so far i never ha experinence it, but hopefully not when time i will search.
This is a discussion on Any bad experience with confinement ladies? within the Domestic Helper, Nanny and Confinement Lady forum, part of the You and Your Family category; When i can read your post, it can also irritate, but so far i never been experiencing those any bad ...
When i can read your post, it can also irritate, but so far i never been experiencing those any bad experience, hopefully i dont't get a bad confinement lady when i'm doing my confinement later.
so far i never ha experinence it, but hopefully not when time i will search.
So far i didn't encounter, hopefully will not happen in my case.
Would like to share my bad experience with this Msia CL who claimed to be very experienced..
Her name is San (Lim Pei Shan) and even have facebook account. Age 42.
Basically she's lazy. Braggart and horrible. Here is my nightmare..
First few days appear to be fine but demanded us to change our wok, buy slow cooker and various household items for her convenience.
The food she cooks quite salty..loves to add dark soy sauce according to her taste.
when I asked her whether I can eat food with dark soy sauce since I'm c sect, she replied, only your hubby will see your wound so need to heal nicely for what,,?.
Since I'm bf, told her to reduce ginger and alcohol but she's not happy
insisted I eat the traditional chinese medicine pills she bought to reduce wind but I checked with EYS it's not bf safe!
Lazy to go grocery shopping even though the market is 1 bus stop away.. When I asked her why no veg for dinner she just simply reply no more veg, ask your husband to buy on his way home..
Boiled herbal bath at her convenience and gave me cold pail of the water to bath, asked me to add hot water on my own!
Watch TV all day long and use her phone entire day even when feeding baby..
No patience in feeding baby, when baby stopped drinking, she stopped feeding and talked on phone.
Despite me telling her to feed ebm at night, she gave baby fm and insisted my baby sleeps better with fm at night!
Doesn't burp the baby well so baby couldn't sleep well and she put the baby in rocker to sleep at night so she can sleep better herself!
caught her lazy act, put milk bottle on a pillow and fed baby in rocker while she continue sleeping!
Asked time off to collect deposit from other mothers and to go shopping!
did not help clean the toilets and the floor!
despite asking her to hang dry the clothes, she still use the dryer everyday!
And the most ridiculous thing she did was to let my baby hear Buddhist song when he's crying! She tells me baby kept crying at certain time at night..might have "dirty things" possess.. Doesn't she know what is colic is she's so experience as she said?
Oh, so bad experience, hopefully not happen again
Dear mummies, I am still in my confinement now and the above confinement nanny is so irresponsible.
I had given birth at 35th week, which is around 4 weeks ahead of my EDD, where my original confinement lady was not able to make it as is too last minute and ahead of her schedule. This is total understandable and she intro and confirm for me CL Jin Feng.
Prior she came over SG and my hubby had request a list of items what we need to prepare so to minimize the number of hiccups. We had bought most of items like usual stuffs like wine and lotsa of ginger etc..
The moment she came over, say all the stuffs are not up to her standard and for example she need is 文冬姜 (bentong ginger) and i heard that is not easy to find in SG; most of the ginger in market my hubby visited came from Indonesia. She start her criticize saying very not pleasing words, like like that if I not able to 'release' those gas is not her fault and we are at fault as not able to provide those equipment. This is only of the 1 'interesting' story.
I was thinking that as long she can help us and our baby during this 28 days, we can endure and try our best to fulfill her request. But today (9 Aug 14) which is only 19th days of my confinement, she just came over to me saying that she not feeling well and she need to go back. Without allowing me to response she went back to her room and packed her bag, this really caught us unprepared. We even offer her to bring her to doctor and ask her to rest and etc. But she insisted where we no choice and my hubby rush out to withdraw $$$ to pay for her services.
The most angry part, the moment she got the $$$ and ang bao, her 'acting' gone and it seem she is cured. This is total so irresponsible and at the very last minute the entire family was rushing like mad and at some point we totally clueless.
Hope this lesson learnt by us, can serve as a warning to all.
Her details as follows:
MY Mobile: +60 17 360 8432 SG Mobile: 91561543
If can, better engage a confinement by word of mouth...that's my advice.
Last edited by japheth's mum; 16-10-2014 at 05:23 PM.
I would like to share my awful experience with a CL I had engaged. Her name is CHUN LAN (90381368) and she is a malaysian. If you have engaged her and would like to know my review, pm me.
She had a very bad cough when arrived and we were so worried she might spread to my baby, we had to get her mask and pay for her medical fee! (Dear mummies, my advice is dont’t accept the CL if she fell sick on the 1st day of work cos you know she will not recover without a good rest and you have to take her to the doc. In the end is not the CL taking care of the baby but yourself cos you won’t want the deadly virus to pass on to your baby)
- She is extremely MONEY-MINDED cos On the 2nd day of her arrival, she is so determined to "push" her MLM Products (ELKEN) to me (i have engaged a "sales lady" into my house). Promoting endlessly the slimming costume that cost more than her salary (she is charging $2.5k sgd fyi), promoting collagen, supplements etc....i am freaking pissed off with her behavior. She will persuade you endlessly to spend your salary during maternity on those useless MLM products! SHE HAS THICK CROCODILE SKIN. Many times I have to brush her off. i feel like giving her a bloody tight slap!! Cant she understand that mothers after giving birth need a proper good rest??
