Satellite, I guess everyone will be tired out and fed-up with breastfeeding at one point or other.
Take a breather, arrange for someone to look after your baby for a while then you go do something relaxing like catching a movie or taking a stroll.
My son had the same problem, he refused bottle (with EBM). Refused until can go on hunger strike when I'm at work the whole day. No choice, I just harden my heart and only latch him when i reach home, never rush home specially for him. and he still give me dirty looks when i'm latchng him!
Regarding the suckling problem, the lactation consultant and nurses at Thomson Medical Center did warn me about it and told me not to let him suckle when he falls asleep. they taught me to tickle his cheek/ear whenever he seems like going to fall asleep. and if he really sleep despite tickling him, just unlatch him and let him cry until he wake up then continue latch him. and they also told me to latch 15min per side and that's it. no more suckling till the next feed. if he's really hungry in between then give him EBM so that he'll associate sucking with milk feed. As such, my son does not suck for comfort, he has never seen a pacifier and he seeks comfort by other means like us singing/talking to him or visual stimulation (colourful toys, make faces at him, dance around like a clown).
I think all breastfeeding mothers should go to a lactation consultant or get a friend who is experienced with breastfeeding for help even if you tink there's no problem. the 'pitfalls' can seem very tiring but if you are adequately prepared, it can be solved i was also very lost and paiseh to disturb my friend who is an experienced mummy, so i resorted to heading down to Thomson Medical Center to visit the lactation consultant. did not regret going there as i learnt alot of breastfeeding shortcuts to make my BF career a breeze. they taught me how to BF while lying down (so i can still nap/sleep while BF at night), how to pump properly so i can get the maximum quantity from my breasts, how to pacify my boy without giving him my breasts, how to tackle other baby problems also (colick, endless crying, etc etc).
and yes, Thomson Medical Center's Mrs. Wong can be quite arrogant, if you dont like her, can go to other hospitals like Mt A or Kandang Kerbau Hospital, they have good lactation consultants there too