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i've got to abstain from bd until next period comes. doctor~ i got my needs too T.T
Haha quincy, you must tahan. My gynae told me cannot have sex for the rest of my pregnancy cos my placenta is way too low. Even worse...that is like 5mths....I dont't know if I will end up cannot tahan and rape my hubby.....he refused to have sex with me after what gynae said...I think I rape him better.
Where is the like button when we need it?! Lol I'm not usually a very high drive person but pregnancy have changed me. But I'm trying to tahan till 2nd tri to play safe! ><Originally Posted by TVH:791263
wow this thread is so long & with so much sharing. im still looking thru n learning fr all the posts.. y didnt I join earlier? heh
just some casual info about me & my painful trying to concieve..
me: 30 (pcos, thin lining tho never done d&c)
hub: 32 (sperm very average, bad heads n tails)
married in 2009 (after 8 yrs tog), started trying to concieve 2 yrs later only to hit so many walls.
done 3 clomid cycles
done 2 gonal f iuis
done 5 puregon iuis
done 2 puregon ivf (ivf #1 no frozen )
done 1 fet
was on traditional chinese medicine for awhile then stopped before my fet.. I saw no point continuing cos I didnt think it helped.
done hsg on valentines day 2012 both tubes ok
changed 3 gyneas - this very impt!
1st gynae very bad.. super nua attitude.. not sure if I can share her name here...
I never thought for a 30 yr old woman.. in order to start a family I have to go thru so much.
anyway, this journey has taught me to count my blessings.. whether I succeed or not, I have my supportive hubby and my 2 adorable bunnies.
long weekend starting now so fellow ladies.. sleep well eat well & ENJOY!
My stomach skin start to feel tight and dry and itchy... Scratch until got rash. Does it mean I shld start using stretchmarks cream? Any recommendation??
missA: lol. i help you roar too.
happilymarried: yes pls share her name and y is she so tardy on her job.
i have also met a lady gynae before. she is very expressionless. i always pictured female doctors to be very caring.
Happilymarried : your time will come, soon! I really admire your will to trying to concieve. Actually I have a couple of friends took awhile to conceive thru iui/ivf. But when they r successful, 2 of them have twins! Would you like to have twins too?
@ missA - I started using bio oil since my second month itself though it says that can start from second trimester..I scratched one day so hard that got nail marks so I use the oil to make sure the skin in that area is soft, i dont feel itchy so much nowadays, not sure is it coz of oil or my skin is stretchy now..my tummy is getting tighter each day especially upper part..
I apply like 2-3 timesin a week as of now..
It smells nice and is relaxing to receive a massage from hubby
It is around $16 only..I didn't wanted to spend much coz I was not sure of how my skin will be..as of now just have couple of marks which i had before too, dont see major changes yet so bio oil seems ok but if marks get much I would switch to Clarins..it is highly recommended on forums..
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Happilymarried. Thanks for sharing your journey. I love your spirit. We all keep the faith and yes whatever comes tomorrow, we all have today!
MissA oh you havent started anti stretchmark cream?? Notti notti. Hee. I was kiasu...7-8week I already started. Highly recommend the mothercare brand (I think it's called love your body anti stretchmatk cream) and the clarins oil.
I wish a lovely weekend to all.. enjoy
@happysoul : oh I heard about bio oil! My skin is generally dry especially my shin... Like snake skin. :/ I shall go get tomorrow and apply on my tummy and also other dry areas. Thanks!
@dragontail: I'm so slow. >< initially did not wanna rush into doing anything but now like realise cannot delay further wait I got ugly tummy!
@dragontail - you have been busy with your hubby these days as I read from the posts.. glad to know that you both enjoyed the time together..
I pray that you get a bfp this cycle..
Happysoul, good to hear from you again. Thanks for your well wishes.
