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    TVH: Same! Why r men like that? He gets really awkward when I try to discuss serious issues with him face to face. With Sms its a different story, very open to discussion O_o

    guess I shld get a proper bed that matches the nursery decor. Love ikea design but their particle board always become pong pa & got wood lice. Nothing caught my eye @ courts, harvey norman & vhive. Gahh...

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Maybe they dont't know how to react in face to face confrontations...imagine if we live in a world without SMS...totally dont't have to talk ...

    ya if you can buy pork chop, dont't buy bak chor...ikea good for small, items....not good for furniture....and some more their furniture ain't exactly cheap...it is like buying bak chor at pork chop prices....

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    Happilymarried: How did your appt go?

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    Dragontail - i would suggest to go for parquet, for baby safety, if you really want carpet, partial will do, but not the whole room, unless you n hubby got the habit wearing slippers at home.....

    Littlej - oscar test result out immediately, 1:13301 low risk.....

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by TVH View Post
    sigh...i hope my hubby will wake up...until now, i think things are still surreal for him....it's like i'm always one step ahead of him...he's always falling behind...it gets so tiring at times...
    TVH, my hubby was like that and I was like you, planning everything and he was still busy with work .... I can't imagine how I at 7 months preggy and carrying at least 10kgs of baby stuff from Expo to Jurong and he was not stirred till the day my gal was born, things change completely! He accompany me everywhere when I say I need to buy baby stuff. Man really need to see the real thing to have the real feeling! Just tell yourself that your man is still preparing himself for fatherhood.

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    Looks like more vote against carpet! Actually my worry is for baby . For adult, still ok. Hmmm maybe settle for partial carpet .

    Happilymarried, let us know how the visit went ya.

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    yes happilymarried <3 how how how?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TVH View Post
    Maybe they dont't know how to react in face to face confrontations...imagine if we live in a world without SMS...totally dont't have to talk ...
    i am very happy that he is still willing to communicate with me. i am just afraid of the day he break down all channels of comm. so sometimes i even draw nice nice pretty letters to him. sigh... men these days are too pampered .

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    Sometimes true...must text hubby to get my displeased message through. I find if I talk, his face is expressionless and I feel more hot. Haa! If I text, I wont see his face and at least he will still reply yes or ok or I know.

    Hmmm I think my man will be quite involved during bfp. Maybe hard for him to get away from work to have gynae visits with me but other than that, he will take care of most stuff for me. Even 2ww he already think I can be preggie. But of course man being man, sometimes must nudge them a little to remind we may need a little help here and there.

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    I think my man cannot think properly on the spot..talk no sense. When I vent at whatsapp then I think he will read and reread to make some sense.
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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Hi ladies. Any advice on to tell the interviewer if you are pregnant? I have look through the net n seems like we have not obligation to inform them. Any idea? Thanks! N sorry to hog thus topic here. Cox I only love talking to you ladies lol.

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    gnissim23: at the end of the interview, when interviewer ask if you have anymore questions, you can ask what do you think of hiring a pregnant woman?

    from there you can go on to say things like i am going for interviews in hopes that hirers could consider giving me a chance despite me being pregnant...and your story goes on

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    gnissim, lol I think same same too.

    Actually I'm really lost on labour law in general. But since you said interviewee is not obliged to reveal her pregnancy, then I guess can dont say right? This is on selfish note but hey, if you were to tell you're preggie, I'm sure 9.99 out 10 chance you wont get the job. Imagine one merely works 4-5months and she has to disappear for 4 months and the company has to do the re employment for someone to cover her.

    Maybe someone who knows more on this can shed some light.

