$760 - For 2 weeks, Lunch & Dinner - 2 Dishes + 1 Soup, Complemementary Tea per meals
They have Monthly too.. I think is $1,320
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How much you paid for your confinement food?
$760 - For 2 weeks, Lunch & Dinner - 2 Dishes + 1 Soup, Complemementary Tea per meals
They have Monthly too.. I think is $1,320
Hi Maxbean.thanks for sharing your experience with us!you must be so pissed off with the CL .;( THESE iNEXPERIENCED CL are really terrible.I understand how you feel. I had a CL who stole from me!;(
Well, I couldn't get the highly recommended CL from my friends with price ranging from $1800-$2500 in Nov2007 due to the fact that during the year of pig, there are many people giving birth and the supply is not enough.
My sister told me to engage a maid to cook for me since it will always be the same dishes. My mother in law volenteer to take care of me and the baby with the help of the maid. So that we can save on the $1800 for the tonic instead. Well, it seem reasonable as I have heard quite alot of so-called professional CL ended up not professional at all. dont't be surprised you are actually paying the CL rate for a normal waitress to serve you. My sister encountered that when the CL she has reserve was stuck with other family and cannot come until 2 week later. She recommend her friend to take over who is actually a waitress and had no experience at all but is good in serving the guests who came to visit my sister!!! Ha... Ha...
Come to think about it, are these CL overcharging us for their service. Do they really worth the value and who can guarantee their service and how do they know what food is good for us. Is only after my delivery then I realised that not all people is suitable to eat ginger during confinement. It had to depend on the condition of your health during that period.
Oh well, there's always pros and cons i guess.
For my confinement, My sister In law did it for me, it was such a bad job, I tell you that I will pay for CL to do it for me the next time, no matter the price.
hmmm... mine was called zhu too. description fits her. but mine was ok. she ask mi what i prefer when i eat very little at 1st. i love her cooking. she would help mi do housework too. she will mop my floor everyday. she never watch tv but stay in the room and read when my daughter is sleeping. i'm the one who is always watching tv. in the evening or night i would ask her to join us to watch tv. she will go to the room if my girl wanna sleep. hmmm ...but 1 thing she never test temp. of the milk, she just feel the bottle temp.
she ask us to call her zhu aunty not other names.
does anyone of your confinement lady takes afternoon nap?
yes mine took nap coz she say she got to look after her in the night. i'm ok as long as she do and finish her job. sometimes i will look after and let her take nap for an hour or so.
dont't mind me but IMHO, $1,800 is a ridiculous waste of money. honestly speaking, i think fulltime CLs are not necessary. if a mother is willing, she can look after baby herself so that all she will need is the confinement food, which she can order through caterers.
i took care of my baby myself 90% of the time from day 1. to the point when my grandmother-in-law (who lives with dear husband family) was so unpleased because i refused to follow tradition first week must sit in bed, prop feet up on pillows, cannot walk cannot do anything bla bla bla
then baby leave to other people to take care. i dont't find logic in that at all. my water retention was greatly reduced by my confinement massage - & i was on my feet all day everyday. no issues. i have yet to reach my pre-pregnancy weight but i lost 20kg in my first week after delivery. no need to stay in bed & do nothing!!
think all mommies should think twice before hiring CLs - main reason being they are complete strangers looking after your precious newborn. second reason --> $1,800!! enough said!!
I also want to take care of my baby bcuz mother in law n Mother csnt br trusted. I know they will do funny things behind my back .
but being a first time preggy, how to ???
alone and no maid, can meh?
i got a confinement lady fr $1.5k... but actually i really reluctant to hire one cos its sooo expensive.. my one whole month pay!! still got to fork out for marketing... but my mum forced me to get and told me not to count on her... sigh!!! if my mum willing to cook fr me fr 2 weeks i will not hire one definitely..can save so much money!! but she very stuborn and insist i have one!!!!!
just curious. will one have time to do the confinement massage if
you're looking after your newborn by yourself?