- Her style of cooking bored me after the 1st week of confinement - every day r repeated dishes. Fish/ chicken/ pork is always the same style & sauce, gave her different vegetables yet still can cook the same style.
- She doesn't bath my baby properly - many times when i check out my baby, i noticed there is ear's shit. But i kept quiet believing she might missed out and so i check on baby out the next day still finding the ear's shit there!. i also noticed that when my baby puke milk onto her clothing, she paid no attention to change her into new clothing, i have to tell her to do it. And because of her NEGLIGENCE to clean up my baby's mouth every feed/ spit milk, her cheek area developed milk rashes and we have to bring baby to see a pediatrician.
- She has insufficient knowledge on what a confinement mummy can eat or can't.
- Giving out her bloody name cards- On the day of my baby's shower, we invited our friends and relatives, she went around giving out name cards...i was like...WTH!!! when she see one of my husband's friend who is pregnant, she got so excited and wanted us to intro her to let her do confinement. When my friend visited me, she will give out name cards too.
-She asked to be paid till the 28th day of the confinement however she bloody hell went off at 10.00am!!! (yes you see correctly..is 10AM in the early morning!) This really pissed me off completely.
- She is very aggressive in telling me and also TEACHING ME how to write good comments about her in the forum AND im so turned off by her fr then. In another day or 2, she came pestering me again to write for her...on & on endlessly…
-Because of some issues we had to extend this bitch to help out, so she requested us to apply the extension and so we did for her (we even pay for the application). During the approval duration, everyday she is so naggy and pestering chasing me for the application status and hardcopy of permit BECAUSE she is afraid she will have to pay for the fine at checkpoint is without the proper document. Frankly, I regret extending her.
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Last edited by AnonymousMummy; 16-01-2015 at 08:51 AM.
hello, mummies, why some CL agree on something in the begining, say, can do this, do that, very experience but when
in actual doing work for us, difference, suddenly need additional charges then only do for us.
mine sometmes need to remind her, prepared for me, not she remind me.
do you all mummies experience this kind CL too ?
Hi all, first of all, I am a daddy, not a mommy. And I registered today just to give my feedback on this confinement nanny as my experience with her was unpleasant enough for me to spend time doing this. The nanny is Auntie Mei Ling from JB.
To put things straight, i have no complaints about how she took care of my baby girl. As far as i can tell, she did an ok job and her cooking is fine. She is generally easy to get along with at first. But what really got me riled up is that she had alot of personal issues and kept asking for "permission" to go out.
Her exact reasons are:
(A) Son's customer house undergoing renovation. need to go help settle stuff
(B) Meeting a potential client
(C) Daughter in law stuck at custom, need to save her
(D) Need to see a doc who is in SG for only a week
(E) Need to re-visit the same doc who is leaving SG soon
(F) Pass money to daughter for CNY
(G) 3 days to attend her relative's wake
In all, she asked to go out 7 occasions in 7 weeks with us. When she came back after the wake, she said that she had sprained her leg and may not be safe to carry my baby around. So we proposed for her to go over to my mum's place during the day just for a couple days so my mum and maid will be around to help. And her response was that she would rather leave the job if she had to go over. That was it for me and I told her to leave immediately as I dont't think I can trust her with my baby when she showed this type of attitude. I did a check online and realized that there was another similar feedback about her way back in 2010 in this same forum.
So I guess if you are able to tolerate her behaviour, or if you could manage her better than i did, then she is fine. But if you are a first time mother who needs a lot of help from the nanny then you may want to reconsider. Personally, I couldnt say no to her requests as I had to entrust her with my baby but things got so bad that I rather cancel my plans and tell her to leave. I have my suspicion on what she is actually doing on those "off days" but i rather not speculate here.
Her details - Confinement Nanny Mei Ling / Meiling
May I ask if anyone has any good or bad experience with this confinement lady called Fang Jie? Her mal hp ends with 95678. I am looking at hiring her soon.Can't find much comment about her so far. THere is another Fang jie with another hp no that i have found. I assume it's different person. Thanks for sharing in advance
Hi, I know 1 confinement lady called Angelin (Feng Jie) through a facebook forum mum who intro her to me few days ago. I intend to deliver baby during CNY period via C-sect.
And when I contacted Feng Jie via her WhatsApp, I had a tremendous shock that she charges $6000 (includes start work ang bao $100, stop work ang bao $100......but EXCLUDES CNY ang bao etc) to work during CNY period. Her usual rate is actually $3000 (includes start work ang bao $100 & stop work ang bao $100 etc). So she will charge double to work during CNY period. She is the most expensive nanny I have asked around recently.
Most importantly, I dont't know much about her service and attitude though the facebook forum mum highly recommended her to me. But I am still worried even if I am willing to $6000 yet Feng Jie is unable to deliver or render her service, then all my $$$ will be wasted.....AND worst case, I dont't have a confinement lady to help me during this difficulty times.
Last edited by Berriesweet; 07-10-2016 at 06:07 PM.