pregnancy ..
i dont wish for him to have even say 50-50custody..
yah amulet,your girl's BC dont have his name right? so shldnt be a problem, unless he fights for your child. which is not really possible.
for me is cos my ex name is on pin's BC, thats why i want to get the declaration thingy so that my future hubby can adopt pin as his own.
well, i think normal to feel that way.
i will also worry that my ex will try to get close to pin.
so i wish to end this asap before he sees pin.
he hadnt seen her since 6 mths old. but saw her pics n keep saying she very pretty n cute, n wanna meet her. but so far no chance.
If the dad can prove that you did not do a good job taking care of your child & prove that he is better able to provide well for the child, then he might win the custody. It's always the welfare of the chid that counts. Who can provide better environment will usually win.
Actually no need to change the father name in birth cert .. my birth cert also still my dad's name but remarry can .. just let pin noes after she is old enuff to understand bah..
For my case, from young I see my mum so sad and keep torturing herself, wanna suicide all those.. this impression is always in my mind .. and all her Ex-BF all i still remember although I'm a toddler that time.. I even can remember mum once wanted to throw me down from kitchen window when I was around 1-2yrs old, dat's why I'm so afraid of heights.. And she even chased me with kitchen knife before when I was in primary school.. So when she wanted to marry my current step-dad also up to her cuz I was already 13 when they know one another and they married when I was 16-17.. From young I not used to calling father or dad, that's why never call him dad or what..
Now pin still young, better to cultivate her to call your bf 'papa' or 'daddy' if you and this guy really wanna be together forever..
Last edited by -jOanna; 09-09-2009 at 01:49 PM.
joanna, your sounds really depressed and sad when you are young! you must have went through a lot with her!
actually when i was with my ex, i am frequently unhappy and cried many times infront of bebe, i tried cutting my wrist too (but not in front of bebe)... come to think about it.. it is really not worth it.. all that tears & sleepless nights thinking of that heartless man.. i hope my bebe wont remember mummy being unhappy all the time....
bebe's dad name is in his BC too... me too quite worried that he will come and fight for him..
haha just some words from a single parent's child bah.. at least I would know what a child went thru.. Actually i swear i dont want a child even I'm married, but fated to have, so bo bians.. I also dont know how to love the child cuz from my memories all is shit, so i'm like just starting to walk like that..
i thought one other mummy say my ex need to "disown" my girl first then my future hubby then can adopt??
sorry, whats SIR?