Becos all mummies r the greatest!! Jia you single mum!!
This is a discussion on Should Single Mums Get Baby Bonus? within the Single Parents Support Group forum, part of the MummySG Special Group category; Hi all, this is not a petition. In fact, I am a single mum and just want to know more ...
Hi all, this is not a petition. In fact, I am a single mum and just want to know more about baby bonuses and why single mothers are not eligible for it. I intend to write a letter to MCYS and the Ministry, so please help me out by giving me suggestions and comments.
Also please vote, would like to know much.
Becos all mummies r the greatest!! Jia you single mum!!
The main reason why single mums are not eligible for baby bonus is because the govt wanna encourage proper family units. I think one of the ministers did mention this before when he was asked this question at one of the dialogues. I think their main purpose of introducing the baby bonus is to encourage married couples to have children (cos many cited the reason of increased cost of raising a child to avoid/delay having one or more).
So far only 1 appeal case I know of got the baby bonus. Reason being the baby was conceived when she was raped, not due to her 'rash acts'. And her family is supportive of helping her raise the baby as their religion do not allow abortions.
I understand from my other friends that if you marry the baby's father before the baby is born, you will be eligible for the bonus, but i'm not too sure about it.
I tink this has been discussed for very long in other forums, maybe you wanna try to do a google search n see if anything comes up?
Empty vessels make the most noise
so i just wanted to know if anyone has any opinions on my the government is not 'trying to help' single mums.
and i also saw a girl's blog, her name is Lilian, she was getting on this topic too, though the post is prolly a year ago. Just thought i would want to bring this topic back as im a single mum myself, and my baby's father is USELESS in providing for my son, being a drug addict and boy's home boy himself. and i decided that i do not want him to be related to my kid in anyway.
and also, im from a single parent family. so i really want to find out more.
actualli why not just say this straight out, singapore government are actually not doing anything to help single mum and not taking any actions other then saying that they THINKS that children born in a 2 parents family are better, but they are actually discriminating against single unmarried mum?
ive come across many govt webbie or scheme where they say it is only for 'divorced with child custody mum', 'widowed mum' but never mentioned single mum. what actually is the diff between a divorced mum and a single unmarried mum? just that the unmarried mum never went thru the process of gettin married then divorced? if that's the case why not all single mum just find a guy and marry and then divocred so they can get assistant?
if government really thinks that being married is such a big thing, then why not they think twice again about the divorce rate. and i feel that they are always complaining, comparing and reporting about how many abortions case there are, how many divorce case there are. why does this happen?
abortions happen in teenagers usually because they are not financially independent and since the govenment is also not providing any source for us to seek help, we're nowhere to turn to. instead of long term commitment, many just decide to find few hundred dollars and abort the baby instead of giving birth to it and worrying how you're gonna earn money to feed the baby. and why high divorced rate? because many people who got pregnant out of wedlock got married in a moment of folly. they rushed into it, and then realise they are not meant to be, there's too many difference, and ta-dah~ they divorced.
and why should we marry the father of the child, just for the sake of getting the financial aids, baby bonus, maternity benefit from the government if the father of the child is a lousy one?
so the government says, it is better for a child to grow up in a 2 parents family. uh huh. true only if both parents are able to communicate and build a family. not true if both parents are forever fighting, quarreling with each other. but i doubt that they did think about it and thinks that, well it is plainly just good for child to grow up in a 2 parents family BLINDLY.
in fact, single mum needs more help then a normal family. those rich family, who are legally married to each other, give birth to a child and have more maternity leave then anyone, have baby bonus, have more privillage. but the poor us, single mum, have none. and yet they expect the company to still give the 2 months maternity leave. and the extra 2 months provided by the govt they will not give it to us. isnt it a joke? when my friends asked me about my maternity leave and i told them, oh i onli have 2 months bcos im not married. and they all asked, are you kidding? i thought single mum should have more help and benefits bcos it's gonna b harder then anione!
but nope, seems like in the eyes of govt, dey dont see it that way and dey cant b bothered about us. dey feel we're just a irresponsible bunch, esp when most of us are young and so they just deem it as immature. but well, in the end, we're the one who raise up our kids if we dont give them up for adopation, and our kids will be contributing to the society in the future. so why are we being given the harder way?
huh...no baby bonus for us???omg...then how to go on????our child also singaporean ....how can gov like dat ....if so...must well do not give birth....aiyoyo....
i think single mum shld be entitled to baby bonus lol.. single mums also very xingku.. also have to go thrru 9mths, go thru labor pain etc.. whats the diff if they divorce after they got the baby bonus.. Personally, i think marriage is just a piece of paper convenient for us to buy house in Sg only lol..
and , his parents say they want to offer me financial support for exchange that i put his name on the birth cert and let my kid be same surname as him.
this is not fair at all!
so i refused to take money from them already, although die die also need financial help, but better than next time they take my kid away from me right?
I do feel that single mums should be eligible to get the baby bonus. In the first place, the baby bonus is not such a huge sum or anything, i dont't think there would be women that purposely anyohow get themselves pregnant just for the sake of "earning" the baby bonus. Although government might want to promote proper family units, but single mums are just a minority, and they need support equally and since their children are also singaporeans, I feel they should definitely qualify for the baby bonus.
