here's a reply written by BlueChin on another forum.
When Janelle was under 2 weeks old, i too was worried that Javier would knock or even smash her. :roll:
I will latch on either one of the kids first depends on who is more demanding. Also, try to have pillows around the house so you can make yourself comfortable or adjust the kids accordingly.
These are some of the positions that I'm comfortable with. Very Happy
1) Football cradle
I will cradle the newborn and the toddler will get into the football position. At times we do the opposite.
2) Newborn football with toddler
The newborn will be in football position while the toddler standing, sitting or lying in whatever positons he likes.
3) Double Football
Both kiddos in football position.
I will nurse the newborn side lying while the toddler nurses the top breasts while lying lengthwise on my body or lie just on the top of my side.
5) The "very" or Double Cradle Hold
Both kiddos in cradle position forming a "very" with their bodies.
6) Pop Over
I will nurse the newborn side lying while the toddler bends over to nurse my upper breasts from behind.
7) Knees Up
I will sit with my knees up while positioning my newborn on my lap to nurse, then the toddler will nurse by my side.[/color]
8 ) Back Lying
The newborn on top of my body while the older one will nurse in whichever position he likes.
Actually I dont't have a favourite position, it will depend on which breast I feel is more full or which I want each child to drink, whether one is feeding when the other needs to drink and whether there are other people in close proximity.
When out, you can use the sling if you are uncomfortable BFIP. At times, my toddler will nurse at the side where the ring is while the baby nurses in the sling. Otherwise without a sling I will just nurse baby cradle hold and toddler standing when we are out.
You may also visit this site for more info on tandem nursing positions.
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For me, I like the kids to rotate breasts. Meaning I dont allocate a breast to each kid so that I can ensure there is a balance supply for both breasts.
Yes a toddler will help to stimulate let down faster than the newborn thus most tandem nursing mums never have to worry about supply. One of the advantages of tandem nursing is that your toddler can help to relieve your engorgement! There will also be times when the newborn will release from the breasts because she can't cope with the fast flow.
I find Tandem Nursing does reduce sibling rivalry! Many a times I see Javier stroking Janelle's face and even holding her hands. They will even look at each other's eyes while nursing and smiling. He will then tell me he loves his baby sister. :beatinglove: But do bear in mind that some emotional upheaval is common and natural when a toddler is getting used to the baby. Just bear with it and all these will just pass in no time.
Take things slowly and do not worry or get discouraged! I'm sure you can cope well soon!
Take care and rest whenever you can too!