single! but currently in my 23rd week. jiayou.
This is a discussion on single mother within the Single Parents Support Group forum, part of the MummySG Special Group category; any single mother out there who is just like me, 5 weeks plus pregnant? let go through this tough period ...
any single mother out there who is just like me, 5 weeks plus pregnant? let go through this tough period together...
single! but currently in my 23rd week. jiayou.
Im not a single mum but im once divorcee now remarry again . The 1st marriage started & ended very fast , i bring up my dear daughter alone with taking any $ from ex husband .
So all the single mum out there , you r the best , JiaYou !
it is tough... really tough... i m only in 5 weeks plus and i am beginning to feel the stressed and negative feeling... hope i will not get depressed... how did you mummies go through the stage? do you have the urge to contact baby's daddy when you are emo? i do and i really hate feeling that way... once i m not emo, i m okay, back to rational state... sigh...
single but already a mother of a 2 yr old.
well, if there is anything you need, hopefully i'll be able to help.
in any case, enjoy your pregnancy! its fun.
Sounds like the baby's daddy is totally not interested?Originally Posted by karoru
I mean ... even when you put it across to him in no uncertain terms that this is not gonna be your bargaining chip for a reconcilement?
If that's really the case, perhaps you can sought support from your own family members (any close siblings or cousins)? Or any close friends who share ALL your secrets?
Whatever it is, stay strong ... for the sake of yourself & the baby.
yes, i dont like the fact that baby's daddy appears as and when he likes... i still manage to handle the pregnancy myself till he reappears again... each time he appears, my emotions will be like roller coaster... i know it is gonna affect my baby... sigh!!
i dont want to reconcile with baby's daddy and had told him that we go our separate ways, do not contact me anymore... but he still appears as and when he likes... when i really need him and in urgent state, he is nowhere to be found... sigh!! argh!! that is one of the reason why i choose not to be continue with him.. coz i dont want my baby to grow up feeling "confused" about her daddy...
I understand your plight better now ... but 228 days is still quite some way to go, so I still think you should seek "alternative support" from within your own family. Friends will be friends, but what I'm talking about is someone you will not hesitate to call for when you suddenly feel unwell, someone who would not hesitate to be by your side in the delivery suite.Originally Posted by karoru
Once again, STAY STRONG & ALL THE BEST!!
yes, i do... thanks GOD that my family esp my bro and sister-in-law is very receptive to my pregnancy.... sometimes, i just feel that a husband's love and concern is just diff no matter how the pp around you shower you with love and concern... i seldom ponder on that, only during time when i am emotional or disturbed by my physcial changes (such as morning sickness, ulcers, painful teeth and etc)...
yes, i will be strong for the sake of my baby...
wateva it is.. dont buy any baby stuff.. near term.. free of charge for your baby..
Stay positive and family is the best shoulder to lean on. Theres still long way to go thru.. Personally me been single for 5yrs n go thru lots2 of problems (esp in $$$) and also miracles (there's always a solution for every problems.. ) n now married for almost 2 yrs. hope me can help you.. :P
i went through the pregnancy myself....
the father did not ask a single word... never accompany me before...
even made me cry cry cry everynight cause i am really sad...
after my boy was born, i think there's really nopoint in staying on......
so when my boy was full month, and after cny, i just moved back to my mom's...... and ever since then.... i'm single.... and bringing my boy up by myself with the company of my mom.
now my boy already 8 this year..... life still goes on
jiayou single mama!!!
Jia you all single mums, in future your children will be proud of you.
Jia you for all single parents no matter daddy or mommy,
wishing you all the best and may god bless you all...
life still goes on my dear...
my ex-bf has left me with a big tummy n i'm into my 12th week already..
i go for check-ups myself n i never demand a ting from him..
he says he care but i dont believe it after hw he treated me n still treats me..
i have a baby in me who needs care n love wen it comes out..
i am willing to go thru tis alone cos i know i can do it...
n i hope you can too..
stay positive n even if you have to cry at nite, just let it out...
i have been crying loads n have just started to smile again..
God will lead you to the right path..
trust in Him n trust yourself too..
we are here for you as well..
do keep smiling.. *hugs*
everyday you r in me, i feel blessed
*hugz* Hugz* be strong for your baby, Must take good care of yourself and eat more nutrious food also.
May God be with you!
Come in here more often ... assuming that time allows you to do that, of course.Originally Posted by schnookiecake83
The mummies here will share info & experiences with you ... so much so that you won't even feel lonely at any time throughout your pregnancy.
More importantly, the mummies here will give you reasons to smile ... which, in turn, will give a broad smile to your beautiful baby when he is born.
I think should at least let the father of your kid know that there is someone out there related to him. Accepting the baby or not is another issue. At least when your baby is grow up, you can tell him/her that you his/her father know about his/her existence but failed to do his duty. Not like what happen in the movie, the children ended up blaming the one who brought them up for lying to them.
dear...guess now you already pregnant 3 4 month???hmm...dont't worry out there...coz even me...can sort thing out...and be positive..i'm sure you can too...coz i'm only 17 turning 18 this year...and is a MTB in dec...i know its painful and tough to go thru alone...but...all your family members and friends are there for you...for sure they will support you ...or can even text me...we r all very friendly here...so jia you .....i also jiao you neh...hehe
i dont know what to say...
but my mommy is single mom from birth till now.... she brought up miie alone.... my lj "dad" went to hospital on 1st night of my birth.... (so i was hours old)........brought a woman.. damn young damn chio..... said to my mums "all the kids you give birth all got illness.... this kid yours "
yes .. my elder sis died within a month...
i had heart problem during first month born......... but im fine now~!
my 伟大 single mummybrought miie up all alone.... really thank to my aunt...
seriously.. you need alot alot alot alot support from your family.........
be mentally prepared gao gao....
alot stuffs to take care...
few months later ........you need to work.... who will take care and blah blah blah....
primary school worry this worry that... primary one already have han-yu-pin-yin ...
secondary school..... late coming home...cca........
alot stuffs to worry....you will definitely NEED A PILLAR~!..........be it family or 2nd guy....
confinement really hard to overcome... baby cry like hell....i went thru confinement all alone.... damn depressing and pek cek....
baby smile / laughter only come more during 4th month~!
all mummies also mummies... be it single or with spouse... all also=伟大 的 mummy.
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take good care kaoru.
it's not a easy path, but a fulfilling one.
life's never easy anyway.
I really 佩服all single mummy... they are really strong lady i respect.. no worries all the people here in the forum are all out to help so if any problem feel free to pm or post it up to ask for help i believe everyone here is willing to lend a helping hand...
So stay strong and 加油 all single mummy 你们可以的
Hi Single Mums!!
I'm currently 6 weeks and not sure whether to keep it or not.
Wondering how have all of you been doing and coping.
I read thru a lot of posts in the forum and realise we are not entitled to ANYTHING from the gov..
I know expenses will be high if wanna bring up single-handed but only able to roughly count the estimated costs for diapers and milk and others.
Hope some of you can give me a little advise on what gonna happen and i should be expecting especially hidden cost!