This is a discussion on Child's death: CJ ups jail term within the Local & Foreign Issues forum, part of the Community Lounge category; I feel that the mother should be punished as well for allowing such attacks to happen. By standing by and ...
I feel that the mother should be punished as well for allowing such attacks to happen. By standing by and doing nothing (including walking out of the relationship with her son), she only aided in his attack on her son.
This is why I never encourage women with children to stay in an abusive or loveless relationship for their children's sake. It is also abusive (emotionally or physically) for the child. What's the point in saving face then?
Let people say what they want. People who know you and interact with you will know what you're like.
And Baber adores you! That's what matters most.
If CMG wants to think that we're bad parents, then so be it. I know that at least my reaction in this thread might be out of raw emotion, that's only because I really value my dear son and I would really not allow anything bad to happen to him and whoever does so will definitely be made to pay for it.
I'm sure I speak for some mummies here.
What other people want to think, is none of my business. They can judge all they want and they can assume they're the best parent in the world. I'm just here to voice my opinions. Period.
I feel that there are no perfect parents on earth. And parents do make mistakes. I'm sure that parents here have also made mistakes but they do admit it to their kids and apologise or explain why they react the way they do.
I think that even if I were reading this story on a newspaper, I would have said the same thing to my son, that I feel that this person deserves to the punished more heavily. I wouldn't think that would be teaching him wrong values. I think if I had no reaction at all would have taught him worse.
I feel that the mummies here reacted out of compassion for the little boy who died. And isn't compassion something we would like to teach our kids? You may argue that our reactions could be too strong to our kids but wouldn't such strong reactions also go to show how savage the man was and how we as civilised people shouldn't be behaving that way?
All in all, children do not just feed from or learn from an one-off incident. And yes I do agree that constant outbursts of emotion and gossip and the sorts will definitely contribute to such behaviours in children. But I dont't think the mummies here are always like that or always bad mouthing or always gossiping. I think if that's all we do, we wouldn't be bothered to share anything here in the first place.
Urm, I actually thought CMG was referring to the people in the news and not the ladies who replied to the thread. At least that's how it sounded to me.
we r with feelings, thus seeing such savage acts, of cos we feel something.
just like watchin tv shows n reading novels, when its funny, we laugh, its sad, we tear, if watch those action movie, we gets excited too right? same logic..
unless you r one who dont feel anything about anyone else unless they r your family, then i guess this will not apply to you.
Well, all those things that you mentioned never happened... Which resulted in the boy's death...
Then what would you tell your child, if you read this piece of news with him/her, that would be deemed mature.
If all we offer are only politically correct opinions, it'd be quite hard to make friends wouldn't it? I'm glad I'm real and am able to make some friends here whether they agree with my way of bringing up children or not. It's all, afterall, just opinions and suggestions and the sharing of experiences.
We do keep our kids safe. That's why we dont't understand why that mother seemingly did not.
CMG, im quite confused why you keep commentin we mummies r SORTA against you or discriminating you, cos we r not. n i dont understand WHY you comment so much about us being UNHAPPY about the guy who killed that young child.
you say about us being like a mob, n violent, saying kids might come across this website n "learn" from us. well, this is a motherhood webby, i dont think kids will actually go to yahoo n type :motherhood website or things related to this.
even so, i think youtube is much easier to gain access right? doesnt youtube have MORE vulgarities?
when our child learn "bad" things, we as parents have the responsibility to correct them, cos they dont have to learn it from us. even if we walk on the streets, there r also ppl saying vulgar... then what can we do? scold that person?
lastly, i just wanna say that, what we post in this thread, is None of your business, if you canot stand our "violence" in the way we talk, simple, dont follow this thread or find another forum with very pleasant talkin ppl.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
is CMG related to that man?? or that poor baby's mum??
hmmm no offence... just curious....
what we posted here is just a topic for discussion, just like friends meeting up and catch up on recent news, ppl give comment based on their point of view and there are no rights or wrong...
y get yourself so involve here... if you dont't like the way we comment or post then you can dont't read this topic...
there are so many other thread in this forum...
and this is not the first time we post or comment on this kind os issue on child abuse...
Sorry, dont mean to be rude.. CMG is a man or woman or??? I myself am a new Mommy.. Now I understand how it feels lyk being a Mommy. It ain't easy.. Its really heartbreaking. After I read the news, my eyes actually teared up. I quickly hope to go back early from work & hug my son tight upon reaching home. How cud someone(human)slammed a child to the wall, door or watever? Something must be sooo wrong up there..