If i am you, i will change the maid. In the past i am like you, compromise the maid coz of the kid. My last maid, she can took good care of baby and hsework. But she got attitude problem, when happy she sings, when angry she can show you black face. there is once i was so pissed off with her, i scolded her. Again she showed me her black face and she did not tidy up my room after my kid mess up the room. i kept asking myself why am i tolorenting her nonsense. And if i dont change her now, I will change after she complete her contract. That made me decide to change the maid.
Your maid is smart enuff to ask for request when your hubby not at home. She will keep asking you more things and give you headache if you continue to compromise her request.