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This is a discussion on We are trying to concieve-ing! within the Trying To Conceive forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Originally Posted by tricky missA omg, how dreadful !! I hear so many stories of very very unreasonable mils. For ...

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by tricky View Post
    missA omg, how dreadful !! I hear so many stories of very very unreasonable mils.
    For me, respect or elderly dont care, I def will tell off if I'm shoved. sometimes I think the elderly take advantage of their situation and really use abuse. like all those horrible aunties in public transport. I have told off so many of them, the worse is when they queue in a line. After you tell them off they go all apologetic, like yet couldn't control themselves in the 1st place ?? just my morning rant lol
    I think most mother find it hard to let go of their son instead of daughters . so weird right?

    i cannot tahan rude elderly. if you want to be respected, you have to earn it . my neighbours are all uncles and aunties. 99% of the time me and my husband took the initiative to say hello good morning. end up they just look away like they are some big fug. wah lau now i see them also just walk past and never bother . pek chek.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Ooooh MissA, that sounds like some Taiwan never-ending drama series! I hope things have got better now for you.

    I’m living with my inlaws and I think it helps that they are not so old (stigma of old = old fashion thinking). My mother in law is just merely 13 years my senior. They might not have had the best academic education but I find they are one of the most respectful zhang-bei I ever have. My mother in law has only one son. She is totally sensible enough to know that if she makes things difficult for him/me, it just might mean losing a son. So we manage to live happily under one roof, so far

    Through conversation I overheard between my inlaws and others, they always say boy or girl doesn’t matter these days. So that’s comforting to hear. But then, I find my all my inlaws side are quite traditional. So to make everybody even more happy, I like to have a boy first (if I ever get to a second baby!). I mean this baby popping is for my hubby… I will choose to have a carefree lifestyle if my hubby has agreed on that too.

    But if I ever am a single mom (no inlaws to please), and love to have a kid, I will hope for a girl. Statistics show that boys squander their parents’ money, not usually the girls. Haa! Looking at friends around me, girls are more filial.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    To add on, I did ask my hubby the same question and he replies whichever gender falls from the sky.

    But I’ve seen how he talks/plays/handles babies. I personally thinks he prefer a girl J

    According to lunar gender prediction, this cycle will be a girl for me.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    missA - your mum in law quite technologically advanced! know how to use email !

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    sigh I think this month is gone .. Saw brown

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    MissA, i think your mother-in-law is like those very typical one who always thinkonce their son got married, they lose your son to the daughter in law, thus making all sorts of bully to them. but i believe there are also very nice one out there. At least your husband is on your side so dont't bother too much now as you are just in your initial stage, you are the queen of all. Rest more .

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by xiaohuiis View Post
    sigh I think this month is gone .. Saw brown
    i also think my this month is brown. was having cramping these few days.
    after my walk up the stairs just now, i felt my belly flatten down.
    cramping is like gone @.@

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    prayinghard... that was so nice of your husband. The maternity dress not only will encourage/motivate you, it also does the same effect to your hubby! New dress, fresh start and.... good luck! Of course must go to the doctor for the cough, ok? dont't ever let the germs bring you down, jiayou~~

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    quincy1986.... try your best not to study into the symptoms so much. And, you're on CD20 only. Relax, relax, relax.... weekend is here, cheers

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    I also secretly prefer a girl but anything goes at this stage !

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Oh my... I had a hard time reading all the posts... Was so busy to log on yesterday...

    Quincy1986: take it slow... Slow down... Relax... Stay calm...
    I had MC before... Regretted as I was too anxious about work... All the walking, standing, carrying heavy bags, gg up n down the stairs, didn't dare take med leave... Until I felt so tired, only then went for check up a few days earlier than scheduled check-up and found out about missing heartbeat, no growth for 2wks!!! I felt like the worst mother in the world... Had to do d&c on my hubby's bd some more... This will always be in my heart... Esp when I see my friend's kids who were born around the same time as my lost baby... So pls take it slow..
    after I got preg again, I took no pay leave to stabilize my preg...

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    my mother in law is very high tech. she even have a facebook full of her own posey photos. my husband refuse to add her thou. lol sometimes I look back my relationship with my in laws is like those Taiwanese hokkien series like that. sibeh dramatic.

    girls in their tww, dont't spot for symptoms.... although I have a lot of symptoms during mine, I have friends who feel nothing at all and didn't realise that they are pregnant until a week or 2 after they miss their period. everyone is different. so as long as you af is not here yet, dont't be despair!

    climbing stairs is part and parcel of my life... at work or at home. but I try not to lift heavy stuff.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    ladies... i need your help since this is first time i seriously bbt..
    when your temperature falls, does it mean that i have ovulated cos i saw a dip in my chart last 4 days..It has now rise but my temps are not that high...