cos my elder sister advised me that i'll be overwhelmed by the
things to do if i were to look after baby by myself.
hence, will not even have time for confinement massage. is it true?
i have a cl too... but i took care of baby 100% bathe feed change burp pacify..everything. my cl like dont really know how to take care of baby.. the other day i allowed her to bathe her n when i touched the water it was cold!!!!! my gosh!! my baby only 7 days old. then never clean her umblical cord, dont put yuyi oil for her. then sometimes see the diaper stain never bother change say still will poo some more... just leave it. then wipe my baby gal wipe from behind to front????!! really wanna faint.. after feeding sometimes i ask her burp for me... she like rub her back 10 secs my baby never burp then she put her down... thn my baby after few ms vomit out.
At night sleep same room with me n baby.... my baby wailing away... she's snoring away. Faint!! Cook also like cook normal food for me. Then cook go buy drumstick say cook for my hubby.. i was like no need cos my hubby dont like ginger.. then she said .. then dont put ginger.. i was like but you r suppose to cook for me and i need to eat ginger right?? Funny she always wanna buy food and cook fr my hubby n not me. then she got the nerves tell me you eat the vinegar pork from afternoon .
She sleeps from night to 7am undisturbed no need to wake up help... then baby clothes she hand wash few days thn put in the washing machine. her clothes also she put in with our clothes.. still got to hang keep n fold for her.
I've gt to soak my baby clohtes at night, wash them in morning. clean the house while baby sleeping.. mop the floor etc. while she sometimes naps.. sometimes when all done baby nap she say wanna go out for walk.. then i cannot rest.. got to jaga baby.
I really dont know what kind of confinement i'm having. Never boil anything for me to bathe in also... food also lousy! SIgh!!!
So if you r experienced in handling baby.. save the money!! i feel like i'm throwing money in the sea right now!
plus she can watch dvd for like 3-4hours a day till late. She did that for first week until the drama completed and we stopped allowing her to watch.
HI, as i realised that most did not mention the CL's name, therefore i'm worried that i happens to get one of them...as it's my 1st time getting one..previously 2 was done by my mum..
Perhapes i just mention her name, if it happens to be her, can let mi know? Cos i can't afford to get one such CL as i still got 2 younger ones n i got no helper to help mi out.
Her name is Mingzhu jie, recommend by Liqing jie.
finally i hve time to write as i bz looking after my baby. i had a bad exprience with CL. my relative recomended as she use her before. so i ok with that as is recomended. BUT!!! think few yrs later things r different. my relatives use her 3yr ago n last yr nov. when my relatives give birth, i went to her house to c the CL. n talk about how to go about it. my grandma call her at sept time, she say $1900. her name is hongjie frm malaysia. then when i n my grandma go to my relative's baby full month, she say $2000 n say when i give birth on the 1st dae, call her. b4hand, i told her my edd is dec 25th. but i had a induce on 21st n give birth on dec 21st emer c-section. then the 2nd dae, she call my relative that how cum i didnt call her. my grandma say 3rd dae call her as i hve c-section so cant so early go hm , n she can take care of me til 25th BUt! the hongjie say she the train full , cant com out, onli on the 29th then can cum out, she ask is it alrite. i say ok as my grandma can look after baby & me.
