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How come the people so direct one.
to be honest, I want to get pregnant also and the baby next year ASAP.
I want to leave my job and also to focus on my studies (grad school research).
my husband is workaholic . drinks a lot too (he's Japanese) so usually tired and cannot really do LOL
Welcome babyhorse, my hubby also did not react well to planned sessions. Hope tonite or tomorrow nite he will be able to do the deed well and give us some hope for this month.... I should o either Sat or Sun hehehe base on my min knowledge of FF
Hi babyhorse! Normally I dont't tell him when when. I just tell him to sleep early n wait for him in bed hahah
I read that once you get a positive opk, can stop opk-ing already. And spermies can stay in tube for few days so dont’t give up yet!
Actually no one “dares” to ask me during CNY (or anytime) when I’m gonna pop. Specifically the relatives. Because they knew I had MCs before. If anyone dares to ask me I surely tell them “I got MC remember?”. Hee. They are a sensitive bunch so I dont’t get disturbed by such question.
I'm down sick. Boo!!! Doc gave me some meds which are safe for trying to concieve, and I'm just going to rest coz I'm seeing doc chan tomorrow!
Shez long time no see here. What is your update?
Rest well Shez, take med and get well soon.
ya my relatives very direct and will keep look at my tummy, but they dont't know I mc before, so I will just smile and said next year! i just hope the good sperm can clear all obstacles and stay for few days! hope we all dont't see the red witch for 9 months!!!
I always believe, when you lost one, the one will always come back to you..... dont give up, jia youOriginally Posted by Babyhorse:811556
Shez oh first time seeing dr chan right? Is it first time seeing fertility specialist too? So exciting! My first visit at dr chew my heart beat was very fast and my blood pressure was high, so the nurse told me so
It's your cd12 tomorrow is it? I'm so excited for you for his superb scan machine!
Are you off work? Go sleep early tonight after taking the medicine.
Someone posted a link to one article on the lost baby right? Wads the link again?Originally Posted by Missy10:811558
littlehamster - this is the link you looking for?
babyhorse I read this article over n over again in the past weeks.... I lost 1 of my twin babies few weeks ago... right now, I am still slowly trying to recover...
Happilymarried sorry to hear that, it is really hard, you have to be strong for your other twin. it took me a month to stop tearing whenever I think about it.
Yeah Thanks. I will bookmark itOriginally Posted by happilymarried:811604
Ello babyhorse and everyone!
Babyhorse - are you born in the year of the horse???
Dragontail - how was phantom? And hee hee remember no drinks tonight at st James!
Shez - rest well and let us know how it goes with dr Chan tomorrow!!! Good luck!!!
Sigh. It is a bad Friday (again).
My old man's grandpa was admitted to hospital earlier today so we didnt manage to go to the taka fair today... And it would appear he can't go to church with me on sun (some impt occasion whereby close family member encouraged to attend and he was the only one who will go with me) and next tues is when we start the parentcraft class - and so it would appear he won't be able to come with me for that first lesson as well.
Feeling a little anxious cuz we have not't got the playpen etc ready... And we have not't changed the shower stuff in the bathroom... have not't got bathtub and the kitchen stuff needed for confinement like water boiler and slow cooker etc. nursery still in a mess in boxes. None of the clothes are washed cuz wardrobe only coming mid aug. dont even have a car seat too. and my colleague was telling me that her baby came out at 34th week and she was super ill prepared and had to spend 2 extra nights in the hospital as her husband went to get everything ready.
I am a bit pissed off cuz old man was the one who wanted to get stuff only later and attend classes later. And now it seems like there is going to be another delay with his grandpa in hospital. He just told me that I probably need to fend for myself the next one or two weeks until his grandpa's condition is stabilized.
And on top of that, I just feel like a single mum if I am going to be alone at church this sun (he is my only family member to witness the special occasion cuz my family are buddhists and will not want to step into church) and alone for the first parent craft class.