@ missA - for me more than the tummy skin, the nipples hurt much..I get a sharp pain at times, feel itchy too..I have started applying bio oil on and around the bust area..
missA - you must start your anti stretch mark creams asap ya. I havent used before, but i ever bought Clarins brand (4 bottles) fr airport before (there was special discount) for a friend's younger sis who was preggie then... & as for twins... i would welcome triplets even. haha.. tho i know its no good becos can get many complications. My in laws say no rush, but i know they are just being polite. Afterall, i m tog with my hubby 10 over years... kinda stagnant life now.. so sian. we worked so hard to earn & save money only to spend it all like water now with doc and hospital fees...
quincy - she is eunice.chua. Her clinic is at level 3 thomson medical. Sorry if any of you are with her, but she just doesnt work for me. Started seeing her in 2009 and 2010 for yearly scans & pap smear. BOTH times, i told her i was on diane for 9 yrs due to 'blackout' cramps and 8 days bleeding in my uni days & partially for skin. Told her i will trying to concieve in 2011. As a doc, she casually told me stop only the month before i want to try!! ARGH! thinking about it gets me mad. I did as she instructed. After stopping & ttcing for around 2-3 months, i went back to her for scan and she said oh you are not ovulating and your lining is awfully thin. WTH?! she could not have the ethical sense to tell me to stop 1 yr before, then check if i O on my own? she then put me on 3 cycles clomid which did not help my lining (only around 5mm everytime). Each clomid she put me was lowest dose, and she just wanted 1 egg each time, not even 2. 1 of the cycles, the egg did not even pop, her comments, oh must be from previous round of clomid. WOW, i wanted to kill her at that time. I chose to do 1 gonal f with her, also lowest dose again, with 1 egg. After that failed cycle. I had enough of her. I think she doesnt have that urgency in her, she is super nua and does not understand that time is ticking away for us. My PCOS was discovered later after the continued stims. My 3RD gynae now is also a lady. She is great. She understands my concerns and is kan cheong for me. She doesnt waste my time and she gives me options. Her nurses are also great, all polite and very gentle.
dragontail - i am still reading and learing fr past posts... didnt know you been thru so much. You are so strong! I had always thought to myself, getting a BFP and then losing it is still better than never getting any BFP before. I am so wrong. Both are equally bad. But, dont give up. The right time will come! =)
happilymarried: i feel for you. if you r willing, you can report her to the medical council. but of course it is a tedious process. glad you finally found a dutiful gynae.
Thank ladies for answering my qns regarding exercising.
All along, my mindset is: once the bean stick, it will stick and will not detached itself. Guess this is not the case. Got to change my mindset and be careful during the 2ww.
me using clarins stretch mark cream since week 6. I have been very generous in the application - butt, thighs, hips, tummy (below navel and above navel) and breast... And I use every night. During the day, i use my normal body moisturizer on the same areas except tummy where i use clarins. I am now on the 3rd bottle... =p very expensive affair but I am so scared of getting severe stretch marks - I still wanna wear my bikini after popping!!!
I tried bio oil but I dont't like the oily feel. For me, I never liked the oily feel even when doing massages. I like massages but always need to shower directly after to get rid of the oil. Feel it is very sticky....
Oh, please rem to check epilator is safe for use during pregnancy.
Happily married -
sounds like it has been a horrible experience. And glad you found a gynae you're comfortable with now. And wow, you did many treatments! admire your tenacity. Is the gynae you're currently seeing also a fertility specialist? Not sure who's the traditional chinese medicine you seen previously but for me, I personally thought traditional chinese medicine helped. In addition to the other methods as outlined by everyone here =)
preseed is safe. Hahahah I used it too. But dont't use too much... !
Sigh. I used to be scared of 小强 but have learnt to be more independent and will spray hordes and hordes of insecticide! dont know why these 小强 only appear when my old man is working late or playing golf!! Anyway I am now using natural means to deter them - pandan leaves and the roach sticker thingy on the wall. I used to use lemongrass oil but heard not good for pregnancy.
Tvh - For low lying placenta - do not squat (for yoga poses that involve squatting, please sit on a bolster or a block or a stack of towels instead). This is what the yoga instructor has advised the students with low lying placenta to do.
Also, I heard from my friend who has a similar condition that sufficient rest is important. Also, her doc said no sex. The placenta technically should gradually move up as the pregnancy progresses.
Carefree has panty liners for g string
Hee hee - I can't stand VPL so I am all in for thongs =p
Yeah... but i feel uncomfortable with panty liner on thongs, im all in for sorella seamless panty, as im a dress person, VPL is even a big no-no..... heheheOriginally Posted by littlej:791314
AF due in 1 week time. End of month. But I think this month is out for me. Grandmother just passed away 2 days ago....