Btw, is it only the cash bonus not qualified? How about maternity leave and the childcare fee subsidies? If those also not entitled, then very jialat... hope they'll consider changing the law.
From what i heard fm my friend who is single mum, maternity leave is only 8weeks (paid by employers and is MOM regulation), no additional 3rd n 4th month which is paid for by govt.
so far my friend never put her kid in CC, so i'm not sure if they r entitled to working mum subsidy or not. but i rmb when i apply for my son last yr, the principal got ask me if i'm married (cos i looked young n i went there alone to check out the place during office hours cos just across e road from my office).
**BTW, i'm not for or against single mums getting baby bonus, neither am i discriminating agst them
in my earlier post i was just stating what i read n understand from govt policies n explanations on y they dont give baby bonus to single mums.
basically, i still feel that the whole situation falls back on education. if they emphasised on 'abstinence till marriage' like in the 'old days' and if ppl r not so 'open' now, there'll be lesser of such incidences to begin with and this debate wont be happening?
anyway, you can try writing in to MCYS n see what sort of reply they give. i tink many single mums will be curious to know too.
Empty vessels make the most noise
hihi, just my penny of thoughts. i guess the reason behind why single mum not entitled to baby bonus is because of many reasons..... basically, the govt just wanna raise the "quality" of singaporeans i guess.
many single parent come from a single parent family... thus the notion is that kids raised in single parent family will then tend to become single parent themselves in future, which is not healthy in the long run. Many problem kids come from broken family backgroud too.
also, there are a rising number of teenage pregnancies. i dont't think the govt care about whether they emphasised on 'abstinence till marriage' etc. it's also impossible in this new age. BUT it's important to think before you act and be responsible for your own actions. have you ever wonder if conceiving the baby is more fortunate than contacting a sexual disease?? we are too complacent i guess, we think that it will never happen to us, but is safe sex that difficult as well? i think safe sex is very important !!! especially when you know the person whom you are dating is not someone whom you can "viewed" as a husband to you and a father to any possible children that you have.
Taking care of a baby is a lifelong commitment, and many young single mums feels that they can do it, they must do it. but then again, will a child really grow up to be happy without a complete family?
i am definitely against abortion! any life is innocent & precious! If the govt gives baby bonus to any one who has a baby, i guess they are afraid to send the wrong message to encourage young people or singles to have sex without protection. thus i believe it's pointless to appeal for the baby bonus as right now you have more other things to worry and fuss about while waiting for your baby to arrive.... because you will have to start spilling your personal bits and pieces to the authorities just for that miserable sum of $$. You will definitely need ALOT more than that to raise your kid. Why not start by researching whatever aids that are available to help single parent families? Start with your RC, and CDC... i am sure there are available.
hmm.. i remember the MM said something like baby bonus is an incentive for married couples thus singles are not eligible?
like that, i hope in future they will not claim income tax for our single parent child as well man~
subsidy for CC is entitled cos right now pin is in cc n i stil get the subsidy.
baby bonus wise, i also think it is unfair not to entitle us for it.
Baby bonus, ya... i stop dreaming for it... I was researching and found that to be eligible for Working mother relief or even child relief, the child has to be "legitimate"... just because we single "unmarried" mothers didnt enrol on the marriage course... our child is considered "illegitmate" for the rest of their life...
Hm... so it seems that our cost of living is also higher than other mothers if we are also not eligible for WR or CR?? ... this is a double penalty...
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ALL mums shld get baby bonus doesnt matter married or not.Its so stupid this ruling.The money goes to the babies anyways.Doesnt singapore want quality citizens,how is tht even possible if they r selective about who to help.If babies of single mums do not get these bonuses then they shld have the option to opt out of national service n stuff.Why expect them to "pay" the nation when they didnt receive any help during critical yrs?
Totally agree with the points that you have raised in your post quoted below. Bravo! It's been just 38 weeks but I am seriously regretting not going for that S$400 operation in the first place. And now, I am trapped - trapped in a marriage with a useless guy, trapped in financial debts because of this pregnancy.
I ever check with MCYS before that single parent are not eligible to baby bonus. Be it whatever reason it is. The govt are just not sparing a thot for us.
Though i am married, my marriage is wreck with a useless man still staying alive in this world. I doesnt want my child bc to have his name in it but no matter what the ICA or MCYS say NO. Cos it follows the marriage cert. @#$$%^ I did also enquiry if i can declare as a single mom. ICA say cannot cos its legally binded and MCYS say ... Can but no baby bonus.
Well, dont you all feel that we, single mom are like been treated like nothing and forgotten. Like as if we & our baby are aint human...
me and my husband not married. also cant get the baby bonus ..
poorthing .. my baby come out need money also . govt dont know think what sia..
if you get marry before the child turns 6, you r eligible to get the Baby bonus.
Brush aside all the "should not have happened issues", personally i feel that the government should do something for single mums coz its not easy to give birth alone, take care alone, support the baby alone and raise up the child till he/she is able to take care of themselves.
as in some $$ given to single mums like a baby bonus, perhaps make it a Single Parenthood fund or something.
If the Government only wants to give Baby Bonus to a Married couple whom gives birth, they should renamed it to Married Couple Bonus; else I believe Single Parent SHOULD entitled the Baby Bonus.
In fact Govt needs to provide more for Single Parent, as all of us knows it is not easy to be parent further more Single Parent!
If Only The Government Knows~~~~