on 29th, hongjie was late. suppose to reach afternoon 2sumthing, hear my relative. thought sumthing happen to her when i watch the clock was 5sumthing. my relative help me call her n her son say the train was delayed( dont no truth anot). she reach my house 7pm. she say dont count that dae as she was late, she say start on 30th..she "look" ok when she reach immdiately help my grandma who cooking halfway. the next day, she bath for baby, fetch baby, cook food for me n my dad, n watch baby's clothes. she hang out baby colthes out, get strain on her back. my dad ask her want to c sinseh, she say dont need. she say is old ailment , got it frm my relative's car(give birth early nov) while carrying baby get hurt. i give her master bedroom as she say i 1st time mum so she mus sleep with baby. my dad dont sleep masterbedroom. she say the bed soft. the bed nobody sleep there as my mum dont stay there . she say just need a hard board to lay sitting position can , she dont want lie down. my grandma scare she cant squat dwon to bath baby so volunter to bath my baby. i n my dad ask her to rest awhile n my dad say he can mop the floor n wash plate. at nite, she watch tv, ask my grandma buy ingredient that i can not eat (cool food). she say her backache, so my grandma help out abit. my dad told me, in the day he saw hongjie feeding baby while her eyes closing, oh my god! then at nite i wake up to c my baby n her feeding baby. she didnt even stir properly the formula. i daytime pump put breastfeed, nite time formula. then 3dae, my grandms cook sumithing to relive her back. my grandma cook while she watching tv n sitting down. my dad bring her to sinseh. as she get injure at my dad house, my dad feel bad. my dad came back told me that the sinseh say is not she kana strain on her back while hanging baby colthes. is old injury n she never take care of her health n got wind. the sinseh veri good, alot of ppl go c, the shop at west coast. i saw she bring alot of pills n medicine. after c sinseh, she feel better. she bauy zi dong, at nite she feed baby ask me or dad to carry baby to the room n handover to her, she wil put baby to sleep. she didnt wash baby clothes. mine just 2daes then change. my relatives or frez cum, she sit at the sofa in the living room or inside the bedroom. the 4th dae, my dad lend his matress to her sleep on the masterbedroom matress, as she complain soft low bed. she fussy , check my dad's matress got 1 area soft as sleep that part too long. she change the position of the matress alot of times, n lastly dont sleep let baby sleep that matress. on the 4th dae, she cant tahan , as she didnt sleep on the bedroom using lying position, she go to the living room's sofa n sleep. then what about my baby??? she say she need to sleep with the baby...but she go to the sofa. ARGH!!! i ven got ask her on the 3rd dae, want to sleep on my single bed..she say what about the baby. nvm, she sleep on sofa, baby cry she didnt go n attend her. i was 1st to reach baby. all the room's door was open, never close. summore, when baby cry for milk during nite time, she go toilet veri long then make milk. she shld attend baby. if cant ,can tell me, i can make milk. i n my dad veri easy goin person. i told my dad n my relative(recomend the CL to me) that, CL just can take care of baby n me can , doesnt need to cook good n nice food n can rest for 1-2hrs. at nite, told her go n rest as she need to look after baby after midnite, but she just ignore me n watch tv. lastly, i cant TAHAN her anymore when the 5th dae, she let my baby cry with tears out, n didnt attend him. she is the last 1 to wake up. i know my baby cry , just want to know she got go attend him. lastly, i told my dad, she need to go, got her or no her is the same as my grandma cook n wash baby clothe n bath baby, n midnite me n dad wake up to c baby got taken care anot. on that 7th dae morning, my dad bring her to sinseh again as she complain back ache. then go hm, cant wrk anymore.ok, since she say out then good. my dad told me that after sinseh he told her to go hm , but before my dad say, she say 1st. that dae, my grandma not at my house, frm the 1st dae the CL came, my grandma got cum over n help. she told me this 1week, dont need count $$ ,just give her red packet as she say she didnt do much, n along is my grandma do alot. i qing cai, i pack 5dae wrk $$ in the red packet. as i say that it! before she go back, she give $50 to my sister( who was blind) as she say my dad veri kind, bring her to c sinseh. wun hire her again. my grandma came back the next day, say me why give her the 5 daes $$, just give abit $ inside red packet. i say qing cai, we do sui xui dont want let ppl say we do bad thing to her n she cant anyhow say bad thing, as we r good to her. my relative paisey as she recomended the CL. THINK THE CL CANT DO ANYMORE AS SHE GETTING OLDER plus taking care baby at nite want , veri xiong ..need alot time to rest n not just want $$$ to get business every month. can not every month, do confinement . SO PLS MUMMY TO BE, dont HIRE THIS CL, hongjie !!!
Name: Auntie Helen
I was damn suay with this situation. I didn't realise that I had to look for a confinement nanny months before my due date So I left mine at the last 2months.
