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How many weeks after miscarriage did you try for another child again?
Btw, when you are trying for another child, is it stressful? As in miscarriage before, and thus, is afraid history will repeat itself again?
Besides that, what is the chances of miscarriage again?
Last friday, I had brownish discharge. On Saturday, I went to see gynae. However, at that point of time, no discharge. Through ultrasound, my gynae told me I got blighted ovum. Since, I am spotting on friday, e chance of natural miscarriage is high. Who knows, after seeing my gynae, I have been spotting till now. So, waiting for mini labour to happen.
In another words, my gynae actually suggested me to go for natural miscarriage instead of D&C.
Last edited by hui_ru_88; 25-11-2009 at 01:40 PM.
The body can recover quickly, but our broken heart takes time to heal. But when the desire of having a child is greater than the fear of losing another, you know you are ready to try again.
i guess it is better for you to take a long break 1st.
for me, i already went for D & C. there is no point probing over it since its alrady a fact that its gone. i do feel sad at times, but also more angry with myself on why this thing is happening again. other than that, i dont think i want to trying to concieve till we went for health checks and is given clear sign to go ahead.
Partially also coz i can prepare to restart again when i am ready again.. (to console myself).
I had my natural miscarriage last thursday morning around 4 plus. My contractions kicked in at 1plus. Even ponstan does not help at all. What I had experienced was that 2 days before the natural mc, my spotting became like normal menses. This carried on till sunday (29 nov). Since then, I have been spotting till now.
Frankly speaking, natural miscarriage is very tramautizing cos I never know when I will mc. It is stressful as I have this thinking- people have contraction cos they are delivering. But for me, was a different case.
I called up my gynae. She said the spotting can even last up to 6 wks. So, still waiting for spotting to stop.
hui_ru, I too had a miscarriage due to a blighted ovum but the difference is that I didn't know that I was miscarrying until it was too late. I got pregnant sometime in March and in Switzerland, if you do your checks at the public hospital, you dont't go in until your 10th week. So I never saw a doc.
Anyway, a week before my appointment, I had some spotting. At first I didn't think much about it coz no cramps and such. My hubby and I went for a walk and then I started getting these really painful cramps so we came home as fast as we could. When I went to the bathroom, all I saw was red blood but just drops and the cramps were worse. So my hubby called the hospital and they told us to come in. I was supposed to be 9 weeks pregnant (based on last missed period) but when I went to the emergency ward and they checked my HCG level, it was just 6 weeks and dropping. They did a scan and it was then they told me that it's actually a bligthed ovum, no fetal pole, no fetus...just a sac. I was told that I was having a miscarriage (the doc was very sympathetic) but she reassured me that it's a good thing because it means that my body is functioning, doing its job and so forth.
When I went home, I cried and cried and cried. I had to break the news to my parents and in-laws. My parents started scolding me and my mum? I'll never forget her words: "Why you tell people? See . This will teach you not to go around telling people that you're pregnant." My dad kept saying that it was my fault, that I didn't take care of myself, etc, etc. My in-laws on the other hand were very supportive and understanding. Unbelievable huh?
The bleeding from the miscarriage lasted a week - like a period - and after that, I went for a check-up, to see if all was okay. Was told that I could try again if I wanted to but best to rest for a month because it was emotionally traumatic.
Anyway, I did a mini-confinement for a month and then started TTCing again in July. I got pregnant a few months later - in October - and gave birth to a lovely baby girl in July the following year. So really, I'm sure your turn will come again!
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I also had a miscarriage 2 yrs ago in Jul. The baby has no heartbeat at 10 weeks. I was having spotting and cramp the day before and when I checked into KK emergency dept, I was shocked to hear that baby had no heartbeat and hence it was a miscarriage. I was not prepared for it. Anyway I believe that God had a purpose for it to happen (I went to 3 countries in Jun during my pregnancy and got salmonella during my Nepal trip. I drank plenty of Coke cos the weather was hot. I was eating a lot of unhealthy stuffs and carrying very heavy luggage. All the while, I didn't realise I was pregnant until I returned from my hols. Hence I believed that it might be a blessing in disguise cos if the pregnancy continued.. my baby might have some health issues. I returned to my gynae and he performed a mini surgery on me - removing the foetus. I cried of cos..and so did my hubby at the clinic when I woke up from my surgery. My mum also blamed me for telling others about the pregnancy. As it was my 1st pregnancy.. I was overjoyed and of cos went round telling my friends mah.. sigh.. Imagine my hubby and I had to mass sms to our colleagues and friends to inform them of the miscarriage. Double sigh..
