For me I give my indo helper a schedule n she follow closely. As long as my son is well taken care of the rest like housework, I close 1 eye. If your helper is good she will find ways to bond with your son. It tk times for them to bond. I have CCTV at home to monitor. I expressed my expectation and house rules to her plainly. So far she is so good. Just hope it last. As for honesty, it tk time to judge.