This lady is 60yrs old and what i dislike the most was:
1) Always always nag at me to eat. I was breastfeeding and how can I eat? She kept saying that she can help me feed but I told her before we started that I will want to breastfeed.
2) cooking was terrible! So much onions, and she didn't know how to vary the menu! I spent a good 2weeks eating the same dishes for lunch and dinner!
3)Whenever I breastfeed, kept telling me I dont't have enough milk have to top up with FM. I was so so fed up that I told her its me who is BF I just need to feed more often and she shut up after that.
4)Suppose to help with cleaning the floor and mopping. Never did. Found her sleeping in my living room. Thank goodness I dont't have SCV.
5)Very very slow.I guess its due to her age. But I rather she be honest and tell me that she cnnot be fast.
6) Left my kitchen stove with black marks. My mom complain to me till the sky fell.
When I have my 2nd baby, I think I will engage a maid and then get catering..better still!
My CL, Caifeng or Feng-jie, was perfect - good cooking, competent with baby, pleasant, young (40+)... BUT she stole stuff from me. My boy's clothings and some other stuff, coz her daughter was expecting a baby too. She betrayed our trust in her which is a great pity coz she was really sooooo good.
Ladies, I had my share on confinement ladies too! i think first thing it that we need to be clear about ground rules before even hiring these people. Also let them know we want things to be done when we want to n not when they want to just because they want to finish their work asap! Most importantly stress tht you want to breast feed and if she can't accept this then dont't take on the job and you dont't want to hear a word of negativity in breastfeeding. Well that is what i have learnt from my confinement period. I made her sit down on her third week of employment and scolded her till she had to cry the entire day!
Not recommended: Hao Jie
Nationality: Malaysian (from JB)
I had bad experience with this confinement nanny so please beware. Plus my baby boy is a special needs baby (cerebral palsy from brain damage) and she didn't take good care of him. I initially contacted Auntie Lian, a confinement nanny who seems very popular in the motherhood forums ... she in turn recommended hao jie, saying she's capable & all. Later I found out that Auntie Lian took commission from hao jie for recommending her ($200 out of the $1900 we paid hao jie).
1. Found hao jie to be 'chor loh' / rough with my baby. My baby, coz of his brain damage & cerebral palsy, suffers from hyper tone (excessively stiff muscles). Yet she would anyhow bend his limbs forcibly so that she could bathe, clothe him etc. Our physio therapish, after observing her, cautioned me against her.
2. TV addict ... she was glued to the TV day & night, even when feeding baby, her eyes would be on the TV, not my boy.
3. She constantly passed insensitive, yaya comments at me to show off her 'capabalities' while undermining my confidence as new, 1st-time mummy. Eg: that my baby always cries when I carry him whereas he doesn't when she carries him ... that I dont't know how to do this & that in terms of babycare ... duh, if I know, I wouldn't be a 1st-time mummy or would want to hire her.
4. Snide gossip ... I later found out she was gossiping about me to my mother-in-law behind my back while doing the same to my mother in law to me behind her back. What on earth does she get out of sowing discord? At the same time, she curried favour with mother in law until in laws wanted to hire her long-term to look after baby when I return to work.
5. Very thick-skinned esp in asking for things. On her 1st day, before she even started work, she checked out things in my baby's room and asked for unused milk bottles for her grandkids. She constantly went thru' things in the house and asked us for things that we no longer use.
6. Unreliable - at times I found her talking away on her handphone while leaving my baby to cry & fuss on his bed.
In the end, we fired her and I took extended leave to become stay at home mum with help & support of my mum.
I mentioned it in my post ... she was recommended by a popular confinement nanny.
No worries, it's ok. I thought CL would be ok since recommended by this popular CL. Little did I know she was eyeing the commission she could earn from her recommendation.
anyone have bad experience with confinement agency? Due in DEC, not sure whether to get from forum recomend or thur agency? Anyone use CL from Thomson Medical Center?