The doc asked me to rest for 2-3 mths before trying again. I went thro a mini confinement after my miscarriage too. I remembered trying one time for a baby after 2 months and very soon, I was pregnant in Oct!!! Only once!!! No joke!! I couldn't believe it and I truly believe that what the Lord took, He has given me another one!! Praise the Lord! So last May, I gave birth to my lovely and happy daughter, Naomi. :>
It was an experience which I would not forget. Of cos I was worried that I might miscarried again in the 2nd pregnancy and I did the nec precautions including not travelling overseas at all during the whole pregnancy (imagine I have been going on hols every school hols for past 6 yrs!!).
Hence Hui Ru, dont't be worried and discourage or sad. I believe you will get pregnant soon. Waiting to hear from you the good news:>
Hi meiteoh and nancy
Thanks for your encouragement.
When I was pregnant (before I mc), everyone was overjoyed and this reaction of theirs really surprised my husband and I. Even they went to the extending of calculating my EDD. But in the end, haix.
Besides that, as I had a natural mc, my menses lasted for a month and due to mc, my menses went haywire. That was a surprise to me as after I delivered my daughter, I didnt experienced this at all.
Once again, thanks for your encouragement.
i also had my D&C last oct... same as all of you who have faced this before that we were really upset and i was just beginning to be back to my old self. i'm more lucky than some of you that none of my parent, sibling and in law side ever scolded me or blame me of the lost. my mum even cried with me.
my mum and mother in law both were 'snatching' me for doing confinement for me. i really felt glad that they are so supportive to me.
i only started trying for another one this month and still dont know the results. hopefully that i can strike by the first try.
i guess, it's best to wait for 2-3 mths before starting to try. for me, my chinese physician told me that my womb is ready for another one, that's why we try our luck...
i'll worried for my next pregnancy if it's healthy anot too... guess, this is a test that God want us to face.
my mum watched a taiwan variety show that the contestant have MC for her first 6 pregnancies and she got herself the 7th which she carried to full term. sometimes i do wonder on her courage...
wah, MC for first 6 pregnancies and carried to full term for her 7th! I really have to salute to her determination!
I read her story and I cried...
But she is a strong woman, she will trying to concieve again.
Last edited by shiseru; 24-01-2010 at 07:33 PM.
There are a few mummies from the other forum having pretty similar experience. I just hope the gods will hear their prayers and bless them with healthy babies.
Last edited by shiseru; 25-01-2010 at 08:15 PM.
i read somewhere..there is this lady also same problem but she manage to give birth to a baby on 2nd pregnancy..1st pregnancy also early labor..but her gynae manage to help her on 2nd pregnancy....
Her first pregnancy was a molar pregnancy, her 2nd and 3rd was cervix incompetent, and both lost at 16 weeks. So the 4th pregnancy gynae detected the problem and she was stitched, everything was going well until her water bag burst when she was 22 weeks pregnant.
I was in office when i read this, i cried i couldn't control my tear, i really feel for her. I hope she can carry the baby to term in her next pregnancy,When the waterbag burst, i rushed to the hospital. my gynae examined me closely and said that my baby's heartbeat is very low. even if he were to do caesarean, baby can only survived for 1-2hrs as my waterbag has already dried up. At that point, i remained calm but only God knows that my heart has already shattered. My husband immediately broke down into tears but he managed to pull through as he was giving me support throughout. We decide that we will wait for the baby to be delivered naturally. Meanwhile, the complcation did not end there. Before the baby could be delivered, the doctor has to remove the stitch that i had on my cervix.
It was a very panicky situation as the sticth could not be removed. Baby's leg and cord was already sticking out thus blocking the stitch. My gynae tried his very best to remove it with support from my hubby and midwife as they tried to calm me down. It was very, very painful...... after a few unsuccessful tries, i was wheeled into the OT for an emergency op to remove the sticth. my gynae told me before the operation that he will only remove the stitch while i was under GA. he will let the baby deliver on its own. After the op, we waited for about 4hrs for the baby to be delivered folled by the placenta. during the 4hrs wait, i had contractions as the baby was crowning bit by bit. After the baby was delivered, my gynae examined the body and found out that the umbilical cord was twisted badly upon reaching its belly. other than that, the baby was perfectly fine with no physical abnormalities/defects. I was devastated as previously it was due to my cervix that is not strong enough to hold the baby but now my cervix was fine, said my gynae it was not dilated. We had proper burial for the baby.