This is a discussion on 2 weeks wait within the Trying To Conceive forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Sometimes i will feel sad either out of the blue or when i see a preggie woman. but what to ...
Sometimes i will feel sad either out of the blue or when i see a preggie woman. but what to do? its a fact that we have to accept and move on.. ladies, jia you. dont give up
i understand how you feel justforgags. i had worse experience. my colleagues in my current company all like my parents and in-laws. keep pressuring me to get pregnant soon. but it's not that i dont want what.... these uncles and aunties just dont understand.
my in-law.....ask me to see tis traditional chinese medicine, she say her friend only saw the gynae for a few times then preggie .....i shoot her back asking if her friend has any fertity problems or not.......there's no such ting as "shen2 yi1"....she also dont know anyting, then open her big mouth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my in-law dont even understand my problem....then anyhow anyhow!!!!!!!
i'm also fedup loh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
relax ok.. maybe they r craving for grandchildren n tryin to help us but dont know hw to put in words n say things that hurt us.. Its good that your in law suggest you to c the traditional chinese medicine rather then my friend in law who keep on saying that she's infertile n will not bore them any generation but end up its their own son who got fetility prob.. *shame, dont know whr to put face*
as for me i have no probs wit my in law cz my dear husband dont like he's family bad mouth so im not close n moreovr i heard that my mum in law bad mouthing me recently n tts the more i dont wanna get close.. Its best we stay far apart n as a child we only call to ask how r they not more than that
i'm married for 6 months and trying to concieve.i'm quite sickly always fall sick once a month and stay with my parent-in-law...so once when i'm having high fever my mother in law say..."why you always fall sick...no wonder not pregnant". I was so hurt cos it take 2 to be pregnant and i have done a health check up to ensure that i've no problem to conceive.
Next my colleagues (2 of them)who got married 2mths later than me are both pregnant so the other colleagues keep asking me why so long...i know that they are concern but not everyone like my 2 colleagues so lucky.
Quite sick with ppl around me pestering me to get pregnant.
Somtimes elders want the babies to 'add to the family' or just because they want to have the company of the baby, or that their friends around them are carrying babies but they are not.
It is indeed stressful and i, before i was pregnant, dreaded it. There was once i even snapped at my mother in law. Given that beforehand i am not on EXTREMELY good terms with my mother in law, she went on to spread that im 'infertile' thus im so 'defensive'
For me, i believe urges at times drive pple crazy and make them illogical. But i also believe that one day, in time to come, i will have my turn for laughs and then whatever they said about me is contradicted.
Well i have 'my day' now, and my mother in law kinda left us alone after that 'snap' of mine or just simply gave up.
What's important is not to allow what others say to affect you (cuz only you know best) and just keep on trying to concieve but dont't give yourselves the stress
yah.... hard on all the ladies here...... why are do our inlaws think the problem always lie with the girls???? so unfair........... i always just brush things away and try to change subject. huh..... it's not that we want also . I know my husband is not young , but no choice . Things dont always happen as planned. what to do?
helo, we'r NOT in the same generation...how can you compare last time n now ?????? last time, did they suffer the same stress level ??? my in-law stay at home n shake legs loh (housewife laaaa)......where got stress ??? dont need to face boss's face....
they keep saying, last time we never see gynae, also can get preggie....ZzzZZZzZZZZZZzZZZ.......
smtimes , i was thinking inside my heart, you like kids so much, then you go get preggie again laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.....
:X **me very bad ...LOL~**
Now she wants to interfere with everything i do, especially after my bout of bleeding
The most important thing for you girls is to stay happy and focus, and not allow others affect you. your turns will come, and when it comes, it will be very sweet and joyful for all of you
She's concern.. Think positive ok.. Preggy women tends to hate some1 easily i guess, they're sensitive.. Some say that if you tend to hate your dear husband so much during pregnancy, your baby will look like him.. For etc, my cousin who had an argument with her mother in law during her pregnancy then ar wen she gave birth to her dear son, he looks like his granny .. hehe.. Funny
May we have the joy soon.. I envy my cousins n friends who r enjoying their moment with their bbs..
Yest my granny n auntie came to my house to gv me something n sat down for awhile.. She ask me if i plan to have a kid n i say yes but still no news yet.. Then my auntie who got married for 5 yrs n got 1 precious son joint in our conversation.. She say she understd hw i feel n moreovr i love kids so much n she assure me that my kids will be lucky to have me.. She told my granny to compare during my granny's time n now, y issit during last time people have many many children n easy to strike n now people r trying all sorts of medical treatment to strike, my granny jz dont know how to answer n my aunt's answer is that last time wiring cable use to be abv us which never pulls dwn our fertility n now the wiring cable r all underground which affect n pull dwn our fertility(only for those who r not strong enough).. Hope you get what it means..
have! i have a few aunties not married and relatives whom are married but no children. Even in my office, there is quite a number of them married for so long but no children. they just carry on with their life as usual and their interests . lol....... but whenever they heard of pple asking them "why dont have kids?". they will feel upset . some of them are due to health problems and others had already decided not to have. Some of my friends also decided not to have also at my age 29 oredi!
hahaha, lawla12! that's a GREAT thoughts . hehehe...
let's think it positive! maybe it's God's arrangement to test out our patience and hidden love for our husband and family. maybe it's just waiting for the right time in our life to appear so that we will know to treasure when our kids come into our life.
let's brave all the woes tog in here!
hi, i'm new on this thread and saw some post on the in-laws & relatives who pressuring us for babies..
personally, my parent and my in-laws did not pressurize us for it. until my young sister In law got pregnant lately and have to get married... my hubby is the only son in the family and i do understand that my mother in law is getting anxious...
but i do feel lucky that my mother in law is very good... she did ask me to go and pray and see doc but at the same time, she also console me and helped me relaxed on this issue...
she do understand this situation as my eldest sister In law only got pregnant after 3 yrs of marriage but i already got married for 2.5 yrs and only trying to concieve for the pass 6 mths or so...
i also got a case whereby our friend got preggie and kind of show off in front of us. seriously, i do feel heart-broken when heard this news but i stood strong that whole nite with them. but end up that she have to terminate her preggie as baby's heartbeat stopped at wk 6. i do feel sad for her eventho what she did to me.
i had actually given up hope and was thinking to adopt one if confirm dont have a child after few yrs. i've seen gynae who said i got a cyst but is not blocking my ovulation. this week is my ovulation week and hope that i will strike bah...
gals, dont feel stressed.. relaxed and dont think about makin babies when doing the stuff.