This is a discussion on Single Mom To Be. within the Single Parents Support Group forum, part of the MummySG Special Group category; Originally Posted by AlongTheWay Thanks for all the replies, everyone. So much drama has been going on between my parents, ...
Jia you! dont't keep the baby becos of him but for yourself. You should have recorded when he said this! So angry to hear this.
I always believe that kids taken care by mother is better than father. Without father's love it's better than without mother's love.......
Love the baby and also the mummy.. coz the mummy who will be carrying the baby for 9 whole months.. should appreciate the mummy.. for me if he is really a man with full of responsibilities.. he will try to love you back coz afterall you are the mother for his baby.. im not good in advicing ppl but as a first time mother i understand how you feel.. i believe once the baby is born you will never want anyone to take or touch your baby.. you won't dare to leave your baby with someone else care.. for now.. just take care of your health and smile always.. and dont't forget to pray to God .. take care ok..
At least you see the true colour of the stupid idiot before baby is born.Be strong,just remember your little ones is on the way to bring joy n happiness.Most important must have full support from parents.Any problems,speak up maybe on sg mummy or facebook,you will feel better.JIA you JIA you
im a single mother myself,my boy is almost 3mnths old. during the 4th mnth of my pregnancy,i made the decision that we will b beter off without the jerk n im glad i took that step. my story is almost the same as urs. at 1st he acknowledged the baby,goin for checkups n shoppin n meeting my family. after i found out his gambling habits,i decided to dump him. throughout all these mayhem,i have yet to meet his family. i insisted on meeting his family n get financial support but he said he will oni allow it after the baby is born. tats wen i left the selfish ass for good but insisted on financial support. he decided to get out of the situation by sayin that the baby is not his. i braved up n cut all ties.with him. i searched high n low for jobs that would take a pregnant woman. i worked hard n saved hard. i carried the 3.5kg boy in my tummy n had terrible water retention till i cldnt walk. my mum held my hand tru 10hrs induced labour without epidural as it was too costly for me. now i have a big beautiful n hapi boy,me working part time so that i can still afford milk powder n diapers,n also have time to look after him. i do not regret my decision,n will never regret.
just to share a little, i also think its pointless to live a life with someone who doesnt love you just for the baby. if daddy n mummy do not love each other, its difficult to maintain a happy little family, that will result to a very unhappy childhood. better to have a loving and happy mummy than to have 2 unhappy parents
Hi.. I m new in d blog but i would like to share with you my story quite similar.. I m a single mum with 2 kids n now 6 months pregnant.. My so-called boyfriend just left about 2 wks ago. He msg me dat he dont understand y i m soo impatient as he is settling his prob.. We r suppose to get married in June but he still did not discuss anyting with both side parents.. Now he is not contactable.. I have cried till no tears but i just have to move on as i believe God is always with me. My parents have been supportive but as i m a Muslim i know my parents is feeling soo shameful n dissappointed.. I hope dat i m able to move on n give birth to a healthy baby girl this Sep.. I believe things happen for a reason n God noes what is best
What ever it is, you are the one that will be giving birth to your child.
9mths perg not a small joke. If you think he wont let you see the baby in the future.
Please keep the baby at your side, you have all the rights as from the way others replied I felt the same way too.
Thus I support you to keep the baby and bring him/her up yourself.
And dont worry we will be here to support each other ya?
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Whatever happens and wherever life takes you, your ex is still your baby's father. It's literally easy to cut him out of your life, but biologically you can't.
Do not worry, at least you have a supporting family member in this case... at least someone that could help you in times of needs and requirements.... It is rather obvious that your Ex-boyfriend doesnt want to come back to you because of your child and i hope that this is not what you him to do ...
the child is the flesh and blood of you and your boyfriend and thus he has the responsibility and happiness to be shared and not taken away from you. Frankly, you could just keep quiet and most likely he would not know that the child belongs to him, but since you spilled the beans, you have to play with the show all over. You are the biological mother, he has no right to not let you see the child.
The fact is that you are studying right now, having a children would only affect your education. Are you prepared to face it on your own with your parents ? If yes, why not ?