    I have been opk-ing with clearblue last 3 days but there were no smiley. so does that mean i have missed my ovulation? it came earlier than expected and i didn't have any cramps or sore boobs like before. not sure if it's because of CW that my O dates are earlier.

    and i didn't manage to BD few days before. only 1 day before and on my O date itself and yesterday.
    sigh... can't help but to feel dissapointed already. I hope i hit a spot somewhere.

    here's my chart:
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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Hi pinklolita.

    Usually how long is your cycle? And which day are you on now? What’s your temp averagely before the dip and what’s the temp like after the dip? I feel CW might bring forward your O by a day or two.

    However if no smiley, I feel you have not’t O yet. Curious to know your temps as asked above.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Sorry didn’t see your chart there just now. I feel you have not’t O. Your last few days temps dont’t look high enough to signal ovulation has taken place.

    But having said that, now that I saw you had EWCM. So it could be you've O-ed but the temp is slowly climbing; not those typical shot up temp after O. How long is your cycle typically?
    Last edited by Dragontail; 12-04-2013 at 11:35 AM.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    dragontail i normally have long cycles like 41-43 days... so i was due to have my ovulation this week.
    i hope i have not ovulated yet! cos we were just warming up with the bd and for once my hubby is not complaining about being tired from BD.

    im gonna get another box of CB dgital and test again few more days. cos i usually will get 2 days of smiley.
    Omg so stress.

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    I see red sigh

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by xiaohuiis View Post
    I see red sigh
    My hubby is the eldest of 2 brothers, even his cousin from father in law side, all boys.... And I'm the only child.... So I have ppl telling me, I will have more boys too.... But hubby prefer baby gal first, 女 then 子 , will becomes 好

    BFN tis morning, diarrhea twice again this morning on CD33

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by pinklolitapop View Post
    dragontail i normally have long cycles like 41-43 days... so i was due to have my ovulation this week.
    i hope i have not ovulated yet! cos we were just warming up with the bd and for once my hubby is not complaining about being tired from BD.

    im gonna get another box of CB dgital and test again few more days. cos i usually will get 2 days of smiley.
    Omg so stress.
    Pink - really dont stress to bd..... You are not relaxed at all.... It's good sign that your hubby not complaining being tired....
    Meaning you maybe near to O, bcos men can smell woman near/during our O, our body are made like that..... like how animal mate, they smell each other....

    just bd as much as you can, if not every 2 days for now..... dont stress yourself on OPK too much....

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    thanks all. i dont really care. i climb the stairs and all. because who knows maybe this cycle also dont have?
    but i just feel funny that i feel cramps in my abdomen for no special reason. so thats what bothers me.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Hi tricky! High 5! But my cycle is not super regular kind haha.. normally will O later..

    Xiaohuiis: thanks for your info. dont give up yet... since you r already seeing the doc its coming very fast to you k.. rest more during af.

    Shez: since is cd 16 n you yet to test any positive opk probbaly you have not o yet?

    Pinkalolli: frm your chart your temperature still looks low. Seems to me ad well like o has not take place yet.. do you bbt at about the same time daily? (As I saw the rise of temp issit cox you temp at later hours?)

    Yeah I think in the first place I also always wanted a boy to acc my hubby.. but yes truely girls are more "tie xin" to the mummy.. alwqys wqnt to have a boy then a girl.. heh but since just trying to concieve is already so difficult for me so I will be happy if I have.. lol..

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by Missy10 View Post
    Pink - really dont stress to bd..... You are not relaxed at all.... It's good sign that your hubby not complaining being tired....
    Meaning you maybe near to O, bcos men can smell woman near/during our O, our body are made like that..... like how animal mate, they smell each other....

    just bd as much as you can, if not every 2 days for now..... dont stress yourself on OPK too much....
    thanks missy10! we are trying to BD alternate days now..
    i used the cheapie opks and they all came out to be quite light.

    i hope your bfp comes soon! no af witch means you are still safe!
    Last edited by pinklolitapop; 12-04-2013 at 12:36 PM.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    gnissim - I chart at the same time everyday. at 6.20 am cos that's when i have to wake my hubby up for work.
    but i sleep irregular hours cos i have a lot of work to do so i'll end up at sleeping at sometimes 1am or 2am.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    CatC, how old is your number one? Boy or gal?

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    My hubby loves to have gal because he feels that gals are more guai and can doll them up all in pink very beautiful. But actually, to us boy or gal also we love all we want s a heathy pregnancy

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