    Btw, I had wanted to do this but forgot last week.... One of the pills I was given to "induce more EWCM" by my gynae is called Tamoxifen. I had wanted to google more on this. So here it goes (in case someone here will be seeing fertility specialist and chance upon this pill):

    Tamoxifen is a type of medicine known as an 'anti-oestrogen'. It is mainly used to treat women with breast cancers that respond to the female sex hormone, oestrogen.
    Most breast cancers are sensitive to oestrogen, and their growth is increased in the presence of this hormone. Oestrogen binds to oestrogen receptors on the breast cancer cells and causes changes within the cells that result in faster growth of the cancer. Breast cancers that are sensitive to oestrogen are called oestrogen receptor positive cancers.
    Tamoxifen works by blocking the oestrogen receptors, thereby blocking the effect of oestrogen on the cancer. This starves the breast cancer cells and stops them from growing.
    Tamoxifen helps prevent breast cancer from spreading to other areas of the body and also reduces risk of developing cancer in the other breast.

    Tamoxifen is also used in the treatment of female infertility that is caused by problems with ovulation. Again, it acts by blocking oestrogen receptors, this time in a part of the brain called the hypothalamus. The effect of this is an increase in the levels of the hormones that control the development and release of an egg. These hormones are released from the pituitary gland and are known as follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinising hormone (LH). FSH stimulates the ovaries and LH causes the release of an egg from the ovaries (ovulation).
    In the normal menstrual cycle, oestrogen acts on receptors in the hypothalamus after ovulation. This causes the pituitary gland to stop releasing FSH and LH. As tamoxifen blocks the oestrogen receptors in the hypothalamus, it prevents this action of oestrogen. FSH and LH levels therefore increase, which increases the chances of egg development and ovulation.


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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    gnissim23: just to add it is better to tell them than to hide. like all issues it is better to clarify things from the start. otherwise if your employer finds out in the near future...nobody can predict what will happen to you

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    if youre pregnant during probation (even if you hide it and tell after probation ends), you wont be entitled to the 4mth maternity leave.. probably only two months thats given by gvt and not that from company. they can count backwards to find out when you concieved uh.

    if you got pregnant after probation ends, then the company will not be able to do anything. If they sack you because you got pregnant, can report to MOM.

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Tvh and rav - Wa, your room so big ? Hahaha I think for my room - after fitting in the cot, wardrobe (plus my piano and study table)... I can probably only fit a mattress for the confinement aunty. The cot I am planning to get can be transformed to a junior day bed so that will be muffin's bed until he is about 2 to 3 years old?!? I was planning to get the seahorse foldable mattress for confinement aunty so can keep.

    After aunty leaves, we might move the cot to the master bedroom. 2 reasons - save on electricity and old man might be able to help if he hear crying. Heheh.

    Tvh - for wardrobe, you can consider these places -
    1/ casa kiddi
    2/ kids have not
    3/ piccolo house
    4/ star living
    5/ hdb shops

    Do a search for the above on where The shops are. For me - I got from star living.

    Casa kiddi's stuff are very cute but it is nicer to get as a set. so for me - I figured I will only get from casa kiddi when muffin is older (and I can throw the cot)...

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    thank you ladies!! - wontonmee, shez, quincy, dragontail, rav & littlej! i was so exhausted after sleepless nights and i napped right after i got back from my scan in the late afternoon. thanks so much for your care concern n support! =)

    while i was sitting in the clinic in front of the wall of babies.. i felt so overwhelmed and cried. there were so many pics of twins on that wall! the head nurse came to console me.. she told me these things happen.. she once had a patient, who had triplets then down to twins, then down to 1 baby. OMG. its like heaven playing numbers game... how can the gods be so cruel....

    Anyway, i count my blessings as i have always been. happy to have you ladies & also happy to have twin a dancing away. my darling twin a seems to be finally growing faster than the past few scans. i guess my body just is too weak to hold 2 babies. becuz today i requested for ALL scan pics & reports. I just finished reading the reports and realised that both their growth had been slightly below average (still within range but always at the lower end). today twin a finally shot up to 11w1d even though i am only at 10w4d.

    i wonder how many ultrasound images i can store in my head... today's was really great becuz my baby a was dancing away, flapping arms n legs (a bit like trying to get comfy in bed but still trying to find the most comfy spot/position - sleeps exactly like me!!). Doc was great, counted hands n fingers (she had to point n go there, 1 2 3 4 5 for 1 hand.. hahaha).. n thighs.. n pointed out eyes, nose (impt for next appt's scan cuz can see nose very clearly!), ears, heart, stomach, cord... she had to repeat cuz hubby moved closer n closer to the screen!! ahahaha... he asked if he needed special glasses to see what she was pointing at cuz he blur. i also blur. heehee

