This is a discussion on Baby kept crying, what is wrong? within the Baby, Toddler, Child Health Concerns forum, part of the Growing Up & Parenting category; just curious to ask how many post op day since his hernia op? Usually we recommend to give panadal strictly ...
just curious to ask how many post op day since his hernia op? Usually we recommend to give panadal strictly first 48hrs then when necessary. Have you tried babywearing your son? My boy used to fussed alot n last resort i'll do is to put him my bjorn n he'll fall asleep soon after cos lying near my chest.. But again he may get used to it but i think he needs some comfort n security to ease him thru this post op anxiety stage.. When he know's mummy will always b here.. He'll b betta
since it's been a wk i think may he's adjusting n coping with the anxiety now.. Anyway i think it's just a passing phase.. I know it's exhausating but mayb you n your family can take turns cos whenever we get worked up our baby can feel it n it bcums worse..
whenever dear son suddenly cries alot during that few days, we will just keep carry and sayang him.. sometimes he will shocked awake and cry very badly. we assumed that he play too crazy or was having nightmare thus he will cry out loud during his sleep..
Actually best is dont't go see medium.. I scared later the medium ask your mother in law go burn those paper and give your baby.
I agree that it's a passing phase. And it could be a growth spurt, ie need more milk during this week or two... Usually growth spurts take place around 3wks, 6wks, 3 mths, 4 mths, 6 mths and 9 mths.
im quite vexed over what is going on with my dear son now. i really hope he is just teething..i know this is a passing phase all parents ve to go through.
my mother in law seemed quite fedup with dear son. when i reached her pl yesterday, 1st thing she said was from 2.30pm till now(6.45pm) she didn't rest cos ve to keep on tend to dear son cos he cry n cry. the worst thing she can say is even if i give other people $1k to look after dear son, no 1 will want to do it & she has no choice cos is her own grandson..
i never answer her. i was shocked that she can make such a tackless remark.
what i learnt from my mum was, if we are frustated, angry, when a baby cries, the baby will cry even more. a caregiver should be CALM, once the baby feel our clamness, they will slowly calm down.. imagine you r sick (or going to deliver your baby) and you go to hospital, the nurses and doctors all panic, you will panic even more right? but if they keep telling you "it's okay, you're be fine..." you're feel more relax right?
as for mother in law, i agree she is impatient. she also has to take care of her 2 other grandkids, then always compare say must be my dear son something wrong or else y he always like that & the other 2 kids normal. is she saying my dear son is abnormal? i was so piss!
Actually are you working? If your mother in law can't handle due to stress of having to take care of other kids you can consider putting at infant care??? Hope I dont't sound insensitive to you but it's just an option you could consider exploring to bring some peace...
is it possible to ask others to help you take care of your dear son?? hmm if, i mean IF your hubby's salary still can manage the whole family household expenses, why not you consider quitting your job and be a stay at home mum?? cos i can see that your mother in law is very pantang. i'm afraid she might once in awhile go to the medium, get some amulet and burn with water for your dear son etc...
sign..guess what, last nite my husband came home & said his mum brought dear son to this temple seek medium advise on my dear son cryings. this medium said the reason y dear son kept crying is because previously i had an abortion & dear son is now here to 'haunt' us, tats y he keeps crying n screaming. i told my husband, this is totally crazy! i had NEVER had an abortion before. so i asked my husband did he really believe what his parents said, he said no cos the abortion thingy is really ridiculous. i told my husband, then you should ask yr mum to ask the medium, so when did ive the abortion? madness!!!!
okay now, if you really had an abortion before and the medium is able to 'trace' it, i can say the medium might be real, cos no one tel him and he knows mahh.. but now the thing is, you said alrdy, you had NO abortion before but the medium said you had! somemore your mother in law is so devoted to the medium, she might just believe him etc...
most impt is your hubby believes you.. did your mother in law says anything??
cancanmum=ya, mother in law is totally woliao & mi xin. madness!
regina=this is not the 1st time mother in law has blame me for dear son crying. previously she went to c this dont know what medium & worst thing, she say because during my pregnancy i anyhow tie things & now dear son lungs or dont know what kena tied up tats y he got discomfort n keeps crying.
FINE! say what they want! i really had enough of their nonsenses!
omg if i got this kind of mother in law i faint.. But anyway i really worry, sonce your mother in law is taking care of your son n she's so superstitious, next time she may feed your son some weird stuff.. Have you thought of speaking to your hubby n find other alternatives for taking care of your son? Can use this medium thing as an example.
i told my mum about what mother in law had said about the abortion thingy. my mum is very angry & demanded that i argued back to mother in law that the medium is a con-man. i told her not to worry cos dear husband will deal with his mum...sign...
Wah your mother in law really sot .
Ask her to ask for 4 number see will strike anot ~
My baby also cries very often, before and after sleep.
Her cries is the can almost break glass kind.
She seems to be having anxiety attack, just keep crying and screaming.
Sometimes can tell that she is already very sleepy but dont't know why just have to cry before she orhorh.
I understand how frustrating it can be but it will only worsen the crying if your husband screams and scares your baby. To avoid losing my cool, sometimes I just 'force' myself to smile at my crying daughter... so silly but it reminds me that she is my blessing.
your mother in law is very fortunate to have such a nice daughter in law lik you cause if me, i will sure demand for an apology, my character lik that one..
hopefully your hubby is able to handle your mother in law well.. cos it's such a fact that the medium your mother in law went to is a con man! even she wanna go to medium also must go to those trust worthy one...
i'm the more 'impatient' one at hm.. normally i'm the one who will 'scold' dear son when he over-cry... but my mum and hubby will be the super patient ones who will coax dear son well.. i'm now learning to be more patient to dear son, and it really works! =)