If you are looking for a good confinement lady out there. Pls be aware that not all posting you find in the forum are true experience or geniune referals. Some of them are just ads place up by the CL friends or relatives in Singapore. I only came to find out after i link up with a few mummys on the forum who have also fell in the same posting! I learn from lesson and i wish to share some info with you. Firstly, pls becareful of the following CL that i have come across. Pls look out for the following CL if you ever see them on the forum;
1) Auntie Yue Fen (JB-Kluang)
- Highly recommended in Mummy Sg and some other forums. Refered by a lady called Sarina. She made similar posting everywhere on a few forum. Generic posting word-forword and i should have suspected something. But I was so convince of the posting and i booked her service at S$2,000 in Nov 2010 and after that she switch off her phone and remain uncontactable. Until 1 month before my EDD in Feb 2011 then she picks up and says she has accepted another job and cannot rememeber me as well. She then asked if i want to pay her higher than S$2000. Of course i drop her service immediately.
2) Auntie Gui Qin (JB-Muar)
Also highly recommended on a few forum. I Enagage her service 1 month before EDD and she asked for $200 Deposit and i paid $100 cash instead. 2 weeks before my EDD she called and say she need some urgent operation and cannot work. She also cannot refund my deposit and she will ask her friend to stand in. Otherwise, the refund she will keep. No choice, i took her friend, which is the next CL.
3) Auntie Bao Lian (JB-Muar)
No knowledge of anything except old school child raising, lazy and stuck-up. Handle baby poorly. cannot cook much and is also not hygiene at all. Never use all Philips Avent products before and is very forceful with infants. We have to monitor and guide her every day and each time baby cries. Lond story short, cannot make it at all. One incident, my son nearly suffocated at nite due to her carelessness.
Pls do not hesistate to screen a few more CL if you find an posting on a confinement lady too good to be true. No offence to anyone, but it may be just another spam advertisement by the CL relative or friend pose as a forum user.
a) Do not hand out any deposit to any CL if you are unsure. If really have to, give them a post dated cheque so it is only valid after that. There is NO GAURANTEE that even the best CL will turn up! It should still be a mutual trust since there is no written agreement. So why trap yourself to a possible situation of non-refunadable deposit?
b) Be suspicious of a spam ad if you find similar posting word for word about a CL on the forum. Who is so free to post similar ads on each and every forum, except spamers!
c) Never be too afriad to ask the CL how to cook or test their knowledge based on today's child care information. If they refuse to answer you, they may be just complacent CL which you will have a hard time in return.
d) Do not hesistate to terminate their services if you find them unacceptable after 2 weeks, your child is at stake. There is always a confinement agency or day time agency.
e) Never fall for price war if your CL tells you that people offer them higher and hinted you to do so. You can always say someone offered you lower as well.
Last but not least, try to have your in-law or someone elder in the house with the CL and you. The CL will not try to pull a fast one on you, especially if this is your first child.
Good luck to all!