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    Quote Originally Posted by littlej View Post
    Hello!

    Dragontail - condolences. And hope to see ya soon...

    . The emotional turmoil with trying to concieve - I went through that. Initially just kept it inside me, then wept in front of old man (who was like a sotong and couldn't understand what was wrong - even till today, he still can't understand. Now he dares to tell me he thought I was crazy)... Then I started shunning friends who are pregnant (my old man also thought I was weird to do so)... Then I met you folks and gosh, you won't believe how relieved I felt. To know that I wasn't weird or strange or insane. And everyone here really helped. Thank you.

    Ebichan- smiley face then bd that day. And every alternate day. I bd 2 days before I had smiley, the day of smiley, and 2 days after smiley. And another 2 days after.

    Actually for a doc to help with trying to concieve - I would personally recommend dr chew - not ya ya chan. Cuz ya ya chan just kept asking me go iui. Failed once still ask me to Try again. And he never gave dates to bd. I thought dr chew is better. At least he is more pro natural and try all ways natural first. But would I recommend dr chew as the doc after bfp - I wouldn't. That said - I heard yaya chan is very good at ivf.

    Oh gosh - I wonder if docs and nurses come and read!!! I mean - they'd know it is me right?!? Imagine if I go see doc Tham next Friday and he asks me "so are you littlej?"?!?
    littlej I know the feeling about shunning preggy ppl and even news of ppl preggy sometime even I get jealous and depressed... Hang on in there ladies... We r here always to lend a listening ear.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Have question for you ladies
    today is my CD16 on Avg 28 day cycle
    opk tells me I have not O but my temp is steadily rising

    Do we O at diff CD each time you think ?
    Or maybe it's really my age showing , that I dont't O every month

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    Ebichan:.I think you gonna o soon. try opk later. I o around cd18-19 for my cycle 30-33days. Not same day. Did you bd yesterday night?

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    ebichan: were you the one who said you had a smiley? sorry i have memory issues.
    do you used to O regularly before?

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Last month smiley was CD 15. I BD only night before that
    I didn't manage to BD yday
    Wanna try today
    thrn al days like you guys suggested

    Only test 1 x a day

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Ebichan, I dont't usually o on the same cd dates. What I do is - observe my mucus. If its starting to get wet and slippery, I will start testing twice a day. Using this method, I am usually able to catch my O within 2-3 days of opk-ing.

    Littlej, if the docs do come in, yaya chan also very easy to know who I am! Hahaha. Just check the dates of d op and who saw him yesterday! Lol.

    Anyway, he told me to go back and try naturally. Says my body is good to go and hubby just needs to take vits for the soldiers. If 3 cycles later we are still not preggy then to look for him.
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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Thanks Shez
    Im also waiting out for 2 more cycles before trying / seeing fertility

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    ebichan: i found the following at babycentre:

    "Yes. Fertility starts to decline for women from about the age of 30, dropping down more steeply from the age of 35."

    "In fact, the older you are, the more likely you are to conceive non-identical twins. It's thought that your body has to produce more of the hormone that makes you ovulate as you get older. The hormone is called follicle stimulating hormone (FSH). Your body produces more FSH because there are fewer viable eggs left in your ovaries."

    Your age and fertility - BabyCentre

    So yes you are right. The older we are, our body works harder for us to ovulate.


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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    I would love twins! But now working hard just to get a steady constant good state of health so that cycles are O are still regular.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by quincy1986 View Post
    littlej: initially my hubby dislike me crying. he will scold me for crying. I was in disbelief of how a man can be more unfeeling. now he is someone who I pamper so much and equally pampers me back in return.

    morning everyone. to continue on the discussion on my t-tc journey. hubby and I will try for natural once more after my af. today is my CD2. if the next cycle fails then we will embark on iui. because he hasn't been confirmed at work yet. still in his 3 months probabtion. then if the iui fails, that will be the end of our t-tc journey. I read elsewhere that couples who are so much more "normal" than us ended up doing ivf. I feel that they are so poor thing.

