not sure if this can help you.. but try this website: HELP Family Service Centre - help for single parents & children
i came across this article.. which i find quite motivating.. and hope it helps you get a clearer picture..
15 things that a single mom in Singapore should know
have a heart to heart talk with them... try to make them understand and tell them you really hope they can accept your child becos she is also their flesh and blood...
on the other hand, you need to convince them that you r up for it.. you r willing to work very hard and make an achievement, not just by bringing up your child well, but also in your own life. and yes, you must prove it to them...
as for your girl, i feel that, at such a young age, she's been like a "ball" bouncing here n there (your parents n your ex in laws n your bf's place) and esp since your in law has been posioning her mind, it is really hard on her and she is perhaps confused. it is YOUR job to stand up n teach n guide her.. no one said that raising a child is easy.. becos it isnt.. every child is different.. and she is so young, throwing tamtrums, getting brainwashed, crying n all is very normal. all kids wants attention, and trust me, it is not difficult for a child to realize that CRYING is the best way to get attention..
you need to be firm on this to her.. give her the attention she deserves, but if you have to focus on something else, tell her nicely but firmly that you need to do XXX for a while n you will come back to her after you r done with it. n make sure you do.. kids dont like adults lying... (no one does.) of cos, it wont succeed for the 1st time n you need to keep trying until she can understand you.. kids are smart, and they love to make us (adults) happy, n they get happier when we r happy with their actions. So, if she does a good job (no crying), then praise her (but dont over do it), offer her a reward some times (we dont want her to behave well just becos of the reward). a hug or a kiss is a great reward to many kids and it also brings you n your child closer.
as for the CC, this is also a phase many parents have to go thru.. but IMO i always FEEL that if a child keeps crying the TEACHER has the responsibility to stop her from crying and not call me up to bring my child back home! the ONLY time i will go n fetch my child back is when she is not feeling well and cant attend class.. if the tr cant even coax 1 child to stop crying, how can she handle the rest of the class?
stay strong my dear.. it is not easy, but you can make it through.. just bite the bullet and take a shot.. you will see a brighter sky after the storm..
i do hope your parents can understand what you r gg thru and give you their support soon...