I recommend that you forget about your ex-bf. he is not going to come back and the only chance for him to come back is to take the child from you and I believe this is not what you want in the first place. If you are able to take care of the child on your own, why not ?
Hi girl, thats so true what others said...
you dont have to keep you bf anymore.. its useless to grow our baby together with his characteristic like that. its just will teach your baby for a bad things than.
i am a single mother for my 16 mos boy. first it was so hard to accept all the things but now i am totally thanked God for what i had.
you have to take good care of your baby, dont stress to much as is bad for your pregnancy, the most thing we still have God and our family with us..
never give your baby to you bf or his fam.
just stay focus on your pregnancy and enjoy every milestone your baby had. fist kicking, moving...
and do believe that once your baby born, you will love her/him much more you love your self instead you ex-bf. with your baby you will have more inspration and motivation for your beloved baby and let him regret for what he did in time.
he will face his karma..
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i'm currently a single mtb, edd mid july. 2 months before our church wedding, fiance texted to call quits as he went back to the ex gf. cried and brawled enough.
be strong, all single moms!
My dear ladies,
I could never express how proud I am with all e single mums here, be it you are unwed (sorry to use this word) or divorced. I may be in e same situation too. Just waiting for further confirmation from the doc.
I prayed that I am not pregnant at all cos e guy was a complicated person. Even if im not pregnant, I would love to return to this post and share my thots. Cos I know how it feels like now to be regarded as a thrash by someone whom you thot loved you. First he said he wanted to take responsibility but I refused cos earlier we had so much fight & that we are not in love (he used to be my bestfriend and things happened). But please dont take it that I am a bitch. I do not have sex with any guys. When it happened, we both were confused with our past life cos we went thru so much pain with out previous partners. Both of us agreed to give each other a try but a week later he told me that he was not in love with me no matter how much he tried. Even tho I was equally confused, I really wanted to give us a shot. But when he said that, how else do you gals expect me to hang on to e r'ship? A r'ship is not one if only one person is trying, rite??
So based on the above, I told him no way I would allow him to nor would I want to keep the baby IF ITS CONFIRMED THAT IM AM PREGNANT. He argued back saying he would not want to be judge in hell and that he did not believe that I as the mother would say such thing. And that he would never allow me to have abortion. Then in less than 4hrs after he said that he thot about it and it would be wrong if we are together just for e sake of e baby (wasn't that what I meant earlier?). I purposely told him that no matter what, I would take a pill and get rid of e baby (cos I read there is such a pill to terminate your pregnancy if your pregnancy is less than 8 weeks? Is there??). Then he said "yeah ok, but Im still worried bout you". Like what e F right? If he could change his mind within a day, what if when I said "ok we shall raise this baby together" and 2 months later he would say that he could not commit? I have already made a mistake, I refused to make another one.
As much as I am blabbering here without a positivity of my pregnancy, I have promised myself that I will take care of this baby no matter what happens. I will update you on e outcome in a few days time. I hope we can be of help and of course, I would want to be a listening ear too. In e meantime, take care ladies. I really feel for you. Stay strong darlings
Be strong always no matter what happened.
I totally agreed with what Ting said...
Btw in what right can he say that you cant be a good mother with ability to take care of your own child.
If he is SO responsible, then in the 1st place he will not suspect you lying to him when you tell him that you r preggy... if he suspected you so much, y still want the kid? I feel that you should not listen to his nonsense and not even his family nonsense as his family sure help him instead of you as who r you to them?
To be frank, i dont think he will allow you to see the kid if he married 1 day loh... even if he allow, you think his wife wun mind and will allow? Please ... we r all woman...
I believe you can do it I'm single mom, my son is 3mths old but hide it from my ex bf.. Haha.. As long as you have your family members to support you, everything is possible.. Mother instinct just come naturally, no worries on that.. We can all meet up when our babies r older Pm me! Staying in west side of sg..
If you leave your child into the hand of the person who does not love you and treat you fairly, how do you expect him to treat your child well in the next 18 years? It would also be difficult for you EVERYTIME when you need to visit your child. Furthermore he may have his own child (with someone else) in the near future, and if he still loves your child as much as he loves his own child, that would like striking a lottery!Being single parent is never easy, however you just need to focus on your life and take good care of the child.