    fighting everyone ! hugs to my t-tc buddies so glad to see all your posts although quite emo (sorry hehe).
    so glad to see t-tc buddies here.
    Hi quincy1986,

    Did your try to take bak foong pill from eu yang sang for conceive? As for me, my 1st pregnancy, i took bak foong pill for 6 months to regulate my health, womb, period; and i only tried for one cycle and i conceived. Then for my 2nd pregnancy, i took it for 3 months, then on the 2nd cycle, i conceived. Now i'm 10 week pregnant. My relatives recommend to me. And i thinks it's works. But this pill is quite heaty. I took a bottle that contains seeds one. Half bottle in 3 days, then another half in subsequent 3 days. Btw, i'm 29 this year, hub is 30 to a 20 months old girl.
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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    munmun: thanks for your recommendation. my friends around me took bai feng want because their menses are irregular and have bad cramps. for me i am fine. so i was wondering. and my mother in law cook 8zhen sometimes too. and no news still. i will check with a sinseh soon.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    ebichan: i just did research on fertility foods.

    for your reading: Fertility Foods
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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Oh btw I did not go to EYS afterall. Actually have never seen any sinseh in my life and am not used to that style of alt mediciine
    But after reading what you girls write about
    Im beginning to think I should try

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    Quote Originally Posted by ebichan:817468
    Oh btw I did not go to EYS afterall. Actually have never seen any sinseh in my life and am not used to that style of alt mediciine
    But after reading what you girls write about
    Im beginning to think I should try
    Ebichan: come we go see Dr Wu together on Sunday Hehe..

    Someone Here mentioned That the eys bak fong want is cooling and not suitable for trying to concieve? Munmun: did you take That when you try? Or stop n try?

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Morning everyone!

    Quincy - whether iui or not - My personal thoughts would be to leave to the doc to decide and recommend what is the best course of action for you. If *touch wood* you dont't conceive this cycle, then next steps could be for you to consult a fertility specialist. Are you already seeing traditional chinese medicine btw?

    Ebichan - I am no expert on bbt. But for opk - when I first started using opk - I only tested once a day and always kosong. Then in the second month, I tested twice a day and got a smiley in the evening test. The early afternoon test was kosong, and next day was also kosong. So if I didn't test twice a day - I would have gotten a kosong again! So anyway, for me - I feel the best judge of knowing when you O is the doc cuz he/she can see your eggs via ultrasound and the ripening progress ie how many mm. Anyway just to be safe, just bd today, the day after, the day after after?!! At least 4 times, every alternate day?!? But bear in mind if you o today, then you should have bd-Ed two days ago to clear the pent-up sperms and it is a fresh batch today.

    Shez - yaya chan told me exactly the same thing. And he gave my hubby vits too. Then each month check eggs (i requested). 3 months later did iui no success. Then he asked me do more iui.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by littlehamster View Post
    Ebichan: come we go see Dr Wu together on Sunday Hehe..

    Someone Here mentioned That the eys bak fong want is cooling and not suitable for trying to concieve? Munmun: did you take That when you try? Or stop n try?
    Hi littlehamster,

    i took it after my menses,
    week 1 is my menses : stop bak fong,
    week 2 after menses : start bak fong, try to conceive in 14th,
    week 3 : continue bak fong,
    week 4 : stop it if case i get bfp. bak fong is contradict in pregnancy, this written in the notes when you purchase bak fong.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Quote Originally Posted by littlehamster View Post
    Ebichan: come we go see Dr Wu together on Sunday Hehe..

    Someone Here mentioned That the eys bak fong want is cooling and not suitable for trying to concieve? Munmun: did you take That when you try? Or stop n try?
    hahahaha Dr Wu... far right, some more i dont drive.
    I will see my naturopath on Monday. I will report then!
    You also report! LOL

    Lets ganbatte!

