Hello Yukki, hang in there! I have a similar story as you - two failed IUIs, and always a mix of happy-for-them-but-sad-for-me to see my friends around me pregnant. With her help and also western medicine help via IVF, I am finally blessed and am pregnant now. But it took close to 2 years.
I went (and am still with) Dr Chen Qiu Mei at Health and Beauty Pte Ltd. I think she is really well known, and I am sure somewhere in this big thread are her contact details. She is at No. 38 Upper Cross Street, Tel 65344131. I had to wait 1.5months for my first appointment with her about 1.5 years ago. I started taking traditional chinese medicine over a year ago, and while I did not get pregnant, I could see my body getting stronger - which I think helped in my pregnancy journey. I was falling sick every month, and was always very cold at night. After I started seeing her and drank her medicine regularly, I now have rosy cheeks, no longer fall sick so easily, my ovulation came like clockwork, and AF flow was much better.
I am not sure about you, but I took Clomid for 6 months and that turned me into a monster. I was aggressive, grumpy to the max, and flared up at everything. I tell myself that rationally its the side effects of drugs, but it is so hard to control your mind and body. After that failed, I started injections, and my body did not react well at all. I however reacted well to Dr Chen's herbs. But traditional chinese medicine is like a tortoise - very slow and you need commitment and discipline to brew the herbs. I have friends (two in fact), who went to her and after drinking for a month, they strike toto and got pregnant. I drank for nearly 1.5years, and combined it with IVF before I finally am now pregnant.
I think Dr Chen gives more than medical advice - she gives emotional support to all her patients. She comforted me whenever I was disappointed with my results, and gave me hope whenever my doctor gave me bad news. She would say things like "there's always next month!" or "continue to take my medicine and soon it will be your turn", or "dont't give yourself so much stress, I am here to help you", or "You are going ivf next month? Ok stop all medicine I gave you. I will prescribe you with stronger ones to support your womb" etc. When my doctor was a little hesitant with me going to traditional chinese medicine, I told him that Dr Chen is more than a doctor - she gives me psychological and emotional support and makes me happier. The current doctor I am with (Dr LC Cheng from Thomson Medical) is a big believer in traditional chinese medicine and I am very happy to be supported on all sides.
Every woman is different, and I have been there - dont't be overly stressed or sad. I felt that I was sabotaging myself when I got depressed. At least you are doing something and getting medical intervention!!! I am not sure if you are considering IVF - if you are, all the best, and traditional chinese medicine will only help you in your journey. Relax and know that somewhere in Singapore, someone just crossed her fingers and toes and eyes for you! xo