This is a discussion on Anyone got pregnant soon after Miscarriage? within the Trying To Conceive forum, part of the You and Your Family category; hmm.. strange.......
but then your temp got go up for 3 days anot??
hi mummies, thanks for e reply, will wait for a few more days, if stil have not cum then wil go c doc. coz quite worried. thanks.
I saw a group of stong women, it somehow comfort me...
After 12 years of marraige, i got pregnant, my first pregnancy.
I experienced bleeding in my 11th weeks but I managed to pull through and saved the pregnancy. Today I went for my 20 weeks scan, they detected defect on the lower spinal cord of my baby which might affect baby brain or cause lower body to be paralysis. I was given a choice whether to continue or terminate the pregnancy. I was devastated and lost. My hubby was with me and a great support. I asked for a re-scan this friday, and if still given the same outcome, I will admit to Kandang Kerbau Hospital and proceed with the abortion
To terminate a pregnancy at 2nd trimester, I have to be induced, go through the labour pain, do a D&C to clean up the womb. (My tears are falling, baby is kicking me while I am typing this it's painful but I really wanna talk)
We came home, my hubby finally broke down too, we hugged each other and cried. We decided to seek a 2nd opinion tomorrow or Thursday with another hospital, before we make a decision on Friday. We have not decide which gynae to seek a 2nd opinion... This is so tough and so painful.
Will a miracle happen or will this marks the end of my pregnancy... regardless i will have to be firm and stay strong in whatever decision I have to make.
i'm so sorry to hear that.... do go for a 2nd scan or opinion to cfm... if it's true, then i suggest you terminate the pregnancy.. it will be better for both you & the baby.... although it's very very hard to let go....
but at least you know can you & your hubby can conceive... there's always another pregnancy...
do take care... & GOD Bless!
will be praying for you.
Hi shiseru..im very sorry to hear that. I agree with crescent. Do go for a 2nd opinion. Consult your family on this, especially your husband, before deciding. Once you have reached a decision, be brave alright and look forward..
I had lost my baby in the 2nd trimester also...so i do know the pain you are going through. However, I didnt had to make a tough decision as the heartbeat simply stop. Be strong alright my dear.
Take good care...
i read and understand a few has went through this whole chaos, that's why I posted here. You ladies who had experienced this has given me strength, other mums-to-be understand and shared my pain.
I called thomson medical center and they told me if scanning was done by the senior consultant in KK, it is usually accurate. The seniors must be 90% confident that this will affect the fetus hence suggested the abortion. I have already took the blood test yesterday to prepare the abortion this Friday if outcome the same after the rescan else i would have to wait till next week to abort. It is already cruel to keep me waiting till this Friday, the wait and baby kicking is kiling me...
if you do decide to go ahead with the termination you hav eto opt for single bedder if you want privacy n for your hubby to be there.The drs there wld not be present during the delivery unless there is a complication.The delivery is done by the nurses.
you cld choose to see your baby after tht.I did.N i have never regretted it.N not to sound morbid but they do ask if you want to bring the baby home or let the hospital take care of it.I chose to have a small funeral n bless my baby.After cremation my hubby let her ashes out into the sea so she cld be with God once again.It was the most traumatic experience of my life n i wld not want anyone to go through it.The funeral was done by Promiseland Casket.The nurses at KK were hopeless.When i asked if they knew anyone who cld arrange funeral for my baby they say to look it up in the yellow pages.I am glad tht my baby went through the proper rites..gave me a sense of peace.
pLS stay strong n put your faith in God.I believe everything happened for a reason.N i have just given birth to my little girl 12 days ago.When i look at her n think about the baby i lost last yr,i m amazed at her resemblance.It is as if God healed her n send her back to me.
If you need anyone to talk to about the experience,pls do email me.Wld be glad to be of any help to you.
Jas, is it okay to lemme know what is the cause of your termination of pregnancy at 22 weeks?
I have been thinking of doing a small funeral but I am not sure of its procedure. After the D&C, i am told by my mum to go for confinement for a month to tune my body and health back.
It so heart breaking, baby has been moving so much as though it knows...
true.i really hate the waiting.
just learn my colleague who also planning with me got P.. *sigh*..feel happy for her and at the same time feel disappointed for me.
I just got a miscarriage too in early July. One week of bed order didn't help and still end up miscarrying. I didn't op for D&C and I manage to naturally pass out the sac, it was series of painful cramps for 2 days but everything else is fine. Just got my first period, exactly 4 weeks later which surprise me cuz my period is never regular. Hope to join you ladies soon for trying to concieve, good luck everyone. =)
Hi feathers! 4 weeks and you got your period??? that is fast..im still waitin for my first period..I had a m/c in early july too..so same as you, now in my 4th week..but still no period yet...sigh... keepin my fingers crossed..hope to get it soon..
tinklish, is your period usually regular? Mine was quite off till my gynae can't tell me when my first period after m/c will be here. I m/c at 5 weeks, its in very early stage and my m/c bleeding only lasted 7 days exactly so its not so serious and body recovered faster. dont't be too worried about it, take your time to rest and take more tonic in the meantime k?
My gynae ask me to wait another 3 months and use protection for the time being. Am wondering should I wait or just let nature take its course again as I read that its actually ok once we go through the first period after m/c.
Last edited by feathers; 09-08-2009 at 06:21 PM.
feathers, my period is usually not regular.i had a m/c at about 19th week, so my bleeding lasted longer..on/off for 2 weeks before it came to a complete stop. But yesterday, strangely, i had a blood discharge..The amt not alot..it stained 1/4 of my pantyliner..did not soak through.. Hoping that it is a good sign.
When i went to see my gynae after 2 weeks of my m/c, he did not really ask me to wait for another 3 months. I did asked him and his reply was, we will see how during the next visit (which will be 1 month ltr = 6 weeks from my m/c).. so prob dont really have to wait for 3 months as long as physically, mentally and emotionally you r ready
hello feathers, i started planning soon i experienced O(2nd cycle) after d & c till now. didnt succeed during my 2nd cycle, hubby also go reservist during my O days(current cycle).. so can forget about working on it then.*very sianz*..i find that as long as you r ready, can try . my hubby n i have unprotected since i stop bleeding from D & C.
tinklish, mine mense came pretty late.. was pretty worry when its very late that time.however i read that so long it didnt exceed 3months, is consider normal.. wait for a few weeks more since you havent reach the 3 months gauge..
Hi 26JMC, my hubs also in reservist. Haha! Two more weeks for reservist I think. I'm not even testing for O now, waiting for the kit my friends and I ordered to arrive. We are not rushing into it thou, I scare gynae scold me!! =X My mother in law also ask me to wait but I feel fine, infact I feel physically I'm stronger than before due to tonic I took during confinement.
Tinklish, hopefully the bloody discharge is pre-menses. Any other signs?
Good luck n lots of baby dust to you !!!..how have you been feeling?
what kit you will be using? i want to buy the clearblue fertility monitor .... trying to get directly from US.. got any lobang>>????
your gynae said cannot try? my gynae before D & C also told me that before..but after D & C ops when the blood discharge cleared, she scanned my womb lining and told me to try if i want as the lining went back to normal already.. try for 2 months, still lidat ..