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This is a discussion on maid look after baby within the Domestic Helper, Nanny and Confinement Lady forum, part of the You and Your Family category; Hi all, need your opinion on this. My baby is just 3months old and my parents in law are hiring ...
Hi all, need your opinion on this. My baby is just 3months old and my parents in law are hiring a maid to help take care of my baby when i go back to work. My parents in law due to old age and cancer are unable to care for baby for the whole day. So maid will definitely carry & feed my baby . I dont trust maid cos one knock can be very serious for baby. Somemore under one uear old chance of sudden deathbsybdrome is there. Thot of bringing baby to my mum who can take care whole day.
Maybe only when baby is 2 years old then is safer? What do you think? thanks
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is good that if someone trustable help you to take care of your baby loh...but have to see whether your male site agree or not..
Of cos you mom!!!! If she has the time and ability to take care. Have your maid to help out in terms of housechores.
Yes my mum can take care. I shift back home after my confinement at mother in law place. My house is not ready yet. Problem is my mother in law keep asking me when i go back to work and told me maid coming soon whenever we go back on weekends. I think she wants to take care of baby when maid comes. So frustrating! Cos she is the type who thinks she is correct. Like when she carries my baby she will remove ALL the mittens and booties ! I wanted to scold her actually but i cant. I already told her baby fingernails very long , might scratch her face! And she might catch a cold! These little things that she does when i am not looking really irritate me to the max.
My husband also very poor thing. He also wary of maid taking care of baby and knows his mum cant take care whole day cos of cancer. But very hard for him to put it across to her. sigh. Pray very hard when the maid comes she will not push her luck and request my baby come back and stay from mon- fri. I dont wise to quarrel with my husband over this . Sian have a baby suppose to be very happy by rite. Why some mother in law are so irritating and want to meddle in our life?
Hi Anniston, thanks for sharing. Given my mother in law character ( cannot do still say can do) and her medical condition i am just afraid something will happen to my baby if she is in her care. If she has more self awareness and dont act as a supervisor ( like baby clean tongue already or not., have you bathe yet? ) , then things will be better actually. I have learnt that if i give in, she will push her luck further and be more demanding. I really hate to be supervised and having to answer her endless questions even while i am breastfeeding. She has not breastfeed before so she would come into the room and see for a while. I just want to enjoy my maternity days but i am still irritated whenever she opens her mouth to ask this ask that.
why not put in infant care?
I dont't want or trust maid to look after my baby as a result I have to send my baby to my hometown for about 2 months coz the infant care just got HFMD. My mom has to cook confinement food for my youngest sister. mother in law has to take care her dad.
Better your mom to take care your baby.
As for mother in law, you may suggest to her to take care during weekend while both of you around.
Yes finally settled after i remained firm in my decision. My mum will be taking care of my baby. I only bring her to my mother in law place on sat evening till sun afternoon when my husband is around. i learnt that we have to anticipate what parent in law will say and prepare such that there is no way they can find fault and use that as excuses to take care of baby. And have to remain assertive and not give in to them. As the saying goes, pple treat us the way we allow them to.