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    I think it is of goodwill (if you would term that) that you inform your potential employer you r pregnant even though labour law has no obligation on women's part to declare becos this can boil down to integrity issues too. It is like there is intention to hide when you obviously have opportunity to declare. And if after probation, you suddenly announce you are going on maternity leave, it might incur some unhappiness on the part of your colleagues too. Your boss would also then have to face the issue of having to shuffle around resources again for your cover. For me, I want to go on maternity leave with a peace of mind, knowing that I got understanding from my boss and colleagues so I can enjoy my leaves too. At least that's what I think ...

    Ya littlej, I think my room is big enough....mine is an executive apt and right now only one room is occupied (our master room) and one study room. Still got a spare room for the auntie...
    Oh thanks for the recommendations! Where is Cass kiddi? I plan to buy a nursing chair too so that I can fall aslp comfortably while pumping milk haha

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    happilymarried, been waiting patiently for your goody updates. I feel this is such a beautiful day for you and your hubby! Your little one is growing fast! That's very good. When will be the next scan? I guess it should be your OSCAR next?

    Just went to toilet and and behold I have loads of watery plus clear stretchy cm. I am on CD8. I think the tamoxifen effect is showing up. Hope it will be like that too when my O approaches.

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    dragontail - thank you!

    I forgot to attach 2 pics.. the 3D pic was last week but was too distraught to look carefully until yesterday... my baby a's face looks like a splitting image of my hubby!! gosh.. face long n sharp... can see formation of a big nose (oh dear.. if only baby's nose take after mine.. hee)
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    Thanks for sharing the great news, happilymarried!

    Eh...my room not big. Just enough for a single bed, a changing table & a cot. Already got an open concept wardrobe which I am going to convert to a hanging storage for baby stuff. Buang buang buang so many thinga

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    Quote Originally Posted by happilymarried:808373
    dragontail - thank you!

    I forgot to attach 2 pics.. the 3D pic was last week but was too distraught to look carefully until yesterday... my baby a's face looks like a splitting image of my hubby!! gosh.. face long n sharp... can see formation of a big nose (oh dear.. if only baby's nose take after mine.. hee)
    The 3D one looks cool!

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    happilymarried: I feel like waving to your baby. because it looks so very healthy <3 can see bird bird or abalone?

    I studied online that it is common that twins are smaller than single birth. so no need worry as of now

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Shez - I have been meaning to ask but always forgot - how is the new job?? You switched companies right? (Or am I mistaken)?

    If I am the hiring manager - I would expect my interviewees to come clean with me. I will not discriminate you if you are in your first or early second trimester but if the applicant is like 6 months or more preggers then I would really think twice cuz I can't have her working for 3 months and before probation is up she is off for maternity. For such applicants I havent come across but i would strongly encourage her to think about her move as well. ... But if I found out that an applicant has intentionally hidden her pregnancy ... Then hmm... How can I trust her and without trust how to give a good evaluation? I came across applicants who told me they are 1 or 2 months preggers before and we would then have a good and open discussion on why they wanna move and if they feel it is right given the job scope and if they are able to cope after coming back from maternity. More often than not, these applicants will tell me they would rather stay on in existing companies. Sometimes compromises may need to be made so for eg I once gave a 2 month preggers lady a contract stint first so that both she and myself can decide if she is suitable and she also gets more remuneration since contract benefits are not as detailed as full time so win win situation... On her part she only took 2.5 months maternity (although by right she is only allowed 2) and when she proved she could manage the job 3 months after she came back, I converted her contract to full time so she get more childcare benefits. So you see - for me, I believe better to be honest .

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    oh dragontail - I believe in parquet or timber strips for bedroom... no carpet unless its those small n easily replaceable sort.. our humid weather not so suitable for those fully carpeted room. also city life with construction everywhere.. carpet traps dust n dirt easily. in future with your baby n perhaps a doggie, think better not go for full room carpet.

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