I mean- It is not I am unsympathetic for the grandpa's condition. I am... But I just feel that why can't I take some importance too. But he is like that I know, anything happens to his family, they take precedence.
But of course the other side of me is also saying I have gotta be more understanding. What if anything happens to the grandpa whilst he is with me... Then how am I ever going to 交代 on that.
Maybe it is also hard for me to perceive the family closeness they enjoy. Cuz my family isn't like that. And also - as you all know, his mum doesn't like me and will not recognize me so yeah... I am not even allowed to visit the grandpa in the hospital. So which makes me feel even more alone on this side of the fence whilst he is on the other side with his family.
And I just told him, since you so busy, why dont't I just go ahead and get the playpen and the rest of the stuff. Everything can be delivered anyway. Maybe I said it at the wrong time but he was like, why am I putting additional pressure and stress on him now.
I dont't know . I am just thinking geez... If we can only settle baby stuff 2 weeks later, delivery takes one more week... Set up etc... Isn't that cutting a bit too close.
Sorry to hear about your old man's grandpa as well as the rush and schedule to get baby stuff ready.
We may not help much physically but we are here emotionally for you.
Please do not worry too much. and do not have negative feelings about yourself (eg. like more understanding or not). Please dont stress too much. Say all the things you want here so you do not tire yourself out and your baby! I send you strength and good thoughts!
Sayangz Sayangz. ...I may go to the taka fair tomorrow as my daughter has class at Forum .you want me to look out anything for you? I can take photo of the price and model if you want. ..Originally Posted by littlej:811625
Do rest well ok..I think your old man doesn't mean to snap at you ..just that he is stressed now so dont take it to heart..
Hello ebichan! I've been around but busy!!! have not't had good news so am taking d next step. Seeing fertility specialist.
Dragontail, tomorrow is cd10, not cd12. Dr chan usually sees his patients first time on cd12, but as its our first time seeing him, I wanted to do it on sat when hubby can come along. Subsequently I can go on my own.
Littlej, sayang sayang. Baby is always there for you!
Littlej: So sorry to hear about your day. you r very brave in my opinion. dont't beat yourself over wanting a little more attention. I will also tell my hubby that I will go get all the necessary stuff done myself if he isn't free. In your hubby's agitated state of mind, he probably misinterpreted your words as being hostile? Maybe can talk to him again and explain that you didnt mean to pressure him. I admit that I wish that my hubby is more proactive but thought that it would be better if I could learn to be more independent. We are stronger than we think we are, and we have to be.
I would like to think that since we r preggers, all the aches & kicks are felt by us. Our hubbies are strangers to everything that we r feeling. So its understandable that they are more detached to the whole process.
Hope that you guys work it out. Never go to bed while you r angry.
littlej - oh dear.. its tgif and I am sorry things turned out this way tonight for you. first things first, get your hubby to load up on vit c? he has been going to the hospital (to visit n care for family) since last week.. remind him that if he falls ill, you & muffin will fall ill too. he doesnt want that right? I guess it is the stress of going to the hospital so often.. im sure he didnt mean to reply in that manner.
I feel we ladies need to be independant. I think you r doing great! when muffin is out, a lot of chores need to be conquered separately.. so I hope your hubby does follow your excellent example in near future.. men can hardly feel any bond to the baby before the baby is born.. so its normal.. I told my own hubby.. next time must "monkey see monkey do" I.e. when I change diaper he must learn. when I prepare milk he must learn.. haha.. cuz hubby is a monkey!
Littlej, nope not born in the year of horse, just hoping hard for a horse baby! Chill....i guess it just one of the days we get agitated with our men. Rem Happy pregnancy = happy baby
Thank you!!! Well - old man is spending the night at the hospital so it will be a me myself and I night...
Hey Natalie - thanks for the offer. I might go down to taka tomorrow... But hahah the thought of the weekend crowd is kinda scary...