Share with you my sis story, she married at around 21, has 2 daughters. When she had the 1st daughter, she notice that her husband not the stay at home type, even when he free, not working, he rather roam at the void deck or park then go home, cos he said my sister love to control him. When his gal sick or fall down, need to go hospital, we called him, he never answer, cos he scare my sis trying to give excuse to lure him home, even when he realised what happen was true, he still no regret, and said that so long I around, my sis will be taken care off, cos $, time everything I can take care of. Even when my sister give birth, he also never visit her at hospital, giving the same reason.
Sometimes my sis dunnoe to feel happy or sad, happy that her sister (me) can help to take care of everything, sad that her husband had washed his hands off the family. She wanted to divorce many times, but each time, her husband will beg her, become obedient for a while, then after awhile, repeat offence again.
In yr 2004 my sister pregnant with her second gal, her husband behaved the same way, or even worst after he realised that its a gal, not a boy. He became very disappointed and started to stay away from home more frequent. My sis very sad, at first thought of abortion, but chg mind. At about 7 months pregnant, she changed the lock of the house and dont't want to let him home, cos she found that he cannot go in and out as he like and bear no responsiblity.
The man came back, demand to reconcile with my sis, threatened to hang himself with the gold chain at the corridor (funni rite), when it didn't work, he threatened to jump down from the 8 th flr of the beach road flat they stayed. My sis let him go into the house, he took a knife from the kitchen, threatened my sis that if she dare to divorce him, he will kill her first, then kill himself. In the midst of struggle, he kill my sister's stomach (she was then about 7 m preg), my sister has to go AnE.
That was the final that my sis could take, I gv her my assurance that I will take good care of her and girls, she divorced him.
My 2nd niece never see her father, now that she is 4, her father have no interest to see her at all. My ex brother in law and his friends still threaten my sis, say if she dare to find bf or ever get marry, they will harm her. I always tell my sis to tell him and all his friend, its my idea for the divorce, give him my address if he wants and ask them come to look for me (somehow he very scare of me).
My sis sometimes wonder, if she had listened to me and divorce earlier, then she won't have the 2nd child, then maybe her life will be much easier. But sometimes she see her girls so cute, she thought it was the best things she got out of the marriage.
The court ordered ex brother in law to pay $410 maintenance pm, $200 for each child, $10 for my sis, he had not paid many months.