    Little J
    WAH quite expensive i dont know can test twice a day or not
    OK! I try again today but tonight def will BD! will not let husband escape.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    littlej: actually was mentioned before. i was seeing dr tan kian seng @ clementi. but his appointments are hard to book so me and hubby gave up. then also he gave us acupuncture. hubby notice that i dont like acupuncture so he discourage me from it.

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    btw, after i get bfp, i wait for 2 weeks for a scan. After everything is confirmed, sac is there, fetal pole is there, i see my sinseh for double support.
    A little details from my profile:
    Age 25 : Got married, 1 month later got pregnant. I definitely had no idea about this, wasn't trying for it. So, on the 2nd month, see doc, doc cannot find any sac, urine tested bfp. Doc found a cysts. Go for operation. That time, did not take any bak foong pill cz dont know about it.
    Few mths later, got preg, but at week 9, heartbeat stop, go for d&c. See sinseh, she recommend to take bak foong pill.
    Age 27 : Start to take bak foong pill. No trying. On the 7th month, while on bak foong, that time, really try to conceive, got preg on 1st cycle. And faster see sinseh.
    Age 29 : Tried for 5 cycle. Failed. Decides to take bak foong pill. The same month, got preg in Dec 2013. did not see sinseh. Thought everything is ok. Backache. Brown discharge. d&c week 9.
    Now : Eat bak foong pill for 4 months after d&c. Wasn't trying. on the 2nd month of trying, got preg. Faster see doc after 2 weeks. Saw heartbeat. Then rush to see sinseh every week. Everything is ok, except some vagina infection. Cleared up after apply some cream.
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    shez - did yy chan prescribe your hubby tentax? I love the sound of textax.. =p

    ebichan - first thing in trying to concieve is you must ask hubby to cooperate with you.. bd must be a few times a month during fertile week... you may not have any problems but maybe you just need more bd & perhaps the correct timing? also you can buy cheap opk from internet.. use together with cb so that you can test more often to catch the O! goodo raku!!

    quincy - why dont you consider egg monitoring first? you done it before? its still quite natural except doc will help see your egg growing & at most, 1 jab to release it at the correct size before lots of bd! this you only pay for doc & scan & 1 jab only.... jiayou!!!

    Littleham - jiayou to you too!! if bak fong want is good.. I wonder why the eys paragon sinseh didnt give me... hmm...

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    littlej - I am married to a sotong too!! he didn't understand me then... neither does he see the pain & mental torment that I had been thru now.. so cheers to MEN!!! we love them at times.. but some times.. we hate them too.. haha..

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    thanks all for your advises <3

    booked appt with Dr Loh on 17 Sep. 1 month to go that's my next cycle
    i told hubby dr ann more expensive. he say go for the less ex one. hehe

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    actually yesterday i went for the groupon voucher accupunture for my stiff shoulder.. i feel the sinseh quite good as she only asked few questions and concluded my body's health within that 5mins of consultation. she said my digestion and circulation no good so toxin build up in the shoulders (thus stiff) and also weak in kidneys and has slight anemia. I told her when af come i feel dizzy and i started drinking pork liver soup every day for 1 week. after af i eat 8zhen and occasional pork liver soup. she said the retail 8zhen ingredients dont really provide enough nutrients and pork liver drink too much will high in chlorestrol. she recommend to eat some blah blah pills ( i cant caught what she say cos she speaks too fast) to replenish and enrich the blood. thats why i asking how to cure the anemia. i read back the CW label, it has iron in it already, and i eating alot leafy vege n egg n meat. aiyo why still anemia..... -.- how how how~~~~

    btw, hubby also went to the accupunture, the sinseh say he very healthy -.- why the sinseh no tell him to sleep early? Lol

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    We are trying to concieve-ing!

    Happilymarried, no. No tentax prescribed for hubby. hehe

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    Re: We are trying to concieve-ing!

    littlehamster: i read somewhere online that we cant really absorb all the multi vits and multi minerals such as CW.

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